- 5 years ago
I’m rather sad and need a litle help so I joined this board.
We have been together for nearly 8 years. We went through many years of serious poverty (like wondering how many loafs of bread we can afford until the end of the month kind of thing). We went through a lot.
We kept dreaming of this amazing holiday we would take when we finally finish our studies, get jobs that give a decent pay, and have holiday time. That’s now a reality since last year and we booked it months ago and prepared it for ages. Kind of like that animated movie, Up, except while I always get sad thinking about it we managed to stay focused on making it happen and it’s happening.
I don’t think it’s expecting too much to think after all this and him saying he loves me every day to think that maybe I’ll have a dream proposal during that holiday. In the past also, I’ve told him when our life is stable is when I’ll be ready for him to propose.
A couple of weeks ago he said he was going on a ‘secret mission’ to help his friend and he couldn’t tell me about it. I didn’t ask more, I always respect his privacy and have never breached it once in 8 years.
Today was that day. He came back earlier and suddenly tells me all about how his friend is proposing to his girlfirend and they went to pick a ring and he couldn’t tell me while I was hanging out with his friend’s gf. I told him that’s great and then he went back out with his friends.
But I’m crushed. I haven’t stopped crying all evening. He can;t be real with this because:
– he either told me a lie and the ring is for me and he’s an idiot for blowing the surprise but I can forgive that if the proposal is good
– he has no intentions to propose and I’m really really sad and need to think if I’m wasting my time (8 YEARS)
– he intends to propose at the same time to me as his best friend to his gf except each on a different holiday. And that would make me so angry I don’t think I could control what I will then say to him
I needed to get that out, I feel trapped with a rubbish situation I hate. I’m really not going to enjoy my holiday the same now.
I need a sanity check – what are your thoughts?