Post # 1
I bought the Melissa Sweet Lia at a PB sample sale for well over my budget. Yes, even 50% off was over budget. I thought I had this great unique but classic dress but it seems like everywhere I turn I see another bride with my dress at my venue or another venue I’ve considered.
So I’m having doubts. I plan on selling the dress after the wedding to recoup some of my costs but if its worth more as an unaltered sample, would it be more fiscally responsbile for me to find an in budget dress and sell the sample? It seems to be everywhere either in its original form or in a copy. Advice on how to price it? If size makes a difference for pricing its a size 8 (street size 6/8) and the length has not been hemmed. If i wear it it will be altered down to 37/27/37. Any thoughts would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland
If you like the dress, wear the dress. Why does it matter if other people have worn your dress at your venue? I highly doubt that your guests will say, "that dress is so overdone, especially since Jane wore it at her wedding here last weekend."
Preowned wedding dresses has several for sale, most of which have been altered. Prices range from $1500-$2500.
I honestly think that the money you would save from selling the dress unaltered vs. altered won’t be enough to cover the cost of a new dress.
Post # 4
i agree with dahlia – if you loved the dress so much that you went over budget, why doubt yourself?
Post # 5
I think every bride(myself included!) wants to have her own, totally unique gown. But, the thing is, it will be your own unique dress because you’ll be wearing it – different hair, makeup, flowers etc. but most of all – different person!
If you were feeling so inclined, you could ask your tailor if there s/he has any suggestions on how the dress might be altered to be individualized – adding a ribbon, new seams, whatever.
If you love the dress and feel beautiful and special in it – then that is what is most important!
Post # 6
I had this dress and had some of the same concerns – but it looked different on me than any other picture I saw. I loved it to pieces and go to so many compliments – and most importantly – I felt amazing in it. Who cares if others have had it – most of your guests won’t know that, or even have ever seen it before!
And to answer whether or not it can be sold – YES! I got married 10 months ago and though I am not selling it, I have had about one or two requests per month about selling it, just from people stumbling across my knottie bio. If you listed it you would have no problems. You might ask your seamstress to alter it in a way that it can be altered again.
Post # 7
I know, I know, you ladies are right but I am just a crazy insecure possessive type of person. I also bought the dress as a sample at the store by myself. None of my family or bridesmaids were able to come so maybe part of me is missing that whole experience.
Post # 8
Let me know if you are thinking of selling it.
Post # 9
I sort of don’t get the whole insecurity over someone else wearing your dress thing. Of course someone else is wearing your dress. The company made 250,000 of them. If you want your very own dress, then you get a seamstress to make you a custom dress. And then you ban cameras at the wedding and reception, because sure enough somebody will publish a picture and that picture will get taken to a seamstress… But that’s mainly a problem if you’re crazy famous. But seriously, if you buy a dress from a big manufacturer, brides all over are also wearing your dress. Any other dress you buy will be the same way.
Post # 10
Thank you ladies, once again you have proved why I’m so hesitant to post anything on Wedding Bee. You all make believe that you’re sweet but all I’ve ever experienced is snarkiness. I think it would be a good idea, that you might understand, but instead I’m made to feel like some crazy neurotic bride (which I am but thats besides the point).
Suzanno, they don’t make 250,000 of every dress and the bottom line is I’m having doubts. Everyone is addressing the wrong issue, telling me I am silly without knowing the whole situation (it was never the ‘one’ it was the closest to the one that I could afford)- instead of addressing my actual question about whether or not the dress can be sold. It seems like the resale market is flooded with the Lia and I thought I might have a better shot if it was unworn. I was mostly trying to stick my feelers out for what I might recoup by selling the dress.
I appreciate your ‘input.’ Peace be with you.
Post # 11
ttshoo – Just saw your post and the responses… 🙁
Anyway, i wasn’t sure what the Melissa Swet Lia looked like, so I googled it. A) It’s beautiful. B) Almost every hit on the google search read something like this: "WANTED- Melissa Sweet Lia". Just google the dress and send a few emails. someone will buy it – looks like a TON of people are in search of that dress at a discounted price!
Post # 12
I just read the entire post and all of the comments – and I was stunned to find that you were offended – stunned. Everyone offered great advice, addressing many aspects of your post including the "it seems like it is everywhere…. I am having doubts." You wrote it, people responded to it. I found the thoughts to be really helpful and thoughtful.
And Suzanno is wrong – there are probably 300,000 of every dress! I always look forward to Suzanno’s posts. Everyone should have a practical tough love friend, and Suzanno does that for this board. We need someone to give us a Cher "snap out of it" and remind us that we are being ridiculous.
That being said, I don’t think anyone was responding as though you were a crazed, neurotic bride, because your first post didn’t make you sound that way – your second one did.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2018 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA
ttshoo, perhaps some readers addressed the part of your post that you weren’t hoping to discuss; people sometimes focus on what they want to focus on without necessarily addressing the issue at hand, but that is the wonder of the internet — we can disect and nitpick to no end, change the topic entirely, or detect the wrong "tone" in anything we read! For the record, I think there is more positive feedback here than negative.
It can’t hurt to put out some feelers now to see what you could sell the dress for if you really don’t feel like it’s the dress you’re meant to wear. If you can make a nice amount by selling it and feel that you’ll be better suited in another gown (that will end up putting more money back in your pocket), then go for it. Hearing that the dress was never "the one" like you mentioned in your last comment does change the situation profusely (at least I originally assumed it was "the one" by reading your original post). If you can spend some time searching for a new dress and find one that really gives you that feeling, go for it. But if the real reason this dress isn’t "the one" is because you’re worried about other brides having worn it, try to see past that and know that if it looks great on you, it is your dress, and your dress only! (My dress is a Casablanca gown that I’m sure thousands of other brides have, but I like the way I look in it and the chances of my wedding guests having seen another bride in the exact dress are slim to none! Remember that our guests don’t do the obsessive research we do )
Good luck, whatever you decide!
Post # 14
I just googled your dress and I love it! I really don’t think you will not have too many problems trying to sell it. Check out THIS SITE, your dress is the only one that is listed as sold. If you love the dress then you should wear it. If you aren’t sure about it, go try on more dresses with your bridesmaids. You will either realize that you are truly in love with the Lia, or you will find another dress that is "the one". It took me trying on hundreds of dresses before I found the one, and yes I have a dress that I bought right away that I thought I loved. It is still sitting in my closet, but I bought a different dress for my wedding day. I plan on wearing the first dress as a "trash the dress" during my honeymoon (I want pictures in the water with it!).
Post # 15
yes, brides still fall in love with this dress many seasons later because it is simply a beautiful dress that fits so so well. i was very tempted to wear it as well and sometimes still think about it, hehe…but you will always find a bride who will find it impossible to turn away from a dress that she looks beautiful in…so you should have no problems selling this dress because yes, it is popular. people seek it out more than they would lots of other unknown or less popular dresses.
if you love it and feel beautiful in it, wear it happily. 🙂 because it will show. 🙂
Post # 16
I think you should wear it! (It’s my dress too, by the way). I think it is beautiful, but if you don’t love it 150% then you should find one that you do love. You should feel like your dress is the ONE!!!
As far as resale price, I know that when I was looking for my dress, I didn’t want to spend a ton on the dress (which is exactly why I was looking for a pre-worn one).
You may be able to resell the dress as is for a higher price, but if you’re willing to let go of it after you wear it for less, then you should go that route. Most folks looking for a Lia online aren’t looking to pay full price (or close to full price). That’s the whole point of buying it online. If they can easily get it at a boutique for a similar price you’re selling for, then they’d probably buy at the boutique.