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Our invite list was 250 cut off there....I would say that is an average size wedding. I consider 150 to be smaller, but i suppose it depends on your area of where you live. But 200-250 is not a large wedding by any means! Congrats!
I agree - 200 - 250 isn't THAT huge at all. To be quite honest, I always thought I would have a wedding about that size, but turns out it'll only be about 125 - 150. People have asked before about how many people, and I say oh fairly small only about 125 and their eyes bug out (apparently 125 isn't small?). People. Go Figure.
-Bella
Ugh I get so sick of naysayers and/or people that ask you questions and then ridicule your decisions!! Good for you for having a wedding size that makes you happy, whatever size that may be. I tell people we'd like ours to be around 100 and they say wow that's so small! But I've been to plenty that are larger than that; it's all about the preference of the bride and groom.
I read somewhere that the best way to deal with a question you don't want to answer is to smily sweetly and say "Why do you want to know?" Maybe that will get those folks off your back :o)
I agree. Mine started out as a small wedding and has ended up in the medium size category (200), but that is no one else's business! I can't believe people judge based on wedding size!
I will say this though: even though it's each bride's decision on what size wedding to have, I have been to at least one where the wedding was a great number of guests but they ran out of food--because they decided to underestimate the number to save money, couldn't think of cutting the guest list down from 425, and come to find out later, it's all because the bride wanted more gifts! So I think some people might judge size of a wedding based on this kind of comparison.
You are not a freak. I can easily see how a wedding would get that big, and quick. Our wedding isn't going to be that big, but only because his side of the family can't/won't come. (It's a visa/don't like to travel around the world thing. It sucks, but I'm dealing.) At last count, we're inviting almost 150 of my family, our friends, and my parents friends. If we included his family and his parent's friends, it could easily reach the 225 range. (He has 7 brothers and sisters and about 100 first cousins!) I think that if that's how many people you have in your life who you want to be there, then consider yourself lucky that that many people love and support the two of you. Congratulations!
To me that is a huge wedding lol but FH and I are planning like 50 people so that's probably way!
In general I don't think it is THAT huge. My brothers wedding has a guest list of about 250-300 people so it's right in that same range as yours. I wouldn't worry about it. Everyone has their own opinion about every little detail of your wedding. The guest list is no exception. There will always be some naysayer no matter what topic is being discussed and don't let them think you are a freak! If that size wedding is your dream then I say go for it. It's your wedding and your the one that gets to make those decisions not them!
Echoing previous sentiments, that's totally not a huge wedding! We'll probably send out about that many invitations but most won't come cause they live in Atlanta and we'll be getting married in Lexington (ky). But I don't think it's weird to invite that many people!
Look at it this way: you are so lucky to have so many people that love you! Most people don't have enough people to invite to say that they have that much love!
Ours is teetering around 200-225, I don't think its THAT Large but thats because everyone who knows us knows how big FI's family is.
People have opinions about everything and anything
It's not too bad. My FSIL invied about 300 and we are probably inviting about 250. I agree that it's a pretty average size.
I think it is a regional thing as well. You're in the south baby and err we tend to do everything much larger than life down here (it's not just in texas lol)... i think your wedding is average for the south.
I'm used to big weddings. Actually, when talking about small weddings around the web ... or on here ... they say 50- 75 and under ... and I just am amazed b/c that is very small to me.
200- 250 is completely normal. We have invited 200'ish ... and to fiances family that is a small wedding ... to my family it's normal.
These days, anything goes! It's just kind of strange that even though its almost 2010 people still are making super harsh judgements ... get over it and let people live life how they want!
Not that my opinion means anything, but I think 100 or less is a small wedding, 100-200 is a medium wedding, 200-350 is a big wedding, and 350+ is a REALLY big wedding. :)
But whatevs. The only time I've ever done a double-take is when a girl on say yes to the dress said her wedding had like, 650 people. How do you even say hi to everyone??
I agree - everyone has their own perception about what's a big or a small wedding - we had a small wedding, (destination,) of 60 people.. and when I would tell people, (in response to their question,) that it was going to be a small wedding, they would reply with, "Oh, like 100-150 guests then?" What??? That to me is a large wedding.. but then again, my hubby and I have very small families, so our friends were the absolute majority of the guest list...
Everybody I know thinks it's nuts that I'm having a small wedding. Like 50 or less. That's what we want. Everybody seems to expect the whole countryclub/ ballroom thing again from me and that's 100 percent not what we want!~
Although one venue very very very close to home (like in the same subdivision) is the clubhouse for the golf club and it's gorgeous. Overlooks the fairways and gardens are elegant! But it's still going to be smaller even if it's held there (outdoors) and the cocktail hour the only thing indoors and the reception in a tent.
I feel you, I have heard the same stuff, not about my wedding but about a friends. I actually got really angry over it because one gal actually tried to make it a moral high ground issue, like, "Oh, well I wouldn't invite all those people I'm not close to just to have a big affair, I would only invite the people I REALLY care about." Seriously, I think certain women will look for any possible chance to complain about other people's weddings. Also, I think people can get a little envious since the assumption is that bigger = more expensive.
Most weddings in my hometown are 200+ and no one thinks twice about it!
I completely agree that 200-250 is not that big at all. That's about the size that we are going to have (maybe a little under 200) but I don't think that it's big. I think that's about an average size wedding. However, when I tell people how many people I'm inviting, they think it's really tiny. But the place I'm living in now (not where I'm having the wedding) there are a lot of people from really small towns and it sounds like when they had their weddings, the whole town would come to it (like 500 people).
I'm not sure if people really understand wedding sizes. I invited 135 people, and when I was asked about the size of my wedding, people would comment on how huge it was! 135 invited is medium-small as far as I've seen.
Ever since I went to a 720 person wedding back in July, I don't think ANY number is too big.
I think 200-250 is fairly normal! We invited 195 people and 147 attended. Most of my friends, who are planning their weddings or who have recently been married, couldn't BELIEVE how "small" my wedding is. They invited or are inviting upwards to 400 people!
I probably would be shocked too! But that's just because I don't even have that many facebook friends, haha (and they include pretty much everyone I've ever met.) Everyone does what's right for them. I'd give people the benefit of the doubt, maybe they're used to smaller weddings. Mine is 40-50 people, and that includes family AND friends! If I invited my full family and friend base, probably still under 100. I was shocked to learn this was unusually small in the wedding world!
It doesn't make you a freak at all, of course, I'm just trying to show the other side and where those people might be coming from. I still think they should at least try to hide their reaction, it's kind of rude to be all WHAAAAT? no matter what people tell you about their wedding.
That's definitely not out of the ordinary! The majority of weddings I've been too have been around 200+
Yeah, I have been surprised at the range of different reactions we have gotten too. We are inviting close to 200, but expect 100-120. Some people tell us it is small, some think it is big. My FSIL recently got married and I think had around 230 people, it didn't feel too big or small to any of us.
<span style="font-size: x-small; color: #81a026;">EAQ219 - 720 people???!!! What kind of a wedding was that?!
We invited 130 folks and are expecting about 100 to actually come. When we've talked to vendors, they've expressed that 100 is a small number. Some of my Asian friends (Korean, Indian), have also expressed that 100 is small, based on the weddings in their families (300 plus)
Everyone else says "ah, that's a good number! Not too big, not to small!" Which is exactly how I feel! :-)
I always thought 'small' meant 30-40. But I am bad at judging how many people are at an event or wedding I'm at, so I came up with that number randomly. I also sometimes thought small meant mostly family.
Of course once I started making a list of who needed to be invited....family and family friends who might as well be family total up to about 75! on my side alone. And that wasn't counting the great great aunts and uncles who of course would be invited but probably wouldn't be able to travel that far.
I agree with you we're also having about 250, and that's small for our family considering the last wedding was 400. So our family is responding with "that's it?" whereas other people are saying "that's a big wedding."
We had this both ways. Some people think we are having a huge wedding and then others are disappointed we can't invite more. Can't win for losin'!
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Hey Bees!
Have any of you been asked about your wedding and then whenever you mention the size of it, the person gets totally wierded out?
I often get questions about how the planning's going, etc. and then when they ask, "So is it a small wedding?" or "How big is your wedding?" I tell them it's between 200-250. Most people can hardly believe it! I don't think 200-250 is THAT huge. FH's family has had 400-550 person weddings. But it totally makes me feel like a FREAK for knowing and inviting that many people. How 'bout you gals? (or guys...)