Post # 1
He never remembers anything 🙁 It’s like I just talk for no reason! I made him look for first dance songs and he looks up right now and says I found some artists that I really like not for the wedding but just in general so I am like oh cool who? and he says Blue October.( Side note I LOOOVE Blue October!!! and I have talked and talked about how dark and awesome their songs are)He then says that they have two pretty cool songs called Calling you and 18th floor balcony (another side note: Those are my two favorite songs, i sing them all the time) So I tell him how I have been telling him about them forever and he just gives me a blank stare. OH man I wanted to punch him! It hurts my feelings that he can never remember things that are special to me. This happens all the time and I hate it. I can’t bitch him out every time it happens so here I am venting to you guys while he sits there looking for more songs *sigh* any other bees out there that can sympathize?
Post # 3
I think its in their DNA.
I ask my BF to do things for me or just have plain conversations with him and he doesn’t remember. Fortunately for me i have a pretty decent memory so i whip out places and other details around us about the conversation so he can’t say that I’m making it up.
I also have to send him emails about the conversation and then resend them to him. It’s just something that I have learned to live with and work around. But ya….so frustrating…stupid boys!!
Post # 4
I learned to deal with it too but sometimes it’s too much!!
Post # 5
Actually it’s me who often doesn’t remember things and DH is saying “how do you not remember me saying that?” Sometimes it doesn’t really matter if it’s about something trivial, but other times I feel terrible for not remembering. I put a conscious effort now into being really “present” when he’s telling me things. Funnily enough, it’s me who is the better “listener” in that DH will sometimes not respond when I’m trying to talk to him and make out like he’s not listening at all. But he is, and he’s got an awesome memory 🙂
Post # 6
My FI can remember movie lines but not anything anyone in real life says :/
Post # 7
I agree that it must be in their DNA. FI has a hard time remembering anything…from plans we make with friends, to plans he makes with his own mother. Heck, he couldn’t even remember the exact date of my birthday til 3 years into the relationship (he is a REALLY good guy, and really has made all of my birthdays fantastic…but remembering numbers? Also not on his ‘can do’ list). It was very aggravating at first…I felt like I was talking to a wall 99 percent of the time. But now I just deal with it, and realize that if that’s one of the worst vices he has…well, then I guess I’m a pretty lucky girl. I totally get how it hurts though!
Post # 8
That he can eat and eat and eat…and never gains weight!!
Post # 9
My FI always hears the general idea, but can never handle the details. But if I remind him, it’s “nagging.”
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Post # 11
It really annoys me that he never actually looks for anything, just asks me where it is. For example: “Hey babe, where’s the ketchup?” Me: “In the fridge!”, Him: ” I can’t find it!”, then I go to the fridge, move the milk carton over and voila! There’s ythe ketchup.
Post # 12
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
@OttawaBride2011: Oh my goodness, Mr. Cardigan is SO bad about that! He never actually looks for anything – just stands there and stares at the room asking me where it is.
Post # 13
@OttawaBride2011: My FH too! I think they are just to lazy to do anything!
The thing that bothers me the most about FH is that nothing is ever his fault always mine. Even if he leaves the toliet seat up again my fault!
Post # 14
My FI use to always forget everything and I would always end up getting upset about it because it would like about things we had already told people we go to or do, and then he would be like what you never told me about that blah blah. SO finally at his last doctors check up he was talking to his doc about it, and his doctor ended up screening him for adult adhd because I guess that type of memory loss is an indicator and sure enough he had every marker for it and so he started taking medication for it and he’s like a new guy now! Not saying that’s the reason for every guys memory loss but it’s atleast something to mention to a doctor if it’s as bad as his was.
Post # 15
I thought that only my FI & I dealt with this (the memory problem!). We end up having conversations over and over again! I know it’s not intentional, but it’s so irritating at times, and exhausting. I don’t WANT to have the convo AGAIN. We already talked about this! Glad it’s not just us! I have figured out that while I can split my attention at least a couple ways (i.e. watch TV and think/talk about something), he needs to seriously shift gears in order to actually retain anything we discuss. If we remember this fact, it helps, but it’s a difficult thing to always remember to do, since we’re so opposite in this arena.
Post # 16
Glad to know I am not alone!