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What type of birth control do you and your fiance/husband use (or do you plan to use once you're married)? Are you satisfied?
My FI and I don't use any birth control now (as we're waiting until after the wedding) but we plan on using the pill. I plan on startiing early so that I can figure out if I have any negative side effects to a particular pill. And hopefully getting all that squared away ahead of time. :)
We currently use Nuvaring and I love it! I had a really bad reaction when I was on the pill a few years ago, but this has been great with predictable periods, no extreme moodiness, and not bad cramps. We are going to switch to condoms after the wedding though since we will be traveling for 6 months and my doctor said the heat sensitivity aspect of Nuvaring would not be conducive.
i havent been on the pill for over 10yrs. at first hubby & i used condoms but after a while i made the decision to go with a variation of natural/withdrawl/other types of twister
so far its all good, he takes my lead in regards what/dates ect and hes not complained about any shortcomings of my methods
we're not planning on having children and the one time i was late he was great about everything so we know if it does happen its just a new beginning of a different life from what we have planned. neither of us are considering a more permanent form of contraception
I am so tired of using condoms, but I have yet to find a hormonal birth control option that doesn't make me crazy. It takes me a good six months after each failed birth control attempt to feel brave enough to try it again because I don't want to put my FI and I through my mood swings again.
Over the years I've used all sorts of BC, but right now we just use condoms. I am horrible at remembering to take my pills and I don't want to deal with unplanned pregnancies. Although condoms are not my particular cup of tea, my FI is happy to oblige, so it works for us.
Though I have chosen to have my tubes tied this year (33 and have never wanted children, so it was the right decision for us). I wanted to share my experience with Depo Provera since it was on your survey.
I have severe Osteoporosis from being on Depo (think coughing and fracturing ribs). Come to find out it also caused an enlarged heart, a weak immune system (had pneumonia 4 times in 5 years) among other side effects. Not until I changed my insurance and got a new doctor was it almost immediately noticed by a nurse that my side effects could be directly linked to my birth control choice. Depo in fact has a black box warning for Osteoporosis and you should really talk to your doctor about your options!
I have been on the patch (Ortho Evra) for 6 years and am very happy with it. I don't believe all the bad press it's gotten about blood clots and all that - every medication has its possible side-effects. It does have higher doses of hormones than pills and other methods, but my body seems to handle this pretty well. (I can't remember my 'monthly' symptoms from before I started the patch, so I don't have a solid comparison!).
I know I'm one of those people who would never remember to take a pill every day, so sticking a patch on once a week is really nice. And, effective! 6 years and not one single 'scare' 
Also, I'm not sure about the timing on pills, but every month I take my patch off on a Wednesday, get my period on Saturday, and then it ends the following Thursday. Always. It's so nice to be able to plan around that!
I find that being past menopause, having had a hysterectomy, and being in a monogamous relationship with a same-sex partner is a pretty effective method of birth control. ;-)
I was on the ortho evra, It always fell off!! Not very effective if you cant get it to stick to you!
I was on the pill next (after my kiddo, thanks ortho evra!) and always forgot to take it. It was even in the middle of the day and I couldnt ever remember to take it.
Now I am on the Nuvaring and it is a dream come true! Its so simple to put in and remove that I've never had a problem with it.
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I was on ortho tricyclen and got pregnant :) But it worked for years before that!
I am not good at taking pills thanks to shift work, nuvaring popped out on more than one occaision (we are fairly vigorous twister players ...), and I am only using birth control until we get married, so I switched back to depo-provera according to my fabulous GP - if you use it for less than 2 years the bone density effects seem to be reversible.
I LOVE it, no menstrual periods, even moods, and it didn't effect my sex drive like other methods did (and yay for doing away with condoms for the first time in our 3 year relationshp!)
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The pill. I love it. Periods are short and pretty light, I know exactly when they're going to be, and I've never had any side effects from it.
I *love* my nuvaring. It's not for those who have a hard time touching their muffin. You have to get a bit personal. I'm a nurse, so it's not a big thing for me. But you put it in and done....for three weeks. I actually have to write in my date book when to change rings b/c I would forget. Not issues with side effects and I have been using it roughly 6 years.
Friendly reminder....please do not smoke while on hormonal birth control. I am an Neuro ICU nurse and have taken care of several young women who have stroked while smoking on hormonal birth control. NOT worth the risk.
I said it before and I'll say it again, the copper (no hormones) IUD rocks my socks. It is the right choice for me because:
- hormonal methods (tried many pills, nuvaring, depo) gave me terrible headaches, caused weight gain, and some gave me nasty mood swings
- its 99.9% effective
- there is no risk of me doing something wrong to prevent it from working properly.
- there is no monthly payment or insurance to deal with - i paid up front and this baby lasts up to 10 years!
- it doesn't have to last 10 years. if mr. mj and I decide to start a family sooner, I can have it removed and will immediately be fertile (unlike the hormonal methods, which sometimes you have to try for months before you're back to normal)
- i feel good that i'm not putting artificial hormones/chemicals in to my body on a long term basis.
Many docs might give you crap about getting an IUD if you haven't had kids, but it's totally do-able. Not the most comfortable procedure in the world, but you can stand it, and it is WORTH IT.
I've been on the pill for a while. I changed around a couple of times when I first started, but have found one that works for me with virtually no side effects/issues.
I was on the pill for over 4 years, but changed over to condoms last fall (about 10 months ago). After quitting hormonal bc, I realized my sex drive was definately returning and I wasn't as moody/emtional as before. We currently just use condoms, although I am looking into classes on STM (a natural family planning method) and I ordered my copy of Taking Charge of Your Feritility a couple days ago.
Right now I'm on Yaz because of serious cramps, and after we get married we'll probably continue to use birthcontrol and probably condoms also. But my first few days o n the pill i was insainly horny, but i've gotten it undercontrol.
I just stopped taking the birth control. I'd been on Ortho tri cyclen and then the mini-pill, and am having high blood pressure. So we are going with "just" condoms until I can be certain that my high blood pressure is not birth-control related.
I've tried YAZ (but it was too expensive) and now I am on Ocella and I feel no difference. I had used Nueva ring and loved it! But my with my new bf we have trouble keeping it in *during* and it's hurts when it accedetially comes out, which was happening everytime. But pill is fine.
I've been on the pill for over 10 years now and I'm starting to get tired of messing with nature. We're switching to condoms or natural family planning (haven't decided which yet) after the wedding.
Miss Mary Jane--I'm SO THERE! I've had my Paragard (copper IUD) in for about a year and a half now. All of the problems that I battled with my body I realize now go back to the hormones (I had been on the pill and Nuvaring--the ring was fabulous for a while). Now, the migraines, the puffiness, the decreased sex drive, the strange periods--gone. (Well, except for the migraines, but I now get them once every 2 or 3 months instead of twice a month, going from 25-30 a year to about 5 or 6!)
And it's weird--I feel more like a woman. I feel like my body makes sense in a way it didn't before, like I've got a natural rhythm going on instead of something forced (yes, I know how strange, and even gross, this sounds--but it's a good thing, I swear!). I'll never go back. I'll have it removed when we want to have babies, then have it replaced afterwards. I'm a changed girl.
If anyone has questions about their IUD options, stroll on over to IUD Divas (http://community.livejournal.com/iud_divas)--they helped me a lot when I was making up my mind.
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I third MaryJane on the copper IUD. For me, there's not a better choice. I absolutely love it but I think I've already raved about it enough so I'll just leave it at that. :-)
Another for the copper IUD. There is negative PMS- If I didn't write it down, I would forget TOM was coming. No rage, or fits of wanting to stuff a sock in the next person who breathes...it's the best.
Seriously, these posts make me want to try an IUD ... I know we don't want to have kids for at least 18 months after we're married and the wedding is 3 1/2 months away ... is it worth it?
Say I want to have a baby in 2 years. Would everything be ok etc.?
Do you still get a period? Ok. I have to go research this.
Just realized my current pill is so strong for accutane that it's giving me a dark mouth and lip look, dark under eyes ... my hormones are out of control and I get the worst pms
Right now we use the pill, and we may continue it for the first year or so after we get married, but we want to have a child within the first three years of our marriage, so after about I year I think I'll go off it, and if we're not ready to start a family quite yet, we'll use natural planning (no sex around ovulation).
Thought I'd chime in again here just to say that I am also very interested in trying FAM (fertility awarness method). I bought the book and a thermometer awhile back but still haven't started charting. I'm sure there must be a few bees who use this method and I'm wondering what they think of it!? For those of you who don't like hormonal BC this is definitey something to check out. It sounds pretty cool.
I guess I should have added this in my earlier post, but the copper IUD sounds pretty good as well but... I was wondering, how badly does it hurt when you get it put in? I've heard it hurts a lot. Is that true?
I have a IUD as well but one of the ones with hormones I have an allergy to copper . northernazbride , to be frank for me it hurt ALOT!!! from what i understand unless you have given birth naturally it's normal for it you hurt. The pain didn't last long only a few minutes before a dull ache and I haven't had any issues in the 3 years it's been. It's worked very well for me . Like any form of birth control it's a very personal choice.
Omg. I cannot handle pain. I'm too scared. Ok. I need a low-hormone pill badly. I think mine is too strong. I hate that my freakin lip is turning dark, my under eyes are darkening, I have really bad pms .. I mean, this isn't worth it.
I started on the pill when I was 19 because my hormones were " all wild" I never had any side effects , so totally love it!!
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I've been on the pill before and just wasn't happy with it. I had trouble remembering to take it everyday at the same time and I'm just not crazy about I felt when I was on them. So we use condoms. We are going to start trying for a baby within the next year so I don't want to go on anything at this point.
I have the Merina (sp?) IUD and absolutely love it. It does have hormones in it, but according to the manufacturer and each of my five doctors since I got it, the hormones are so minimal that they really only work locally to increase the cervial mucus. Sorry if that's TMI.
I am ultra sensitive to homones and tried every pill available for 10 years before trying this IUD. I love that I never get my period, and that it's 99.9% effective. I will never go back!
I should add that is was fairly painful when they inserted it, but was fine very soon afterwards. It's 100% worth the discomfort. You can ask that your doctor numb your cervix before inserting, which makes a huge difference. They'll also probably dialate you the day before. Again, sorry if that's TMI.
Several of my girlfriends have told me that it does not hurt AT ALL when they take it out. And two of them got pregnant within a month of having it taken out.
I am on yasmine - my doc put me on this pill after i had been on a few others that just wreaked HAVOC on me and my emotions and my body.
I personally love yasmine because I have had absolutely NO side effects with it whatsoever (and am actually on it's generic form, ocella) - but it's the first pill that's not given me any problems.
Before - and I can't remember now what the name of it was - I know it was the generic form of Mircette - that one made me so moody and I wanted to sleep all the time - and the weight gain and ugh it was just awful.
I know - if you look online - yasmine is very either you love it or hate it - there's no in between. Some women absolutely HATE it and think it's the worst pill ever then there are women, such as myself, who absolutely LOVE it and think it's the best pill ever. :)
As far as family planning goes - he and I want to start trying immediately after the wedding next june (I'll be 30 in a month and he's 36...) My next yearly is in December so I'll be talking to my doc about when exactly to stop my pill to let my body get back to "normal" so that we will have a good chance of immediately conceiving after the wedding.
I am also on Metformin, however, for Insulin Resistance - and Metformin actually HELPS with ovulation so I don't know how that will help/affect it at all - again talkin' to doc at the end of the year. :)
I've been on the pill for a long time and my fiance and I usually use condoms as well, and I'm seriously flirting with the idea of switching to an IUD instead. Because we're in an LDR, i'm really bad at taking the pills at the same time every day (or every day at all) because most months I'm not going to be having sex! So we use condoms and I'm paranoid about getting pregnant after every visit. I am so into the idea of not having to take a pill every day, and being married and not having to use condoms any more.
JuneBride: I'm on Kariva - a generic form of Mircette. I am beginning to hate this pill. I started it because I went on accutane. I think it has given me horrible side effects. Maybe I'll try yasmine.
I used to be on Yasmin and I loved it but it was too darn expensive! Now I am on ZenChent and it's okay...I have had no problems and I certainly love that it only costs me $7 a month as opposed to $46!
I have been on a few different pills, but for the past few years Lutera has worked very well for me with no noticable side effects. I originally started taking the pill in high school to regulate my cycle so I know that different levels of hormones do not work with my body (i.e. I go crazy).
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