Post # 1
So I have posted once or twice about my Maid/Matron of Honor whom is just not being a very good Maid/Matron of Honor, she has managed to complain about everything, and completely failed at all the duties she said she was so thrilled to do in the beginning of the whole planning process. Well yesterday it was the straw that broke the camels back and honestly I am considering sending her a text (yes, a text I dont feel she deserves a call) and telling her not to come. She posted to FB yesterday morning a picture of a HUGE new ugly dark tattoo of a peacock feather on her ARM…. Could this shit really not wait one week so I dont have this hideous monstrosity in all of my wedding photos. So I saw her yesterday and was like “really, you couldnt wait one week” and all she said was a snarky “nope”. I am just at a loss for words, how is someone who is suppose to be my best friend do that a week before shes in a wedding without saying something. I don’t know what to do, Fiance thinks I just need to kick her out cut my loss of the friendship and be done with it since she has been a real bitch stressing me out during the whole wedding planning time. What do you ladies think?
Here it is, wont it look lovely with my strapless apple colored Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses… NOT
Post # 3
At this point, I’d buy her a little bolero jacket and ask her to please wear it for the ceremony and any pictures. If she feels awkward being the only one wearing it, get them for the other bridesmaids. Don’t ruin your friendship over it and have such a negative experience so close to your wedding.
Post # 5
Based on her response and timing…..yeah I’d probably give her the boot. I haven’t read your other posts but it just kinda sounds like she’s doing it as a ‘revenge’
Post # 6
I don’t know anything about tattoos but won’t it have to be bandaged up to heal? I’m picturing her with this giant ugly bandage and in every photo with it sticking out. Could she put makeup on it? Would she even do that for you?
Her timing is really selfish and her response to you is just mean. Its sounds like insecurity, maybe jealously? Weddings bring out the crazy side in some people!
Only you can decide if the stress of keeping her vs asking her to step down is worth it to you.
Post # 7
Its her body and she had every right to do what she wants with it. She shouldn’t have to put her plans on hold for your wedding.
Post # 8
* If you’re worried about pictures but dont want to burn the bridges, make her stand a certain way so you don’t see it in the pictures and let your photographer know that’s supposed to happen. I was worried about my tattoo showing in a friends (other girls had shoulder tattoos, as well) but we/the photographer never took pictures from behind so it all worked out.
Post # 10
This reminds me of another thread on here somewhere about a bride thinking about picking her wedding date based on whether or not she’ll be able to get the tattoo work she wants done in time. So, even though BM’s tattoo is an annoyance to you, to her, it’s going to be on her for the rest of her life so perhaps she wanted to make sure it was done before your wedding precisely because there will be a lot of pictures taken. I have a lot of back art, and it’s very weird and disconcerting for me to see pictures of my back before the tattoos were there. So I really don’t think she was coming from a bad place in getting the tattoo done right before the wedding — she probably just wants to look her best, and thinks the tattoo is a part of that.
That said, it is unfortunate that you disagree, and so I agree with PP that a bolero or wrap would help. I wouldn’t fire her over this, especially so soon before the wedding. The friendship will never recover, and you’d just be begging people to start quietly whispering the b-z-word …
It will all be fine! Don’t worry!
Post # 11
No she doesn’t have to but it is just polite when I have spent thousands of dollars on a photographer and now I have to see this in all of my wedding pictures
Post # 12
Someone getting a tatto on THEIR body is selfish? Color me confused. If you are willing to end a friendship over a tattoo then clearly this person is not very important to you.
Post # 13
Thats a Peacock feather?? .. Jokes on her!
Sorry to be blunt, but waht a bitch for being snarky and not even telling you about the tattoo. I would do like PP said and make her wear a bolero… UUGGHHH im annoyed and angry for you!!!
Post # 14
While I don’t think it is the most well done tattoo ever, I wouldn’t kick her out. I would be devastated if someone kicked me out of a bridal party because of my tattoo.
I would ask her to wear a bolero or a shaw, if you are having your ceremony in a church you can say that the priest would be offended. Then alert your wedding photographer about said tattoo and she will do what she can, to position Maid/Matron of Honor so they don’t show in your pictures.
Post # 16
While it is HER body and she can do with it whatever she wants … she got a huge tat that’s going to be front and center in all the wedding pics … i mean the WEEK before the wedding? that’s just being a b**ch. I’d say cut her or get her a bolero. It’s a fugly tat on top of it all… ick