Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I have discussed marriage and I suspect that he will be officially proposing by the end of the year to coincide with a move we are doing early next year.
I am getting excited, but little nervous, not because I don’t think he is Mr. Right ( He is my life mate, and I know that), I am more nervous about the actual proposal part.
The fact that he is proposing is not a surprise to me since we have spoken about it, but the actual when and ring type is.
I want him to pick out a ring for me ( much more romantic, then shopping for it together), but I am nervous that it wont be something I will love ( its not the size I worry about, more the setting type) plus I am nervous how will I react when he proposes, like will the fact that I know it is coming ruin my emotion to it? or will my natural emotion still take over ? what if I dont like the ring? and inadvertenly look disappointed? I know its silly, but I am starting to panic. I hoping that when he does propose I will actually still be “surprised” and be emotional to it.
For the ladies that spoke about marriage and new it was coming, how did you react when the time actually came? was it surreal? did you still cry? or did the fact you knew it was coming take away from the moment?
Anybody suffer from ring remorse? Will the emotion of being engaged override it?
Post # 3
Perhaps you should at least alert him to the style of ring you like so that you minimize the possibility of being diappointed.
As for the proposal part, most men know that it is a big deal for us, and often make us wait while they figure out how to make it a wonderful experience for us. I knew mine was coming, and he put so much thought into making it great, I love him more for it and I cried anyway.
Post # 4
@christineandjohn: Thanks Christine! I asked my sister to tell him cushion cut cut thru the grapevine, so he will have my favorite diamond cut at least. lol Looking through settings myself makes me dizzy. Can’t possibly feel comfortable telling him cushion cut halo micro pave band – non frame halo -Please lol
Dang all these choices we women have.
As for the proposal, I have a feeling he will plan something nice and thoughful, so crossing fingers that it will be so sweet and meaningful that my genuine emotion will come thru. Reading thru these posts, I had no idea how much women were expecting such elaborate proposals. My only requests are that it is done in private, and that he gets down on one knee ( so sweet)
The anticipation is killing me lol
Post # 5
I feel you! SO and I will be getting engaged sometime this fall..and that’s all I know. The waiting game is driving me crazy!
In terms of the ring, SO really wanted to pick it out by himself so that it would be a total surprise. He (not surprisingly) doesn’t know much about rings or diamonds, so he asked me to show him (men are visual creatures) what I liked. I emailed him about 5-10 pictures off of Pinterest and other sites that I LOVED. I also sent him a couple of pictures to show him things I really, really didn’t like. He went ring shopping this past weekend, and although I have no idea what my ring will end up looking like, I’m confident that he took what I showed him to heart. He’s also so excited about the ring he picked out, so just seeing his reaction to buying it makes me even more certain that I’ll love it no matter what.
On the proposal end, I also want it to be a surprise and so does he. I know he has a plan, but I have no idea what it is. Like you, my only request was that it’s not done in public. And he has to ask/tell my dad beforehand. I’m sure that whatever he decides to do will be super sweet, so I’m not worried.
I think that just because you know it’s coming in the next few months does not guarantee you’ll know exactly when it’s going to happen. Don’t push for details (I know how hard that is) and just try to enjoy the next few months! I bet you will be surprised AND you’ll love your ring!
Post # 6
@nber0815: Thank you for your kind words. I totally would feel comfortable sending him pictures of rings I like and rings I don’t like, but for some reason he hasnt asked lol. I think he only asked my sister my ring size and prefered diamond cut. Sigh. Everynight I scroll thru pinterst engagment ring boards, and pick out my favorites, hoping that telepathically my taste will transfer over to him lol.
I think Im scared about that is because I know I am picky, but I am not sure he knows that I am about things. I think it is because I internalize and do my own leg work to find what I want. lol I may have to casually make mention to how picky I am, so he may take a hint and ask for guidance from either me or my sister. To be continued,,,
Your right about the surprise, I shouldn’t worry so much that I won’t be surprised, because I am sure when it happens he will do something so sweet that my heart will melt and I will probably break out into my nervous laughter and squeal.