Post # 1
Calling all stressed out Brides.
I am so stressed and I want to hear if anyone else is or has heard of a bride having as many problems as I have had and having.I am on the countdown mode; I only have 33 days to the big day. With that said I am a little stressed making sure I am not forgetting something, which I know everyone has.A little background, we got engaged last April. We asked my cousin to be in the wedding as a bridesmaid, my uncle who is a preacher to conduct the ceremony, my god mother to bake the wedding cake and so on. Well at Thanksgiving time my God mother told us she would not make the cake so we had to take a few steps backwards. Then at Christmas my uncle said he did not want to travel for the wedding and could not marry us. So again we step backwards and find someone else. In January my cousin tells me that she doesn’t have time this year for my wedding. Ok no big deal I keep moving forward and get another girl. We order the wedding bands in February; well you know where this is going. The groom’s band is the wrong one, so now we are still waiting for his to come in. On a plus note my Groom is starting a better job with better pay next week. Well we find out that he cannot take off anytime for the wedding and may not be at the rehearsal. So the good “soon to be wife” says no big deal we will figure it out. At the same time I am freaking out on the inside. My soon to be mother in-law calls and added to the stress of not having a groom at my rehearsal. So I freaked out. Now in the past week my bother has come out and told my Dad and family he is gay (which is not going over well) and that he is stripping full nude. As of last night he was told to move out and both my Dad and brother are going crazy. I am on stress over load. Tell me I am not going to lose it before the big day.
Post # 3
The specific family drama is a bit crazy. I know my family would be shaken by an ‘outing’ like that, but as far as the wedding stuff goes, I think it’s pretty normal.
I had hired a couple of “friendors” too, and they both bailed on me too. My flowers were a bit of a disaster, it poured rain all day, despite being gorgeous the day before and after the wedding day, and the icing fell off my cake on the way to the venue, amongst other mishaps.
All in all, we ended up married at the end, had an awesome party with friends and family and I’d consider the whole day a success. It’s these type of things that make the best stories after!
Hope things turn around for you from here and it’s smoother sailing!
Post # 4
GACK!!! That’s a lot of stuff! I think the family/vendor stuff isn’t too unusual but it’s certainly no fun. And it’s often a rough period when someone in the family comes out – undoubtably more so to come out as gay and a stripper! It’s unfortunate that this happened now when tensions are high but hopefully your dad and brother will have some time to cool down a little bit before the wedding. Geesh. No great advice except take deep breaths! Do what you can and don’t stress about the rest.
Post # 5
Thanks Ladies for telling me this is normal. I feel like nothing could shock me now.
Post # 6
@charliebear1613: Feel like you are forgetting things? Google checklists and scour them for something silly you could have missed.
Family Drama? let it go – it’s not ‘easy’ but you are about to married – this will be the happiest day – make sure it is by telling your fam to keep all drama on the DL for the day of.
No groom for rehearsal? His job is to show up and -stand-there- you will be fine without him. Make sure the pastor and his best man know the queues – after that let it go.
Breathe – you’re almost there!
Post # 7
What is the new job that your fiance has that they will not allow him a Friday evening off? He needs to tell them that he HAS to have that evening off. If they refuse, he needs to look for a new job.
Post # 8
Honestly, if that’s all you got things are going pretty well! I’ve got stories for days. Don’t worry about the ring either – my wedding is next weekend, and we just ordered FI’s last week and it’s not due to come in until a few days before! Take a deep breath and relax now because things will only be getting crazier in the next few weeks! 🙂
Post # 9
It sounds like you are swallowing your feelings and not being honest with your family about how this is all making you feel. That isn’t healthy! You deserve to be heard, as well!
Honestly, i’d just try to focus on your Fiance and the life you want with him. That slice of happiness is the only thing you have any control over here. I would try my best to let the rest go, and remember that it’s just one day, and you have a lifetime to look forward to.
Post # 10
I have been putting my feelings out there but so much crazy at one time. Thanks for the encougement.