- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
I just found out yesterday that my brother and his girlfriend are planning on getting engaged next month. They already sat down with her parents last week and they said yes and last night they had a talk to get my parents blessing. I feel bad because I know that my mom gave my brother and his girlfriend a “counterproposal” that they finish their associates before they get married. (My brother is 20 and his girlfriend is 19) and that really hurt my brother’s feelings. She always plays the devils advocate to everything and is both shocked and surprised by the suggestion that they want to get married. I’m sure my mom is freaking out because she might think that my brother would like help with the funds for the wedding and that both of us are so young but if they think they can make it I think they can.
I know my brother loves her more than everything on this earth so I know he will take as good of care of her as he can. She is a sweetheart and while they still have maturing to do all I can do right now is wish them the best of luck. I know that if they feel this is the right timing, it must be. They’ve been together for a long time (over three years) and I can just hope that he will not resent having not seen the world before getting married. (They are thinking the spring or summer of next year).
I think I’m also super proud of my brother. He always struggles with the approval of my parents. Even though he is old enough to know he can make his own decisions, he still needs our parents approval for everything (or he won’t do it). This has been the source of much angst between us because he has done everything the “right” way and I’m way more independent. I think he’s struggling because my mom said “not right now” and he’s thinking of going ahead and doing it anyways. I told him to do what he thinks is best….it’s almost the biggest life decision they’ll have to make.