Post # 1
I wanted to start a thread about small weddings. I would love to hear from anyone who had one or is going to be having one! Any advice would be helpful, I know when I was starting to plan my small wedding I was a bit discouraged when I was finding out a lot of places have high food and beverage minimums! What did you do to make your intimate wedding special? How did you do your seating arrangements? How did you set up accommodations when you don’t have enough for a block? (my problem at the moment!)
I am having a 25-30 guest wedding in Charleston, SC. The reception will be in a restaurants private dining room that has enough room for a DJ, so there can be some dancing :). Now I need to figure out everything else from ceremony to favors! I guess my biggest fear would be it is too small to have fun…I know it sounds silly but I just saw pictures from a friends big wedding and it looked so full!
Post # 3
My sister’s wedding had about 25 people and it was definitely in the top two most fun weddings ever.
They did one long table and served food family style so there were platters going down the center of the table and everybody shared. It was in a private room of a restaurant overlooking the water and we had a dj and danced like crazy. (in the dining room next to the table)
Small weddings can definitely be fun. We’re only having 60 people at ours so still small and I can’t wait!
Post # 4
i had only 38 guests and i loved it. it was an encore for both of us so we only wanted close family and a few friends.
the one thing that i was concerned about was the dance floor. it was pretty big so i put some large portable planters (the venue had them) as room dividers on the dance floor and put lounge furniture on one half of it. i also hung tissue pomanders from the ceiling to fill in the space.
the nice thing with having a small wedding is the ability to offer premium favours, more food, top shelf liquor, etc. i would do it all again.
Post # 5
@Tiffner: Do you by any chance know the dimensions of your room? We’re also having our reception in the private room of a restaurant but my guest list, while not big, is bigger than yours, and I’m kind of stressing about how we’ll fit people in with the band that we hired and a dance floor.
Post # 6
I’m having a small DW wedding (13-22 people). Because my wedding is so small and due to my particular guest selection, there will be no dancing for us. Instead of the traditional way of doing things we will have a Chinese tea ceremony in the morning of our wedding day (I’ll wear my Chinese wedding dress for this, although I myself am not Chinese I want to respect his culture, besides it’s a beautiful dress). Then later that afternoon our wedding ceremony will begin. After the wedding we will go to the most beautiful restaurant that is sitting in a koi pond surrounded by waterfalls for dinner and cake. After dinner we will play all the Chinese newlywed torture games. Later, perhaps we will all attend the island’s gorgeous outdoor movie theater. Finally, when we are alone, I plan on having a private first dance with my new husband on the beach.
I’m still working on a timeline for things. It’s hard to plan a small wedding that is still meant to still be enjoyable for everyone. I am confident that our guest will still enjoy our wedding. We are splurging on food, drinks, favors, and trying to find other sources of entertainment other than dancing for their amusement.
We didn’t have to block book rooms. My mom got a condo for her side of the family and my FILs got a condo for their side. FI and I will be staying at a resort. We are all on the same road so there is very minimal driving involved. I can’t see our two sides wanting to hit the dance floor but should they like to, perhaps we can make arrangements for such a monstrosity (lol seriously it would be crazy) at one of the family’s condos for later that night.
Post # 7
All of your weddings sound great!!
@Eglantine: I don’t know the size of the room, I did ask the event planner at the restaurant to draw me up a floor plan (you think it would have the dimensions on it) if the place you’re having it at has some kind of coordinator maybe they can do the same for for you! I was thinking about doing one long table because how do you split up 25 people lol. How many guests are you having?
@peanutbutter1205: This makes me really happy to hear 🙂
@mypinkshoes: Thats a great idea! The reception room can hold a good amount of guests so I was thinking of ways to fill it out.
Post # 8
@Broken Biscuit: I agree, it is hard to plan a small wedding that is enjoyable for everyone. There are less guests so I feel like they have to be entertained! I have been to some big weddings that have been a little boring but you’re sitting at your table with 10 other People. My hope is that because it is so personal everyone will be comfortale with eachother instead of like the last wedding I went to, my friend and I (fiancés were in the wedding party) were at the single but awkward table lol!
Post # 9
@Tiffner: I’m hoping for that as well! Our families have gotten together before and had a great time with nothing more than some convesation and food so this time should be even more enjoyable! I’ve been to some very large weddings before that were really boring. I felt overwhelmed with the amount of people there and still there was no one to talk to! Im looking forward to my own wedding because I feel as though small weddings really lack the awkwardness that larger weddings can sometimes have. Everyone can join in the conversation and we don’t have to spend a vast amount of time running around trying to say hello to and thank our guest.
The biggest plus, none of our guest will be standing in a long buffet line to get the last of whatever cold food remains. Everyone gets a nice hot plate of food that no one has picked over!
Post # 10
With a small wedding try to let your imagination go wild! Because it’s small, unique, quirky decor works really well…
I love this idea from a website…
pics on Sodahead
Post # 11
I just went to a small cape cod wedding and we had so much fun we sorta regret that in november we are having a 150person wedding! How can it compare!
Post # 12
Mine was 35 pp including us! Having such a small number allowed us to have a wonderful, intimate venue that just wouldn’t have held a big group. We had two long ‘queen’s’ tables (they are narrower than kings tables) set up parallel to each other for dinner (plated) , and a small dance floor. We didn’t block rooms; instead we rented a big house that slept 12 for family and two small cottages for some other close out of state guests. We used VRBO to find them and it was great!
Post # 13
We had 32 guests and loved it. Everyone there was close to us- and smaller numbers mean less cost, less drama. Our ceremony venue was a small and incredibly beautiful chapel- it gave the feel of a traditional church wedding in a more fitting and intimate setting. I think that the scale of the venues should reflect the number of guests- too big, and you feel like everyone’s just rattling around or that most of your guests just decided not to come.
Post # 14
I just saw this!
I am having a very small wedding, 11 guests in Evergreen, Colorado. The ceremony is on a deck of a lake house overlooking the water.
We have booked a private sun room at a local restaurant and will let everyone pick what they want from the menu. Neither of our families are big dancers, so no dancing just a nice dinner with everyone at one table.
It was hard to find a location that would accommodate such a small group. At first we wanted to get married in Disney World, but they don’t have very good packages for just a few people. Oh well, I’m excited for what we have planned!
Post # 15
we has about 65 people and it was perfect. our wedding was at dh’s family farmhouse. since it was a private residence, we didnt have to worry about minimums. we served food family style. for out of towm guests, we found a small hotel that held rooms up to a month before the wedding, then they were released to the general public. they gave us a great rate, and guests had only good things to say about the hotel (and everything ele too :).
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We had 30 people at our wedding and it was lovely. We skipped the dj/dancing thing, and went for a dinner party feel. Everyone sat at one long table, we served wine and beer pairings with each course, had cigars and 15 year scotch after dinner, and had an amazing time having real conversations with every single guest. These were our most favorite people, and it was amazing to spend the weekend being surrounded by them.
I agree with the PP who suggested picking a venue that’s not too big for your group. It’s hard to get a warm in cozy atmosphere if you’re in a ballroom made to fit 100 people. We were married in a bed and breakfast. We used the conservatory for the ceremony, had cocktail hour in the sitting room and library, dinner in the dining room, and after dinner drinks in the courtyard under the pergola. It was gorgeous and magical.
Photos here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-intimate-elegant-lovely-affair-teaser-pics