Post # 1
So, my fiancee and I have planned a simple, small wedding with our closest family and friends. In fact, we have forgone the typical wedding party and have each asked our only siblings to be our attendants.
My sister just got diagnosed with invasive breast cancer. Our wedding is one month away and now I fear that she will not be able to attend and stand by me. We lost our dad several years ago to cancer and that has been hard enough to deal with the fact he won’t be there. And now this. I feel absolutely guilty about thinking of MY wedding while she is going through this.
And I wonder how I will deal with our mom on my wedding day when two of our family won’t be there. I have read so many beautiful and poignant posts of others who are going through similar heartbreak. It certainly helps but I want nothing more than to just cancel the wedding at this point. I know a wedding should be about the love between my fiancee and me. Yet, we are sharing this day with our families. I want it to be a joyous day though now tinged with sadness.
Post # 3
That is a lot to deal with. I think a wedding would be a great thing for everybody at this time. Something to take their minds off of everything that is going on — something to celebrate.
The day may be bittersweet, but it will be more sweet than anything else.
I don’t have much to offer, but I offer my support and prayers for you and your family.
Post # 4
@CoSuz: I agree that the wedding will probably be a nice dose of joy. Could you cut back and move the date up to garentee your sister will be there? I am sure she would appreciate you putting things on hold just for her but I am sure she would love to be able to see your union even more! HUGS!!! I wish I could offer more support…Please message me if you ever want to vent or just talk.
Post # 5
I wish we could move the wedding date, but unfortunately we cannot. Too many people have already booked flights and such. I just really hope that my sister can be there (She is across the country unfortunately). I feel so selfish thinking this way while she is going through so much, but I think I’ve latched onto this personal stress to keep myself sane. And my fiancee has to leave for the next few weeks for work. Sigh, right before the wedding. Thanks for letting me vent, Bees!
Post # 6
@CoSuz: Could you set up a video camera for her to wach during the weddding or maybe record so that she could watch after? I don’t think this is selfish…HUGS