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I think you should just be happy and excited that he plans to propose to you. You don't know exactly when on the vacation he will be doing it. Just be happy knowing that he is excited about it too.
@noritake22: I am definitely happy that he is planning to propose so soon!
Well I know what day lol. Our anniversary! It's true that I do not know the exact circumstances of how he plans to propose... I guess I just kinda wanted it to be a complete surprise so bad, but I am telling myself that it's still going to be awesome, that's why I'm here, to get more ideas how to get myself excited even if things didn't go exactly as planned :)
@DeathByDesign: Is there any chance he's trying to put you off the scent?
@Scribbles: Er... I guess it might be possible but I doubt it lol. He seemed really genuine when he said it and he is not a very good actor lol XD
Lol my wonderfully impatient guy asked me almost two years before he officially asked. We were laying in bed and he says "you know I don't like suprises so if I were to ask you to marry me what would you say?" I told him if he asked right then I would say yes. So he asked, I said yes, and then he tells me he doesn't have a ring a wants to do it the right way. So I waited almost two years before he asked me again, with a ring, on his birthday.
I knew it was coming, but still had a nice suprise.
*Oh and he couldn't even wait to get to the restaurant like he wanted. He did it in a hotel room as we were getting ready lol.*
hey at least you can be all dolled up and looking cute!!!! i wish i was dolled up on our night as everyone was taking pictures and my fiance was all dressed up and i had jeans a black casual lace shirt and black heals:( if i would have known i would have done a cute dress and heals and my hair and makeup done !!!
Haha, at least you'll know not to be a total B that day.
Mine asked on a Friday night of a very long week after work. He wanted to go to dinner at the restaurant where we had our first date, I said I didn't feel like Italian. We got seafood at a random restaurant. He wanted to go for a walk on the beach, I told him my feet hurt. He dragged me down the boardwalk and wanted to go closer to the water, I told him I was wearing heels... finally he just asked me, and I felt terrible!
So at least you'll avoid that!
I think you'll still be surprised with what he actually does. Mine had the ring burning a hole in his pocket, so he proposed at like 1:30 am while we were in bed. I knew he had the ring, too, because he's not very subtle.
My sister ruined her proposal. My BIL was planning on proposing on their one year anniversary, and she was a total b**** all day, and crabby. He ended up cancelling all his plans, and just proposed to her in the back yard the next day.
What's more important - being suprised or getting engaged? Just look at the big picture and you'll be fine. :)
If he's blurted it out to you he might do it before hand so that you're still suprised. I talked about it SO much (not cool in retrospect! LOL But I had the pre-proposal crazies...) that my fella knew that if he did ANYTHING out of the ordinary I'd know it was coming. In the end he proposed to me while we were sitting about one day, talking rubbish and mucking about. Totally unexpected, spontaneous and sweet. Loved it!
I knew when Mr. was going to do it. I accidently found the ring a month before and I knew the night he was going to do it. Even thougth I knew, the actual moment was still very much a surprise and I was still very much caught in the moment.
I totally understand how you feel, Deathbydesign. Yes, the fact that he has a plan and wants to propose is very wonderful. But come on, guys, don't we all want to be surprised? Yeah, most of us waiting bees just want it to happen already, but I know I want a little romance in there.
Maybe you could tell your BF how happy you are that he is planning to propose to you on your anniversary, but that you love surprises and how nice it would be if he were able to catch you off guard. Or maybe be a little more subtle and tell him about someone who's FI surprised them and how wonderful that is and how you always hoped you'd be surprised.
Sometimes guys just don't get it. They're wonderful, but clueless.
You bring up a great point that now you won't be a total B that day!
@DeathByDesign: It's a trade-off, now your mind can be at ease becuase you know it's coming. I would rather know it was coming than not be sure whether it was happening at all.
I knew exactly when and how FH was going to propose--we discussed it because we think the surprise thing is silly (no offense) and wanted to make the decision together as two adults. I even picked out the ring. But believe me--you're still SO excited when it actually happens!
You could also mention it to him that you'd like the element of surprise and see if he decides to catch you off-guard.
I just wanted to wish you good luck with the waiting. I have been with my SO for 5 years and I have been ready for engagement for 2 years. Once my SO told me that it will be happending before the end of the year I really turned into Miss.Impatient with a capital I!!! I am NOT nagging him or anything, I just want to yell at a calendar and tell it to hurry it up!
Eventhough you know the date he is going to do it, you still can get excited about where, when, and how he is going to do it.
@Statutory Grape: We have discussed getting engaged/married together plenty for the past few months "like adults" and we did pick our ring together already, so it's not like I had no idea it was coming. I just wish I didn't know the exact date :P
Thanks everyone for your support! On the bright side I can be prepared for the day (Dress up nice, get my nails done, ect) and be more stress free that day and just relax and let it happen. Also, this does make waiting easier, since well... doesn't even really feel like I am "waiting" anymore except to have the ring officially on my finger.
It'll be okay! Sorry for repeating my story so much, but in the morning of the day FI proposed to me, he called and asked me what I would want to eat for a picnic during which my BF would "hypothetically propose" to me. Everyone told me that he was trying to throw me off, but I just knew.
It's still special, even though there's zero surprise, I promise! :)
And, I just have to say, you're an amazing person for thinking that February is 'soon.' I would be dying if I were you. :)
I think no matter how much you know about it you'll still be surprised. I had some pretty big clues that my husband was going to propose on the date marking our 3 and 1/2 years together and I was right. It still kind of blew me away when he did it. Get dolled up and enjoy knowing that it's coming :)
At least now you aren't anxiously waiting anymore, wondering if it's even gonna happen and getting all worked up & let down when it doesn't happen. You're in a good waiting place right now, so enjoy it girl!!
Haha, I just realized! I guess the engagement chicken I made a couple weeks ago worked!
I really think girls put too much stock in having this OMG suprised romantic "getting engaged" setting. has anyone really been that shocked when they were asked?
@flamingred: Like I said above, I did know it was coming (We chose the ring together, ect) and I'm sure many women probably expect it when the time comes, but now I literally know the exact day he is going to propose. I think there is a big difference there. I don't see why it's so bad to have wanted it to be a little bit of a surprise and frankly it's not like I'm not rolling with the way things turned out anyway.
If the suprise means a lot to you, maybe you should just tell him how you feel and ask if he could please make it a different time/day so you can be surprised? But I do promise that it will be okay - I even knew the exact hour! 
@jo.lee: Haha yeah! You know I actually kind of like your story though... it's cute XD I feel like telling me 6 months before is kinda... less cute lol. I feel like I am already engaged but have no ring and I'm not allowed to go try on dresses or tell anyone yet! lol
lol I feel your pain, I know exactly how and pretty much when my bf is going to propose too.... it's not fun, but I don't think my bf knows I know, so I'm just gonna play along for his sake.
I really think your bf could be throwing you off here, I've heard this so many times before... really, why would he tell you the exact date he was gonna do it? Besides, he could still change his mind, and you'll probably be caught off guard even if you know the date, he'll find a way. If you really really want a surprise, maybe you can get someone that knows you both to talk to him and casually find out what he has planned and try to change his plan a bit?
I know how you feel, even though you picked the ring and everything, you want the proposal to be somewhat of a surprise, but I think it's not always like that... any time a bf does something out of the ordinary, the girl is gonna wonder what's up and suspect a proposal anyway! LOL
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Okay so today my SO blurted out that he was going to propose to me on February 23rd (which is our 3 year anniversary) while we would be on vacation in Mexico. It's bittersweet because on one hand, I now know that he wants to propose really soon!... but on the other hand now I know exactly when.
I'm torn... I really would love to be proposed to on our vacation but I always wanted my proposal to be a surprise... He already has something planned for February (he didn't tell me what at least)... but now I know to expect it.
How can I make the best out of this situation?