- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
I love my boyfriend’s family, for the most part, they bring nothing but joy into our life. He has a cousin wo he is rather close with. We’ll call him George. He has a LOT of cousins, but this one has always been near by, they basically grew up together and are the best of friends. Almost two years ago, George and his wife, Georgina, bought a house. We moved into the basement as tenants and began part one of crazy cousin drama. When we moved in, all was quiet for about a week and then it started. They fight. A lot of fighting. Like, wake you up at two in the morning through the floor type screaming. They don’t communicate, just yell. He goes off and does whatever he wants and she gets mad and when he finally comes home, they yell. Its just plain bad. First we dealt with it. Then, they started leaking their drama on us, creating situations that were just down right hostile and unpleasant. I don’t think they were trying to be hostile to us, I truly believe their hostility towards each other was just bursting at the seems and coming out all over the place. She got pregnant, things got worse not better and three months after the baby was born, we moved out.
Cnveniently, his parent’s tenant moved out so we moved in, with plans of buying the house in the next few years. The kicker is, we’re still on the same street and Geore and Georgina. I thought up the street was going to be a good compromise, we’d still get to be close but we wuldn’t have to be right IN their personal stuff. I was so so excited to be free of the yelling and anger.
So because George lives so close, he comes to hang out here. Mostly, he comes to drink here because his wife doesn’t like him drinking and I guess deception is easier than honesty so he lies to face and drinks elsewhere. He hangs out at our house and upstairs (its his aunt and uncle and they’re close) Today, he’s upstairs and Georgina shows up with the dog. I had jst stepped outside to look for the cat and had no clue what was happening. Boyfriend’s parents are sitting on the lawn, George is up on patio, some family guests are packing up their car and she starts yelling and swearing about the missing leash. When she was done, m y boyfriend’s dad told her that we’re having a family gt together and she can either join peacefully or leave but we don’t need to hear it. Georgina says something about him being half the problem and storms off.
Okay, I get that this is totally unacceptable behaviour, and I didn’t appreciate it. But then George and boyfriend’s dad and another uncle all congrgate on the porch and they just absolutely BASH Georgina. Because she is obviously the only person in the relationship and therefore bears all the fault right? Not the case!! Yes, she’s bitter and doesn’t need to at like that. But nobody stops to consider that she’s mad for a reason. Her husband never comes home. He treats her like a baby making conveniencence. He literally said that he doesn’t have to worry because she won’t leave him and so its up to him decide once he’s “done with te crap” He intentionally just runs off and doesn’t deal with it, and she’s at home with the baby stuck being the “crazy” one.
I just think the whole situation is so absurd, so frustrating!! I wish I could just remove myself from it entirely but, as you can see, its kind of just their. You can’t just throw the family away, they are what they are. And by sitting just on the fence on who the bad guy (because I really believe it takes two to tango and they BOTH have stuff to deal with TOGETHER) I am automatically on the wrong side of the fence because George is blood and Gorgina is marriage. Obviously, I feel like that shouldn’t be the deciding factor (some day I will be the by marriage half too)
I don’t understand how people live like this. How they get married, make babies, try to have ahome together. How does it work, how do they even stay sane?!