(Closed) The Waiting Game sucks!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’ll try and make this short and sweet for you… Talk to him!

Sit down and have a serious talk with him that you’d love to turn these words of the future into forever words. Ask him about his idea on marriage and possibly a timeline of when you two would like to be married.

Post # 5
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@always_the_bridesmaid:  My advice is also to sit down and talk to him. You do not have to pressure him, just simply ask him what his thoughts on the future are. In my opinion you two have not been together that long to be at the point where you feel like you need to be engaged right away. Give him some time. Maybe he is just worried about being deployed and not being able to be there for your while he is gone. Maybe he is wanting to wait till he gets back from deployment so that he can give you the dream engagement / wedding that you want.  If you pressure him to get engaged and married he could just run the other way. Be patient, but still let him know that you have the future / marriage on your mind.

Post # 6
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1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yep, the best way to is openly communicate your desire to get engaged/married to him. So many times we think having a conversation about our feelings will come off as pressuring the guy, but he can’t read your mind! And you can’t read his. I think you’ll feel better if you get on the same page as him. Don’t worry, I bet it turns out better than you think. 

By the way, the dress and ring are beautiful! Now stop just day-dreaming about it and talk to your man so you can make it a reality. 

Post # 8
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1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

That’s good! The best way I think to approach the situation is to ask where he sees the future going for the two of you. I can understand not wanting to sound like you are pressuring him. So make sure he understands that you just want to make sure you both are on the same page. Make a tentative timeline for getting engaged. It’s more than fair to ask these types of questions, especially with you both being military. Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 9
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You have to talk to him! And you have a perfect excuse for bringing it up.YOUR FRIEND’S WEDDING 🙂 tell him something about it and say “but I want our wedding to a little different, maybe blue not yellow, what do you think?” etc. It’ll jog him into the thought.

My OH never ever wanted to get married at all when we first met. He made it clear. But i didnt shut up. I made it clear that if we did go for the long haul and we’re unmarried that would be a HUGE compromise on my part. Then I simply didnt shut up about other people’s weddings and how amazing they were lol

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