(Closed) The ups and downs of wedding planning, how are you dealing with it?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I also use weddingbee for that purpose!  But sometimes I find that when I blog or surf weddingbee too much, I start to feel disconnected from my fiance, so I try to keep things balanced and not go too overboard. 

I also try to schedule happy hours with friends that have totally different things going on in their lives–looking for jobs, pregnant, just starting to date someone, etc.  That way, it helps to remind me that the rest of the world goes on while I am in wedding mode, and it also helps to keep my mind off of stressful things.  And, it puts things in perspective–when I talk to a friend that lost her job and hasn’t worked in six months, it makes me realize how lucky I am to have a job in this economy, and that the decor details of our reception don’t matter THAT much.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Vodka.  I spent most of the week before our wedding in a haze. 🙂

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I have def. been feeling stressed out lately.  Making things worse, my fiance hasn’t helped at ALL with planning.  I guess I always expected my sister and my mom to be all excited and help with every little detail….turns out they have lots of their own things to do and I have been pretty much on my own so far.  I like planning, details, etc…but I wish I had a little bit more support.  On top of all that, expenses are overwhelming!!!!  My parents are paying for most of the wedding and I constantly feel guilty about how much things cost.  My dad is the sort that thinks weddings are pretty much frivolous and a waste of money…plus the economy sucks and no one wants to spend lots of money right now.  I have taken it upon myself to pay for the photography….which is going to be 3,500!!!!!  I have no savings right now so I guess I am going to get a credit card and pay what i can off with money we get from showers, etc….

If that isn’t enough, we are getting ready to buy a house and that is another set of problems, money ,etc…the fiance isn’t the best with money so I constantly have to fuss at him to take care of little things…doctor bills, speeding tickets, etc…it is driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Ok…i feel better!  Thanks everyone for letting me vent.

 

 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

<p class=”MsoNormal”>I have been very emotional as well during my wedding planning. It has become very overwhelming and I’m just ready for my wedding day to be here already. I’ve learned to take things in stride though and try to stay calm through it  thanks to my wonderful fiancé.  In the end it’s about your marriage, not the flowers, the linens, the booze, or your garter. Don’t fret over the small stuff! <span style=”font-size: 10pt; font-family: Tahoma”>

Post # 7
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Worker bee

xanax.  lots of xanax.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I definitely feel like i’m in an overwhelmed, lonely yucky stage of wedding planning right now.

Unfortunately, my situations is mostly (or at least more) due to the fact that my fiance lives 2,200 miles away from me while I’m planning what feels like MY wedding, since he’s not involved in anything. 

The fun part is passed, and the last 6 months before the wedding I’m just so ready to be married and done.  I try to be concerned about all the details, but it’s slipping.  I’ve not had the "OMG, we’re getting married, I’m so excited!" moments very often lately.  Wedding planning is pulling me under right now and I’m waiting for that fun part to start!  You know, that Life is Good feeling that Miss Cheese had recently?  I haven’t quite found it yet.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think every bride gets overwhelmed during the whole wedding process.  Not only are you planning your wedding, but you either have a job or school to worry about as well, family, friends, bills… the list goes on. I have a lot of things on my plate right now besides wedding planning and I’m just trying to enjoy it at this point. You will only do this once, and you want to be excited. Even though there are times where you want to cry and scream, and elope. You will get to that OMG moment soon enough.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

WORKING OUT although it has been one of my most effected things since i have been wedding planning. I use to work out five times a week – now the wedding planning (which is still four months away) and finally being off school for summer have me off schedule. But I have to push myself to go out for a run – sometime my fiancee drops extra hints to get me to workout, not b/c I extremely need the exercise to slim up (which I do since I have slacked on bridal buffing LOL) but just so I dont annoy him with my bad attitude from not working out.

 JUST DO IT GIRLS!

 Oh yeah, vodka & wine too!

Post # 11
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Newbee

I love listening to my favourite music (old & new) as it brings back great memories, awesome songs and it’s the perfect opportunity for "me time". I’m so new to this wedding planning stuff and after an initial dress shopping/venue scouting experience, I was ready to call it a day. Everyone has opinions and ideas of how things should be and after 1.5 days of it, I’d had enough and drove back home (I live far away). So many people say "it’s your day, do what you want" but when it comes down to the planning – (at least for me) – I didn’t see this materialize at all. I never wanted an all about me affair, but somewhere in the middle would have been so great. Wow, who would’ve thought it would be so stressful, so soon!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ok, so this thread was started 3 months ago, right around the time when I became completely obsessed with WeddingBee- and I actually saw it and didn’t respond because I didn’t have any emotional stress.

Well, now that I’m addicted to everything wedding related, and it has completely consumed my entire existence, I now can respond to this! 

YES, I am so emotional! I was already secretly a little bit sensitive and very expressive/passionate about my feelings etc. … but now I’m completely overly emotional. 

I have really helped myself by putting into affect times where I do not discuss anything wedding related. I just leave it out of the conversation, for my sake and my fiances! This is the biggest amount of stress our relationship has experienced, and I’m happy to say that we really are so good at problem solving and finding ways to co-exist during my "crazy wedding planning" phase … lol. 

 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

This whole wedding planning thing has gotten me pretty depressed.  I woke up this morning all sad and teary eyed.  I am one of the lone brides who are doing this all on their own and in my case, I am hating it.  I was losing hope and wondering the meaning of all this.  I guess my opening an account here today  and start posting here is the answer to your question. LOL  I do feel better knowing now that I am not alone – that a lot of brides are more or less in the same boat as I am.  Seeing that you have posted so much on this board, I hope this outlet is good enough for you.  Personally, I find talking to people help a lot, my problem is most people are so busy and they don’t want to always listen to my wedding planning in detail.  

 My FI thinks I am wedding obsessed so I can’t talk to him, either.  What makes it worse is that the less he seem to care about the wedding, the more I feel like I need to focus on the wedding – if he doesn’t, who will?

 TBH, I am not enjoying all this wedding planning, but I think it’s because we can’t decide on a venue.  I am hoping the other parts will be more fun.

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