Post # 1
Does anyone else hate that the fad right now is strapless? Exactly why if you want an actual sleeve does that mean they need to attach a sleeve to a strapless gown? Even before the fad, strapless dresses were always my least favorite. I think they’ve improved on making them more flattering, but I like sleeves and my ideal dress has always been one that would allow me to comfortably wear a normal bra.
I thankfully found a manufacturer who specialized in making modest wedding gowns. I fell in love with my dress when I saw it on the website and drove two hours to the closest store that sold that brand. They didn’t have the dress available to try on, so I tried on what I could, liked nothing and decided to order the gown anyway. My mom completely paniced. What if it didn’t look good on me. So I found dresses on the David’s Bridal site with the A line cut I was going with and wasted David’s Bridal’s time just to get an idea about what the style would look like on me. And as expected, it looked wonderful.
Then came the bridesmaid dresses. Wow. So the modest manufacturer I was going with makes pretty much the ugliest formal dresses I’ve seen. They’re absolutely silly. I again went searching online to try to find something, and nothing to my taste seemed available to try on, till one day I found that one store had dresses with sleeves in an area for larger women. I guess only people who are heavier would possibly think of wanting to cover their arms! I had a friend though who could try it on for me without drowning in it and it was beautiful, so I went with that.
But really I’m just horridly annoyed that its so difficult to find a single thing I like because everyone’s all about strapless. Are you going with strapless because you absolutely loved it, or because strapless is just what they offer?
Post # 3
This is so funny, because I am a strapless person through and through (I look awful in any sort of sleeved dress) and my dress originally came with cap sleeves. I bought it used, so they had already been removed, but I would have hated those darn cap sleeves!
I think that it is definitely the most popular style right now, and I know some people hate it. I wouldn’t consider it a fad. FMIL was so disappointed when I told her I’d being wearing a strapless wedding dress. Some people see it as inappropriate, but I’ve never personally seen how strapless could equal inappropriate, and I’m more of a “wear what makes you feel good” type of person.
I do wish there was more variance in the bridal industry, though. I’m not asking my bridesmaids to purchase their dresses from anywhere in particular for that very reason. I want them to be comfortable and feel beautiful!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I don’t see strapless as being a fad. If you look back through fashion you will see it loooooong before now.
Not a fad.
I have a strapless dress because it looked the best on, and I loved it. Meh.
Post # 5
I think sleeves on dresses can be really romantic and beautiful. But the dress I fell in love with just happens to be a strapless sweetheart neckline. It’s pretty victorian-inspired, so it probably would look great with sleeves (and in fact, I once saw a modified version of it with short sleeves on SYTTD and it looked cute). But the dress is HEAVY and even though I’m having a winter wedding, I’m happy that at least some part of me won’t be drowning and sweating over dozens of pounds of fabric. I didn’t *need* strapless, it just fell into my lap, and when I think about it in terms of comfort, I’m glad. I like to leave something to the imagination (I’m the kind of person who doesn’t wear bikinis), but I don’t have any qualms with bare shoulders, so it wasn’t an issue for me to fall in love with a strapless dress. I’m sorry you have had such a difficult time finding a modest dress since that is what you are looking for. I know many designers will work out ways to add sleeves if you want them for modesty’s sake, or will have them added by a local seamstress. Did anyone you looked at offer such a service? Well, I guess it doesn’t matter now since you’ve bought your dress, but I have heard many stories of people getting sleeves added to a strapless dress.
Post # 6
Actually, my dress has a cap sleeve option. I was going to wear it strapless, but when it came in the sleves were attached (they can be taken off/on) and I tried it like that. I really liked my dress with the cap sleeves.
Post # 7
I tried on several dresses with straps, and they looked horrible on me, I am not sure why they looked so terrible, to be honest, because I never wear anything strapless, and typically dress very modestly. I envisioned myself in nothing but a dress with straps. But after trying on several dresses, I felt the most comfortable (and beautiful) in the very first, strapless dress I had tried on. Fortunately, it isn’t really immodest, at least not by my standards — I’m usually pretty picky about that too. The dress I ended up with covers everything nicely, and doesn’t have a deep cleavage line.
Plus, it is my wedding day…and since it will be the first night I am spending with FI, I kind of want it to be a little bit sexy.
I will be wearing a hand-knit bolero with it, however, mostly because our wedding will be in February. Brrr.
Post # 8
I don’t think strapless is a fad. It has been around for years. Yes, it is sad that there isn’t more of a selection of sleeved gowns for woman who want to wear sleeves. I did pick a strapless gown because it looks good on me and doesn’t make me look matronly. I was going to wear a bolero with it, but the owner of the dress shop, the girls that worked there, and my family all told me that I didn’t need to wear one because I look, to them, beautiful without it. I am selfconsious about my arms and I am bigger than some on top, so I am selfconscious about that too, but they made me see that I don’t have to be. I am also going to wear a veil that will cover part of my shoulders, so that should also put me at ease some.
If you do a google search for “modest wedding gowns with sleeves”, you will find a ton of options for your girls dresses. I have listed just a few for you.
Post # 9
Yes, dresses with straps are a bit more challenging to find. Perhaps you should look online for dresses and then once you find some call around if you are having troubles in stores. I chose a strapless dress because I didnt like how the strapped ones I tried on looked. I did think I was originally going to go with straps though. Also, I wouldnt consider strapless a fad. I mean sure one day it may not be as popular but for now it has been popular for many years and continues to go strong.
Post # 10
It’s funny, for me I wanted a dress with cap sleeves, or even just small straps, but I found that most dresses like that ended up having very deep V necks that were way too revealing for my taste. After giving in and trying on some strapless dresses, I found that they kept everything covered and in place much better than the dresses with straps.
I would say that finding a dress that works for your body type is more important in terms of modesty (and looking good!) than whether it is strapless/has sleeves. I wish designers did make a larger variety of styles with this in mind.
Post # 11
The problem isn’t so much that strapless dresses are a fad…they are virtually the only option available to brides! The wedding gown market is inundated with strapless, strapless, strapless. It’s no surprise so many brides find strapless gowns they love. Maybe if they could try on more gowns with straps and sleeves they would feel differently. I don’t have a personal vendetta against them, but I do take issue with the support issues and back pudge that strapless dresses cause so often (even with a good fit, it happens, and to the skinniest little things!).
But, I have been seeing more and more brides who have dresses with sleeves, so I think they’re finally coming back. Which is awesome; my grandmothers, mother, and aunts wore dresses with sleeves, and it’s nice to see that more traditional and covered wedding style come back in stylish and elegant new ways.
Keep looking, you’ll find something. There’s a thread somewhere around here that shows dresses with sleeves, I’ll have to find it. 🙂
ETA: Here it is!
Post # 12
I’m with you– and annoyed! I do not want to wear a strapless dress. I think they’re pretty, but my grandma is a seamstress and made wedding dresses for 40 years, and went to almost every one of her clients weddings (small town, ya know), and she said she has NEVER seen a bride in a strapless dress that didn’t spend all night hiking it up. I don’t want to be worrying or tugging on my dress all day. Plus, I’m getting married in Feb! I would love love something more covered and uber-classy like ivanka trump’s dress, but finding anything with any kind of sleeve is near impossible!
Post # 13
A couple of thoughts –
Strapless does not mean it is not modest. I tried on several gowns that were not strapless that had plunging necklines, dipped dangerously low in the back, or showed a lot. My dress which is strapless covers my girls up nicely and looks stunning.
Strapless is not a fad. I have a picture of my grandmother’s wedding from 1951 and she is rocking a strapless gown with a fitted bodice and A line skirt (BTW – she was freakin GORGEOUS!) and my mom’s wedding gown was strapless (1978) as was my sisters (1999). So yeah strapless is not a fad.
For your bridesmaids dress I would definitely let the girls have an opinion on this one.
Plus if all else fails a cute bolero can cover a multitude of issues!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I agree that strapless isn’t a fad – it’s just the most available style.
I for one was ADAMANT against getting a strapless dress. I wanted a scoopneck or v-neck dress. And then I tried them all on, and they looked awful. And then I started trying on strapless dresses and they all looked 100 times better on me.
Post # 15
I agree that I don’t think it’s a fad. I’m totally with you on having wanted to find a non strapless! I’m really self conscious about my arms and the back fat stuff, and I was really hoping to find something in a 3/4 sleeve. Nada. My gown is beautiful, don’t get me wrong, but I’m worried that back fat and my arms are what I’m going to be focusing on forever. Of course AFTER I bought my dress I see all these lovely sleeved dresses. Yeesh!
Post # 16
I agree with Minutiae–strapless dresses in general may not be a fad, since they’ve been prominent in every decade for almost the past 100 years, but they ARE a bit of a bridal fad insofar as the vast majority of wedding dresses today are strapless but were not in previous decades. Yes, there were brides with strapless dresses in decades past, but I think the majority of wedding dresses in most eras had sleeves. Today there’s a complete reversal of that where there are a few dresses with sleeves, but by and large they are strapless.