- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hello! I am a newlywed, and I want to tell you the truth about my DIY wedding. The venue was a lovely garden/ranch in the San Fernando Valley named Orcutt Ranch. My husband and I paid for the whole thing, so we were really savvy on things we could save on, and things we could do ourselves. Although we prepared and planned for months we still had mishaps.
First, let me tell you that I loved being engaged. I loved searching for flowers, hairdos, color schemes, invitations, and so on. Most of all, I loved the possibilities! I pictured the perfect wedding, and I was doing everything I could to make it happen. Little did I know that I coudn’t prepare for the things that went wrong.
It started with my make-up girl being about an hour late. The ceremony started at 5pm, so I didnt freak out when they still hadnt gotten there at 2pm. I had to be at the venue at 4pm for pics and to relax with my bridesmaids. Needless to say, I didnt make it by 4pm. At 5pm we pulled into the parking lot and ran to the bridal room. As soon as I go into the bridal room I realized there was something really wrong; there were too many people there (how could that be when the room clearly stated BRIDAL PARTY ONLY) The room was busy with people getting ready (including my SIL and her aunt). I was getting married that day, already late, so how could it be that I was waiting? My bridesmaids were peeved and so was I, but what could I do, kick them out? I know, I know the answer is yes, but it was hard to do when the person is your SIL and also the person who set-up the reception space-so i waited.
After what seemed like a really long time, they left and I was finally able to put on my dress and meet my honey at the altar. Everything seemed to finally be going ok. The rest of the ceremony went great. Because the ceremony had started late, the pictures were a little rushed, but came out beautiful anyway. By that time most of the bridal party was starving and so was my husband, so we decided to let them go to the cocktail hour and dinner while we munched on fruit and crackers. That was the only time my new husband and I got to relax and just hang out before we were presented as the newlyweds. However, because we were also playing the part of wedding coordinators, my honey had to go fix a seating crisis when my brother decided to change the number of 2 tables creating a mini chaos.
From then on everything started happening really fast. After our first dance, my extremely conservative Father-In-Law decided to leave without saying goodbye because he didn’t like the music. Oh and my SIL? The one that made me wait on my wedding day, at my bridal room? She decided that was the perfect day to serve her husband with divorce papers. Yeah. Oh did I mention he was in the bridal party and she did it and ran? But not before she gave us instructions on how to put away the linens. Yeah. Honestly, I should have known she was up to no good when she asked if she could bring her boyfriend even though no one knew she had one. Did I mention she was married?
You might be wondering why I’m focusing on all the negative things that happened at my DIY wedding. Maybe it’s because it just happened and the wound is still open, but mainly I’m doing it to keep this from happening to another DIY bride. What I’ve learned is that you should really let a professional handle your wedding day. I know, I know money is tight. But, even a Day Of Coordinator would have made a world of a difference! THey would have “escorted” all the unwanted guests out of the bridal room. They would have dealt with my brother playing musical chairs! They would have kept my new husband and I blissfully unaware to all these little crisises.
Now let me tell you want went right. Our DIY centerpieces were a hit! People were flipping coins to see who would take them home. Our DIY bouquets look simply awesome and super professional (thank YouTube!) I made my own veil, and it only cost me $7 (thank you fashion distric in DT LA, and YouTube!) In total we only spent $160 on flowers, bought at the LA Flower Mart. There were so many DIY projects I can’t remember all of them right now, but they definetly added a personal touch that made everything feel a little extra special. I will be psoting pics soon.
My one regret is not starting a weddingbee account sooner. I am pretty sure one of you lovely ladies (or gentlemen) would have opened my eyes to the importance of not trying to do everything on your own! Oh well, live and learn.