Post # 1
My husband and i come from very dutch background and the name we have picked out for a girl is Marijke ( Mar-eye-ka). alot of people ask us why we don’t just spell it marika. we want to keep the spelling true to our dutch background and that’s also how my DH’s aunt spells it ( we got the name from her) but alot of people tell us no one will know how to pronouce it, what about then she would be in school, etc.. our children will be attending private dutch christian school so it’s fairly common that her teachers and such will know the name.
i’m just wondering if it really makes a diffence, do you honestly think it will be that bad if people sometimes ask how to pronouce it? we mostly mingle within the dutch community where we live ( church,school,work,etc..)
Edit: we don’t know if we are having a girl or not it’s just our boy name is jonah so it’s pretty straight forward.
Post # 3
I would have not a clue how to pronounce that, at all, so I wouldn’t pick it but if the people you are around socially do then it might be okay. Personally I am for the most simple and well recognized spelling of a name because even with a common name that has two popular spellings was annoying, I can’t imagine having to teach everyone how to spell and pronounce my name forever.
Post # 4
As long as you are OK that people will initially either mis-spell it or mis-pronounce it, I say spell how you like. If that will get under your skin, spell it phonetically.
Post # 5
I’m not a fan of alternative spellings (especially substituting ‘y’ for ‘i’ and such) for ‘new’, ‘trend’ names.
I think Marijke is beautiful, and “Marika” would also lead to mis-pronounciations.
Post # 6
The people that know and love her will know how to spell her name.
In school, university, work, and other social occasions she will get used to having her name spelled incorrectly.
Post # 7
I like that you are keeping it in it’s original dutch format, despite the fact it might be tricky for some. It sounds like the name is meaningful for you and DH, so I say keep it. I think it’s a beautiful and unique name, and the worst thing that can happen is that you/she will have to say it for those who can’t pronounce it right away. No biggie. 🙂 A friend of mine is named Bjarne after his Danish grandfather. Of course, it gets butchered in English (Bee-jarn) but is pronounced Bee-on-a. I think it’s different but love it. Keep the dutch spelling and go with your gut! 🙂
Post # 8
A friend of mine’s daughter has the Gaelic spelling of a common girls name. Everyone that looks at her name has no idea how to pronounce it, and when they’re told, they’re like “Oh!”.
The daughter is now 10 and is upset that her parents spell her name the way it is. She’s tired of correcting people and she’s upset that there’s never any kind of personalized items in the stores that have her name on them (they all have the more common spelling).
My friend defends her decision, but never thought her daughter would be as upset as she is. It’s not something she thought about obviously.
Post # 9
i wouldn’t be bothered with it but i always hearing stories how adults hated how no one knew how to spell or pronouce their name.
just a side note we havent changed the spelling to make it trendy since it’s a dutch name thats how it’s spelled. In dutch the ij makes an “eye” sound so if we spelled it marika we would be changing the actual spelling.
Post # 10
I don’t see the big deal of needing to spell it or tell somebody how to pronounce it- on the first day of school, you tell the teacher once and thats it. And most people have to spell their last names when giving it orally anyways (I know I do and its a single simple syllable), so I see no difference with having to spell it once in a while. Its a pretty name with meaning and cultural significance.
Also, if you spelled it Marika, I would guess looking at it that it was pronounced like “America” without the “A”, so it would likely need corrections now and again anyways. I say if you are going with a cultural name, go with its traditional spelling- the people that know that name already will recognize it, and the people that don’t know that name would likely be guessing wrong sometimes either way.
Post # 11
My name is always spelled wrong. My first name is Kristine. Sure people know how to say it but they don’t know how to spell it. It is something I got used to as a child. Though I did from time to time get sick of being Christine when I toldl people how to spell it. My maiden name was very unique and never spelled correctly or pronounced correctly. Again I just got used to it. I know when someone says my name to be ready to correct them. I also know when someone asks my name to follow it up with the correct spelling of both first and last (well maiden sorry it just changed Tuesday). Also I think there is a difference is spelling something “weird or strange” just for that reason and spelling it differently for cultural reasons. Also if people that you will be around and where your children will go to school will know how to say it that makes it easier.
Post # 12
I have a straight forward name and it gets misspelled and mispronounced all the time. (I had a professor who called me “abbie-guy-eel” instead of abigail for a year) People will misspell it, misprounce it, and probably be confused. But who cares- they’ll learn! Teachers will figure it out, and if your community is familiar with the pronunciation, most people will get it. I say go for the traditional spelling! When she gets older, she’ll love the uniqueness of it and the connection to her heritage.
Post # 13
If you are spelling it an ethnicly correct way, then I don’t think it is an issue. (What I don’t like so much is when people take a name like Chloe and spell it Kloweigh or something like that haha) I was going to name my baby “Eoin” if it was a boy, which is Irish pronounced Owen. I have seen Marijke spelled Mareike too (I think that is the German spelling). Definitely stick with the original spelling, since Marika would likely be pronounced Mar-ee-ka instead.
Post # 14
My name is Siiri and my parents are Finnish. People used to think it was weird and now look at the Apple IPhone….Siri! Siri is the Swedish spelling. I was never upset about people saying my name wrong because while it is common in Scandanavia it is not here….no biggie. Spell it the traditional Dutch way.
Post # 15
I have a regular name but spelled differently. Lyndsey – I actually love it, but growing up it was a pain in the butt because of course nobody would spell it right. I couldn’t find cute things with my spelling.
But I’m over it. The only thing that bugs me now is when someone replies to an email saying “Hi Lindsay”.. really? My correct spelling is right in front of you in the e-mail. Ugh.
Post # 16
It’s very beautiful and you should stick with it.
Just remember that people will misspell absolutely everything. Seriously. My name is Olivia. Not crazy, right? But I’ve had people spell it Livia, Oliva, Oivia, etc.