(Closed) The surprise is spoiled… how can I make the best out of it?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think you should just be happy and excited that he plans to propose to you. You don’t know exactly when on the vacation he will be doing it. Just be happy knowing that he is excited about it too.

Post # 5
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@DeathByDesign: Is there any chance he’s trying to put you off the scent? 

Post # 7
648 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Lol my wonderfully impatient guy asked me almost two years before he officially asked. We were laying in bed and he says “you know I don’t like suprises so if I were to ask you to marry me what would you say?” I told him if he asked right then I would say yes. So he asked, I said yes, and then he tells me he doesn’t have a ring a wants to do it the right way. So I waited almost two years before he asked me again, with a ring, on his birthday.

I knew it was coming, but still had a nice suprise.

*Oh and he couldn’t even wait to get to the restaurant like he wanted. He did it in a hotel room as we were getting ready lol.*

Post # 8
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

hey at least you can be all dolled up and looking cute!!!! i wish i was dolled up on our night as everyone was taking pictures and my fiance was all dressed up and i had jeans a black casual lace shirt and black heals:( if i would have known i would have done a cute dress and heals and my hair and makeup done !!!

Post # 9
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Haha, at least you’ll know not to be a total B that day.

Mine asked on a Friday night of a very long week after work.  He wanted to go to dinner at the restaurant where we had our first date, I said I didn’t feel like Italian.  We got seafood at a random restaurant.  He wanted to go for a walk on the beach, I told him my feet hurt.  He dragged me down the boardwalk and wanted to go closer to the water, I told him I was wearing heels… finally he just asked me, and I felt terrible!

So at least you’ll avoid that!

Post # 10
439 posts
Helper bee

I think you’ll still be surprised with what he actually does.  Mine had the ring burning a hole in his pocket, so he proposed at like 1:30 am while we were in bed.  I knew he had the ring, too, because he’s not very subtle.

My sister ruined her proposal.  My BIL was planning on proposing on their one year anniversary, and she was a total b**** all day, and crabby.  He ended up cancelling all his plans, and just proposed to her in the back yard the next day.

Post # 11
2859 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

What’s more important – being suprised or getting engaged? Just look at the big picture and you’ll be fine. 🙂

Post # 12
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

If he’s blurted it out to you he might do it before hand so that you’re still suprised. I talked about it SO much (not cool in retrospect! LOL But I had the pre-proposal crazies…) that my fella knew that if he did ANYTHING out of the ordinary I’d know it was coming. In the end he proposed to me while we were sitting about one day, talking rubbish and mucking about. Totally unexpected, spontaneous and sweet. Loved it!

Post # 13
398 posts
Helper bee

I knew when Mr. was going to do it. I accidently found the ring a month before and I knew the night he was going to do it.   Even thougth I knew, the actual moment was still very much a surprise and I was still very much caught in the moment.

Post # 14
252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I totally understand how you feel, Deathbydesign. Yes, the fact that he has a plan and wants to propose is very wonderful. But come on, guys, don’t we all want to be surprised? Yeah, most of us waiting bees just want it to happen already, but I know I want a little romance in there.

Maybe you could tell your Boyfriend or Best Friend how happy you are that he is planning to propose to you on your anniversary, but that you love surprises and how nice it would be if he were able to catch you off guard. Or maybe be a little more subtle and tell him about someone who’s Fiance surprised them and how wonderful that is and how you always hoped you’d be surprised.

Sometimes guys just don’t get it. They’re wonderful, but clueless.

Post # 15
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@SapphireSun: @buttontoes:

You bring up a great point that now you won’t be a total B that day!

@DeathByDesign: It’s a trade-off, now your mind can be at ease becuase you know it’s coming.  I would rather know it was coming than not be sure whether it was happening at all. 

Post # 16
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I knew exactly when and how FH was going to propose–we discussed it because we think the surprise thing is silly (no offense) and wanted to make the decision together as two adults. I even picked out the ring. But believe me–you’re still SO excited when it actually happens!

You could also mention it to him that you’d like the element of surprise and see if he decides to catch you off-guard.

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