The Venue Struggle – What to do????

posted 3 years ago in Venue
  • poll: Go for the Gold or settle for Silver?
    Really go after the venue I want? : (18 votes)
    82 %
    Give in to the other place but select amazing decorations? : (4 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    For only a $1k difference I would pick what I want. However, is money an issue that the $1,000 is a big deal? If so, choose the less expensive venue and decorate. I don’t think the orange is ugly! I would pick some colors to complement it!

    Post # 5
    pyramidBee
    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - St. Francis of Assisi Church & N.O. Board of Trade

    Are they both about the same size and can fit your guests and have the type of wedding that you want? Are they in similar locations?  

    Orange walls might seem to be a silly reason not to choose a certain venue, but if you’ll have to go through so much trouble to cover them up or decorate it to your liking, then the first venue seems like the best option.  It’s already so cute, so you probably don’t need to decorate much, and that’s a good bit of savings.  

    I’d go with the one that you like.  

    Post # 6
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    In all honesty I get the same general vibe from both venues. They both say “vibrant, fun, lighthearted” to me. Is there a particular reason why orange absolutely could not work for you? Is it a wedding color scheme issue? Does the color orange make you feel ill? Are you a natural red head who doesn’t look good around orange? I can see plenty of reasons why orange walls could be a legit non-starter. But if it’s more a preference, and the orange doesn’t really detract from having the kind of wedding you want to have, then maybe saving $1000 is enough of a reason to let go of your initial dislike.

    Post # 8
    pyramidBee
    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - St. Francis of Assisi Church & N.O. Board of Trade

    @CocoClassic:  I get you, I’m not a fan of the color orange either.  Have you been able to find pictures of weddings at these veneues?  That might help change your mind. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Are there things, wedding related or not, that you could put that extra $1000 to good use for? Maybe a few days longer on your honeymoon or an upgrade on your wedding band or something? Instead of focusing on what you are not getting with venue #2, you could try to focus on what you are getting. Look at the upside, ya know? And if that still doesn’t work, and you’re stuck on venue #1, then sometimes you just need to go for it.

    Post # 12
    Member
    337 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @CocoClassic:  My initial reaction to your photos is I would prefer location 1 vs 2.  I’m not a huge fan of the orange walls, but not sure that is even the deal breaker for me.  It’s the floor of all things!  I can’t speak to your situation, but for me, $1000 savings related to wedding expenses wouldn’t make me change my overall plans.  But I have to say the views of both places are STUNNING!  So if saving $1000 would make your fiance super excited, and you still get that view … it might be a compromise worth making.  And you do make a good point about budget and decor.  If you have to up the decor to make venue 2 look and feel the way you envisioned, then maybe it’s not worth it in the overall scheme and venue 1 actually SAVES you money in the long run!  Maybe put that spin on it for your FI:)

    Post # 13
    Member
    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @CocoClassic:  Honestly, I have seen a couple of friends go down the road of picking the cheaper place but then spending a ridiculous amount of money on decorations the place attempting to make it look like the preferred location. 

    In the end — and I have made them do this — look at how much they actually spent on decorations.  Surprise surprise, they end up spending the same amount of money if not more than they would have if they had gone with their preferred location.

    So what is the point then… also remember you are stuck with these pictures for the rest of your life… your children will see them, your children’s children will see them (presumption on my end that you are having children, but you get my point).

    My opinion… selected your preferred location.  If it is $1,000 over budget, try to cut certain costs in other areas.  Something as simple as $50 – $100 from each wedding item adds up.  Or how about forego Christmas gifts this year between the two of you?  Or fewer dinner’s out?  You would be surprised how quickly $1,000 can be saved up.   

    Most importantly, I would phrase it to your fiancee that you are willing to compromise and cut certain costs elsewhere either in your wedding or other areas so that this venue can be picked. 

    Just my 2 cents.  

    Post # 15
    Member
    6204 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I actually like the second venue better, but I guess I don’t mind the color orange! I think that with some colored table cloths and flower arrangements, it’ll just look colorful, and not orange. The reason it looks so orange right now is because everything else is neutral.

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