(Closed) The Talk…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How long have you two been dating?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@asscherlover:  Oh ok. The only reason I ask is my parents thought we got engaged a “little soon” (though this is after 4 years so its not like it should have been surprised). Maybe once they process that its coming they will have a better reaction. After a couple weeks you could tell that my parents attitude did a 180 and they were genuinely happy for us. We were young, which I’m sure is why they we’re expecting it, but we’re definitely not rushing (getting married at 6.5 years). Maybe they just want to make sure you’re not rushing.

Also I tried all of the “I’m getting married at the same age as you were” (I am) and “we’ve been dating longer than you had” and that seemed to really help for the first week. (Then they seperated so it kind of ruined my point, but their seperation is unrelated and between them). My point is, just because you’re the same age/older than they were doesn’t mean they can remember how mature you actually are/they were at 28.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Have you guys had any problems during the 3 years you have been together? Sometimes parents are more objective than we are because we are so in love and we can’t see issues when they are in right in our face.

I know that when I was with my ex, and we briefly discussed getting married and I was playing the waiting game and we finally broke up, my parents told me they never liked him, although the whole time we were together they hinted at it but never came out and said everything they disliked about him.

The guy I am with now, my parents tell me all the time that they are very fond of him, are supportive of us getting married, etc. Parents know us very well because they raised us. Of course they’re not always right, but it’s something to consider.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@annasaf83:  If he wants to be with you, then he will have to cut the cord with his mom if she truly is that manipulative. There’s a line between loving your mother and being a flat-out momma’s boy. He can’t let her run his life, because if he lets her dictate who he can love, he’ll never be happy. He’s a grown man and while obviously he loves his mother, he can’t make every decision based on what she will do/her opinion. Have you talked to him about this?

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Wait…he wants to run into his ex so she can see he has someone else? After 3 years? This is something people do when they have unresolved issues with their exes. That stuck out to me more than anything else in your post.

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