The TALK!!!!!! What to name the baby…..

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
2534 posts
Sugar bee

First of all, congrats on your pregnancy!

You could try doing this. I have some friends that did and it really helped them out!

Buy a baby name book and each go through it seperately. Make a list of at least 10 names that you like, and have him do the same. Compare lists and see if there are any similarities, etc.

You could also ask the Bee for name suggestions. Always fun!

Post # 5
1688 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@June232012:  OMG I have the same thing and I hate FI’s name. It blows. 

Post # 8
3677 posts
Sugar bee

Agree to lay some ground rules that neither one of you “gets” to name the baby – you need to find something that you both like. There are thousands upon thousands of names out there. Surely you will find something that appeals to both of you. Acknowledge that it might mean that each of you has to give ground on a cherished name that, for whatever reason, just doesn’t do it for the other partner.

Post # 9
2912 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

How old is he? That is a pretty silly reaction. Each of you get to say no to whatever name is on the table. It should be a happy agreement. 

Post # 10
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@June232012:  My DH really fell in love with a girl’s name, and he has insisted that it be the name of our first daughter. The name has grown on me, so I agreed, but I get to pick all of the other names (middle and boy names).

Post # 11
1654 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@June232012:  so… your married to my husband too??  lol We aren’t even pregnant yet and DH is dead set on having a JR and I most definitely do not.  I don’t like JR’s, I don’t love DH’s name that much and he doesn’t even have a family “passed down” name anyway… The way I have dealt with it thus far (you see, he won a drunken bet shortly after we got engaged that said he could have a JR… it was a card game and we were drunk), so I’ve been working on this for a while… I made a list of reasons WHY I didn’t want a JR.  Not just “I don’t like it”, but legitimate reasons (confusion when people call, I don’t want him to be called JUNIOR as a nickname, feeling like he has to follow in his dad’s footsteps etc.) and I asked him to give me a legitimate reason that he wanted a JR besides “I want it” or “I won the bet”… He couldn’t give me any.  Next, last month (this is months later) we decide to TTC and he brings up the name thing again (we had been drinking… I swear we don’t have a drinking problem! lol) so I ask him for a reason, still can’t give one… BUT he did say because he wants to honor his family and the line of hard working men in his family.  THAT I could work with!  So I vaguely brought up the idea of using a family name as a middle name.  He was stubborn about it at the time, but I’m going to keep working on it… I’m sold on the idea, I really like it and we can use either his Dad’s middle name (which was HIS dad’s first name), his mother’s maiden name or even DH’s middle name (I just don’t like his as much).

This works double, because if we have a girl I want her middle name to be named after my Grandmother… So it seems like a fair compromise.

Post # 12
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

DH doesn’t want a Jr, but he does have 1 boy name that he’s stuck on and will not budge.

I’m not in love with the name, it probably wouldn’t even make my top 10.

But in the end, it is 50% his child, and I feel like if he got to name it (if it’s a boy), he will feel an even deeper bond with the baby than if I overrode his wishes.

I’m now 23 weeks, and I’m coming to terms that the name he likes will most likely be our boy name, unless he has a major change of heart in the next 17 weeks (which I highly doubt will happen).

So maybe just think about it for a while and let it sink in. You have plenty of time to choose a name, no need to fight about it so early on while you’re still in the “honeymoon” phase of your pregnancy.

Post # 14
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

While my DH didn’t blow up at me like that like yours did, we did have this same problem.  We each loved a certain boys name but he still wanted to name the baby (if a boy) after him because, “it’s just what my family does”.  No other reason!  It took a while but he finally agreed to using his middle name in tribute to him.  Hopefully he can come to a compromise with you!  In the end, we are having a girl so it never mattered anyway, lol.

Post # 15
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

DH is named after his father and he hates it. He said it was very confusing growing up and he now answers to 3 different names because of it (his family kept trying to figure out something to call him that would make it less confusing). He is also very different from his father and they aren’t super close so them having the same name is a little weird now.


I am so glad that DH is against naming our future children after him. If we have a boy we are planning on naming him Grayson after state park we went backpacking in while we were dating.


Post # 16
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you should just table the name game for a while, you do have quite some time to figure out a name boy or girl. Let it go for now.  Bring it back up in a couple months when you both have a more of a level head.

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