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Mines the opposite! I'm afraid that some of my family members that I don't get along with will crash. I loath them so much that I really wish I could tell other family members don't to even show pictures to them.
But other than that, I am not worried about anything else.
Drama is my biggest fear, My sister has a tendency to create drama where ever she goes.
I am terrified that no one in my family will show up (approx. 100 ppl), or that people will complain about the reception (we are paying for everything ourselves, and with a guest list of 225 family only, we decided to go with a champagne and cake reception)...it says right on the invitation that its a champagne and cake reception, but I'm worried people won't understand and expect a full meal.
1. That I won't fit into my dress.
2. That it's going to storm like crazy during our outdoor reception!
@MsSassy - Add that to one of my worries as well, there are certain family members I worry about at mine also!
@tksjewelry - I hope your wedding is drama free! :)
@K8SK8- I actually just went to a wedding this past weekend that had a "light" reception as well and thought it was lovely. I'm sure your guests will have no problem with it!
@jduck - Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
I agree with pp, I think they are likely to show up because receptions are the "fun" part, but I would worry that they didn't enjoy the reception and want to leave early.
@jduck84: I was worried about the same things!! I tried real hard not to gain wait while i was in Aruba the first couple of days up to the wedding date! I did fit in the dress (like a glove) but I totally splurged after that and still kinda am!
And not to mention that it rained hard the day before our BIG DAY, so I was worried about it raining on our beach ceremony!
(1) People won't show up (especially since many of them are traveling long distances)
(2) It will rain during my outdoor wedding/reception
(3) I won't fit into my dress
I'm worried our November wedding will be rained out - Spring in our area is always a bit iffy... I'm worried that our Ipod reception will be lame, I'm also freaking out that I'm gonna look chunky in our photos. OOH and the big one - I'm worried our venue won't be finished with their renovations before the day and that we're gonna have to have the reception in a marquee.... that would SUCK!
@nurselindsey: I think you will be ok. A wedding is about family and friends coming together to celebrate your commitment to eachother. People will WANT to be there to help you celebrate. I think you will be just fine :)
I am worried that it will rain and that people will think that our wine and champagne only reception is boring...where I come from, it is almost always open bars with hard liquor.
RAIN!! Outside ceremony in April. We have a back up plan but it would be so nice to not have to use it!! Other than that, I'm trying really hard not to worry about anything else. I do freak out once in a while about, "what if no one has fun?" But FI reassures me that with our food, drinks, music, and guests, they won't have a choice!
i am DEATHLY afraid of attendance. we have a small chapel that seats only 120 - thats IT and thats pushing it. so i hope everyone has a seat.
then we have a ballroom for the reception.... so its huge, so i hope everyone comes!
i just am afraid that no one will show up and i will be all alone, spending money on all this stuff for nothing.
that and folks will think my wedding is cheap. *sigh*
oh and falling .... or being late to the ceremony... or the mini bus not showing up for the shuttle.
or my flowers getting stuck in traffic on their way to the ceremony since my mom insisted on getting them from our hometown not from where we are getting married...
oh and drama. afraid of drama. and kids crying thru my ceremony....
oh and being broke....
I. AM. A. MESS.
and i am suffering in silence! thank GOD for the hive!!!!
I hear you on the attendance thing, but my fiance's family live overseas, even though it is really cool lots of them are coming there is a part of me that is worried if ALL of them come then the cost is going to skyrocket!
(*Closes her eyes & crosses her fingers only 1/2 are flying around the world*)
(1) That we won't be able to afford a honeymoon when everything is said and done. We decided on a budget-friendly road trip to nearby Omaha where we would wine, dine, go to the zoo, see a movie, and relax in a nice hotel. We couldn't afford to fly anywhere and we didn't want to feel obligated to site see so this is overall the best option. However, we aren't paying for any part of the honeymoon until after the wedding. I'm afraid of running out of money and credit before we even get there.
(2) That uninvited people will just show up. I'm especially scared of people bringing people that they KNOW I don't like as their plus ones. I already had a bridesmaid (the same one mentioned below) invite someone to our wedding that wasn't on our guest list right in front of me. We didn't want to invite him because we don't like his crazy girlfriend. She's a pathological liar and likes to stir up trouble when people are trying to have a good time.
(3) Not having enough food. (In contrast, I'm also afraid of having too much food, lol).
(4) Having to pay for other guests that wasn't planned. I had to pick up one of my BM's dresses because she quit or lost her job and didn't have the money to pay for it. I'm afraid I'm going to have to pay her way for everything and I just don't have the money for it. We are paying for this wedding all ourselves just fresh out of graduating college and on a below poverty level income. We were able to get the funds to pull it off, but we can't afford to cover other people costs too! If they can't afford to come, I hope they are respectful enough to decline the invite rather than try to guilt us into paying for them, especially since very few were supportive of us having a wedding in the first place.
(5) Running out of money in general. I have nightmares about going to pay for something for the wedding and having my card (debit or credit) declined. I'm not a girl who splurges often so the amount of money we are spending on this one event about sends me into a panic attack whenever I think about it.
(6) People thinking my wedding is tacky/cheap/weird. Since we were paying for it, me and my fiance decided to go with what we wanted and could afford. And more decisions we make, the more grief we get for it. :*(
(7) That the music will be horrible. I have no control of it for the ceremony as my FMIL was going to take care of it. (What was I thinking!?)
(8) That my bouquet will be ugly.
(9) That my hair will fall out/be messy by the time of our 4PM ceremony.
Yeah...I'm about to lose it and have a nervous breakdown. I can't take this anymore! Why didn't we elope? :((((
Oh...right because me and my FI wanted an actual wedding.
Fears of the week:
having a farmer's tan in my strapless dress
the music will be too loud
no one will like where they are seated
that I won't be able to relax enough to have a good time (I'm a behind the scenes gal)
1. That I wont actually be able to let go and let it just happen. I am too like @Miso: a behind the scenes girl.
2. That people will gate crash our wedding. I have people already bringing plus ones we didnt invite and had to say no already. And specifically had just them on the invitation. I cant afford to have people gate crash our wedding.
3. that our photos will turn out like shit. Which they wont, but Im stressing that they will.
4. That one of my bridesmaids wont 'pop' out of her dress. She seems to go up and down sizes in cleavage.
5. That my dress all goes to plan! my wedding is in six weeks and I still havent had my second dress fitting and tried my dress on. Even tho I dropped it off at the dressmakers 1 month ago. She was altering the back to lace up.
6. That I wont be able to make it in my shoes and trip down the aisle
There my worries, stupid as they are... I just have to tell my self to relax and chill.
My only real concerns are that the chapel may be too small for the amount of "yes" RSVPs and that someone in my family might get drunk and cause a scene.
I'm at peace with pretty much everything, except for the persistence of the freezing cold weather we've been having. There hasn't been a day in the last few weeks (months?) when I haven't had to shiver inside my coat and wrap my fingers around a cup of coffee just to feel a little bit warm. It's been in the 50s most days. MY WEDDING IS AT THE END OF JULY, I should not have to plan to wear a shawl or bolero! But I get cold so easily, even though I know in my head that most of my guests would adore weather like this (especially those coming from the east coast where it is 100 degrees right now), I don't want to spend my reception in FI's tux jacket shivering.
my grandmother getting drunk and taking off her shoes and throwing it at people or cussing at people or talking smack to them or telling them they need to lose weigh (all of these events have occurred while she was drunk!) i am seriously thinking about having her picture at the bar and telling the bartenders to cut her off at 2 drinks!
i'm scared that we will have too many people or not enough! our parents added about 20% to the guest list (we are inviting 145 on the 1st list, our venue holds MAX 128) and we have absolutely no idea if these people will come. we are either going to end up with like, 80 people or 140 when we were hoping for 100-110.
1. Rain during outdoor ceremony! We picked the venue for its outdoor scenery.
2. Too many people! Afraid we'll spend all night talking to people we don't really know and not spending time with people we are close with (or dancing!)
3. Extreme heat
4. One guest that we'll have to invite always gets drunk and violent
#1- that there will be a blizzard and my FI's mom and sister wont be able to get here from new york
#2- that i won't fit into my dress
#3- that our ipod reception will be a flop and no one will dance or have fun
#4- that in the end i'll wish i eloped
oh gosh - where do I begin:
1) no one will have fun
2) the food will suck (I'm in LOVE with all our choices - but it's the fear of mass-production)
3) FI will be a nervous wreck during the ceremony and not be engaged in what's happening
4) I'll be so concerned about how everyone else is doing that I won't be able to be in the moment.
5) my mother will drive me nuts before she walks me down the aisle and I'll lose it with her
Thank you for this post. With 3, 4 and 5 - just verbalizing it is making me realize what I need to do to either NOT be that way - or how to deal with the emotions if 3 & 5 take place :)
I have two main worries:
#1: That my mother will make a scene. She's extremely emotional and unstable and has just split up with my stepfather who will be walking me down the aisle.
#2: That not a lot of people from my side will come (especially my grandmother). My side of the family has a lot of people traveling from futher away and a lot of older people and I'm not sure who will be able to make it and who won't. My grandmother is 93 and I'm worried she won't be able to be there.
Other than that, whatever goes wrong will go wrong and I'm marrying the man of my dreams so I'm not stressing about the small stuff :)
1) Rain during our ceremony and/or pictures
2) that someone will say something about an incident that I will be mortified if it is mentioned at my wedding!!!
3) That we wont be able to have assigned seating because too many guests will RSVP yes (we invited 213 and only have room for 150~!!)
4) that people will bring uninvited guests
5) that one of my best friends and bridesmaids will get drunk and make a fool of herself
Felt good to get that off my chest!
That my dress won't zip.
That we will somehow be rushed getting ready and it won't be fun.
That my mom will be so stressed that we'll fight.
That it will rain.
lol. we actually had some people that didn't come to the ceremony but to the recpetion - who were we to know!!
I still think we should have started the procession at 4pm not 10 till 4. That way lost or late guests would be seated rather than trying to sneak in while I'm walking down the aisle. Oh well, it was beautiful!!
That we are going to have a thunderstorm & lightening storm at our outdoor wedding & reception. It's been raining for days and forecast says its just gonna continue right on through the wedding day and the honeymoon. Yay! Everything sucks!
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As my wedding gets closer, I find myself becoming more and more paranoid about certain things. Lately, my biggest fear is that no one will come to the reception! The reason being for that fear is that my ceremony and reception are in two different locations. My church is a smaller church and while it holds 240 ppl for the ceremony, the reception area is very tiny. So, we're having our reception at a venue about 10 minutes away from the church. For some reason, I'm afraid our guests won't want to come! I hate to spend all that money on a DJ and food, etc for no one to come lol.
Am I just being paranoid? lol
So, bees, what are some of the things you're worrying about as your wedding approaches?