Post # 1
So, I was just looking at Miss Cinnamon Buns post on Ribbon Wands, and I love the idea!
The problem is, as of right now, we weren’t really planning on doing a “send off”.
Here are the reasons:
- *MOST* of the weddings I have been to did the send-off between the ceremony and the reception, as the bride and groom left the church. Our ceremony is outside in a garden, however, and we will be hanging around after the ceremony to get the “together” pictures. I didn’t really expect guests to hang out until we were done getting pictures, and though I know some will, it seems strange to me to plan a send-off and then expect people to wait around outside for it.
- Our ceremony venue has strict restrictions on send-off items. No rice (it kills birds), no birdseed (it promotes weed growth), no confetti, no sparklers…. Lots of things we can’t have. I don’t feel attached to bubbles, and that seemed like the only option, so I was planning to skip it until I saw the ribbon wand idea.
- Photography: My photographer (who is a close friend) mentioned the idea of doing a send-off after the reception, but she brought it up because she was pointing out that I could get pictures of the girls getting ready without paying for more hours if I cut out the last hour of the reception, but that it wouldn’t work if I wanted to do a send-off after the reception. I’ve never really seen a send-off after the reception anyway, so I was totally cool with her reasoning.
So, I’m wondering what other bees have experienced/done for their weddings. Did you do a send off between the ceremony and reception, or after the reception? Also, if you did them in between, did people wait while you got pictures?
Post # 3
i’m in the same boat you are. the Church has rules about everything but not sure what to do with the time in between pictures and the send off. i’m meeting with my wedding planner this weekend and hopefully she gives me some great ideas on how to handle it. I will share her advice when i get it. good luck in the meantime!
Post # 4
We did our send off after our reception….all of our guests walked down to the dock where our boat waited for us and we got in our boat while our guests waved sparklers and cheered for us as we rode away!It was one of my favorite parts of the night
Post # 5
@PitBulLover: Ooh! That’s so pretty!
Our reception venue is an old masonic temple turned arts center in the middle of downtown, so there really isn’t any fancy way to do a send off other than to do it out back behind the building- the parking lot isn’t even on the pretty side of the building!
I had considered (if we did one after the reception) doing it in the front of the building and then walking around to the back to get into the car, but I’m not terribly attached to the idea.
Post # 6
@tinylittlebird: Thank you!
I love the ribbon wand idea and I think it would be really cute if people did it at the end of your reception. Even just for the fun of having your guests cheer you on and say goodbye to you!
Post # 7
We did our “send off” after the ceremony and before the pictures. We chose to do bubbles, but here’s a few shots of it:
Right after that we gathered everyone that was at our ceremony for a formal shot of everyone:
And from there went on to all the rest of the formal shots. 🙂
Post # 8
We did our send-off after the church ceremony and then we did pictures after the send-off (although we’d done the bulk of them before the ceremony – we had a first look).
Of the weddings I’ve attended, it’s been pretty 50/50 of doing the send-off after the ceremony versus after the reception so I don’t think anyone will find it strange or out of place no matter when you decide to do it!
Post # 9
I’ve always seen the send off done at the end of the reception. At the same time, not every wedding has one and that is perfectly ok, and most guests are fine with that too. If you weren’t planning to have one to begin with and your venue has restrictions against it, it’s fine to skip it since it is not a mandatory thing.
Post # 10
@tinylittlebird: I know how you feel!! I really wanted a send off after the reception but didnt want to leave early!! (I even contemplated doing a fake one and then going back in the building but i just thought that was silly!!). I have been to millions of weddings (literally) and have never seen a send off in my time. The first time i really saw one was on wedding bee.
I guess we did one after the ceremony, we walked out and then collected everyone to do a group shot…you could do the same with the wands then?!!
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Post # 11
i’m with you – i have no clue what to do. our church does not allow recieving lines so after the ceremony is out – after the reception is possible, we are staying at the hotel we are having the reception though so we would just drive around for a minute and come back. i really want to hang out with people after the reception too – im hoping everyone will head to the hotel bar.
but i made my ribbon wands already haha
Post # 12
We’re considering ribbon wands for the end of the ceremony when we’re pronounced Husband and Wife. It’s not really a sendoff, but it’s the most logical place I could think to use them. We’re doing most of our pictures before the wedding, but are planning on staying at the venue for family shots after, so it would be weird to have a send off and then go hide and come back. We’re also thinking of doing a receiving line after the ceremony so we’ll make sure we said hello to everyone. Blah that was a lot of information lol sorry.
Post # 13
@emilygrace07: I like it! You’re such a genius!
That totally makes sense, I think- have a joyful thing right at the end of the ceremony, then gather everybody for group pictures, then send everyone off to enjoy pre-dinner reception fun while we get our formal pictures (we’re not doing a first look, unfortunately. I like the idea, but Fiance is a traditionalist and seeing me for the first time when I’m coming down the aisle is really the only thing that’s important to him!)
So, I think that pretty well settles things. Make a bunch of pretty ribbon wands for people to wave as we’re pronounced man an wife 🙂
Post # 14
So, just a quickie update on this.
After my revelation of awesomeness thanks to emilygrace07, I immediately decided to text my best friend, who is also my Maid/Matron of Honor and the one person who I constantly bounce ideas off of. She has an amazing knack for helping me with my ideas, and letting me know if they’re cool or not.
This is how the conversation went:
Me: “I think I want to make ribbon wands for the wedding that people can wave when we’re pronounced man and wife… cute or silly?”
Best Lady Ever: Perfect! idk if I’ve ever told you, i had a pretty serious ribbon dancer addiction in my childhood. I went to rehab. Please let me fall off the wagon @ your wedding!”
She is the best Maid/Matron of Honor ever.
Post # 15
First, we were going to do bubbles. Then I saw a great idea of letting go of balloons after the ceremony as we exit the church. After realizing that it would be hard to everyone to release 200 balloons at the same time, we decided to do bells.