- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
We are still in the early planning stages of our ceremony, but last weekend my FI had some time off on Saturday for the first time in a long time so we went on an actual date, which we haven’t been able to do in a couple months!
While we were eating, we got to talking about our rehearsal dinner food, which got us to thinking about the ceremony, and it occured to me that while I had thought about what I would like to include, we hadn’t discussed it together! Seeing as how the ceremony is the most important part of the day to us, we talked and came up with a very rough draft outline of how we wanted the evening to go.
Lighting of the Candelabras by Ushers, Bride’s younger brothers
Entrance of Groom and Officiant
Escort mothers and grandmothers in
Enter groomsmen and bridesmaids
Ring bearer and Flower Girls
Father gives Bride away
Worship, 2 songs
Word to parents
Parents light candles
Vows and Rings
Light Unity Candle while Bride’s sister sings
Like I said, this is very basic…but I’m curious to know if I’ve left out anything.
Now, to my real point…for our reading we have chosen The Union by R. Fulghum:
You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.
Who should read this? The officiant, or should we get someone who is close to us to?
Thanks, Bees! 🙂