Post # 1
I have no problem figuring out how to address envelopes or arrange tables or word invitations. But I get hung up on the oddest things. You have all put up with my strong opinions on standard traditional etiquette before, so I am humbling myself to your strong opinions on these questions (and inviting your amusement: it certainly amuses me that these questions keep rattling around my brain!)
- One wears gloves to church. One does not wear gloves to eat. If one goes to one of those churches where people walk up to the front to take some bread and wine, at what point does one remove one’s gloves? In the pew and walk up bare-handed? At the front before getting the bread and wine? Not at all?
- One tries to invite equal numbers of gentlemen and ladies, in such a number that the total count sitting down to dinner is 2*n+2, so that you can seat everyone boy-girl-boy-girl and still have the host at the head of the table and the hostess at the foot. How do same-sex couples alter this algorithm? Does one invite one lesbian couple (or two single ladies) for every gay couple? Or treat one of the two husbands as a “wife”?
- One does not put commercial packaging on the table. Sauces are served from sauce-dishes, not labelled squeeze-bottles. Fried chicken is served from a platter, not a red-and-white striped paper bucket. How should breakfast cereal properly be served?
Post # 3
Hahaha, I don’t know proper etiquette, but here’s my thoughts. 1) leave the gloves on, have the priest place communion in your mouth directly (very common) 2) treat each couple as boy/girl, otherwise they would be separated for dinner. 3) perhaps serve breakfast cereal already IN the bowl and let guest add their own milk? LOL I don’t know but this made me giggle 🙂
Post # 4
Aspasia, I love reading all your etiquette advice! I’m nowhere near as knowledgable as you are, but I’ll come up with my best.
I’m not sure about #1, people do not wear gloves to my church. The bread and grape juice are passed, people remain in the pews. I would suggest in that case to remove gloves before handling the platters containing the bread and the ‘shot’ glasses of juice.
For #2, I think it’s becoming more and more common to not need equal numbers of males to females. In my dance circle, some females lead and some males follow, regardless of their sexual preferences.
For #3 (the best advice I have of the 3), there are those containers specifically to keep cereal fresh. It could be served from one of those.
Post # 5
Very interesting questions. I think can provide a few answers.
I wear gloves to church (English Roman Catholic), and I typically take them off and put them in my handbag before I stand up and proceed to the altar to receive communion. That’s what my mother and grandmother did/do, so I simply copied their behaviour.
Perhaps you could fall back on traditional etiquette, which states that husbands and wives are not to sit together at dinners? In this case two ladies or two gentlemen are treated as a couple and you would separate them just like you would a husband and wife.
I use simple glass containers with lids for breakfast cereals. They look rather like this one http://ak1.polyvoreimg.com/cgi/img-thing/size/l/tid/45838142.jpg and are placed on a separate table. I put a small silver ladle on a separate plate, and let each person serve her-/himself. The milk and fruit juices are served in glass carafes, so I find this solution perfectly acceptable.
Post # 6
I don’t feel educated enough to answer these. I simply enjoy reading your posts. 🙂