The wedding is off….. He cheated!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1506 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Enamore:  I’m so sorry this happened. But better he did it now than after you’re married. Not all men are like that, and I hope that one day you find one that will be there for you in every way possible.


As for the Save The Dates… if they’re already sent out, I would assign your family members to make some phone calls for you. Maybe mom calls guests #1-20, dad calls guests #21-40, etc. Because I personally wouldn’t wanna have to make those phone calls myself. Your family doesn’t have to go into any detail, they can just say that because of some personal reasons, the wedding has been postponed indefinitely, and to ignore the STD once it arrives.


Post # 5
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Enamore:  Sorry you are having to deal with this. Do you have email addresses for most of your guests? Obviously you have their regular mail addresses.

I would send out an email or mail a small card and keep the message simple.

“I am sorry to have to share with you that the wedding is cancelled. Thanks for your understanding.”

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Enamore:  Congrats on finding the strength to move on! I know how insanely hard that is.

While I would sent out the notice “Enamore (Lastname) will not be marrying the disgusting, hairy slimeball (Firstname Lastname) as planned on March 22nd, 2014. He turned out to be a dirty philanderer–though with such a tiny dick, the other woman was probably unaware of what was going on. Please disregard the Save the Date you received for their nuptials.”

But for real, I would probably mention it to your parents and a few friends, and let them spread the news!

Post # 9
285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Enamore:  send out save the date no more cards.  Make light of of it.  I know it’ll cost money, but just send out stdnm cards stating the wedding for now has been postponed and sorry for any invconvenience this has caused to anoyone.  Those of you who care to know why will reach out to you.  Those will typically be your best friends and closest family members.

I’m glad to hear you are doing okay knowing the circumstances.  Cheating is a hard thing to work through.  So even though you guys are not going through with the wedding, please know you have a place to come to and ask for advice when times get tough.  🙂

Post # 10
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BrandNewBride:  LOL!! that would certainly be fun

OP – yea, I would just email them, if possible, but maybe I’m a chicken like that, and just say the wedding has been cancelled, thank you for your understanding.  No need to explain further. *hugs*

Post # 11
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

 I’m sorry this happened to you, but like others say, better to find out now! You’ll find someone who treats you like a princess!  Hang in there, girl.  We cancelled our wedding and didn’t bother to tell anyone but close friends and family. They’ll get the hint when they don’t get an invite.

Post # 12
2136 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry that you are going through this.

Post # 13
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I can’t remember where I read this, or who it was about, but this happened to someone else (I think it was an actress?) and she sent out notes to everyone she sent an STD to that read something like, “I thought we were getting married, but it turns out that I gave him the wrong finger.’ BOOM

Post # 15
2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh I am so sorry this has happened, but like PPs have said – far better to find out now than after the wedding.I would try to e-mail as many people as possible and call the rest. I think you will find most folks will take it in stride – cancelled weddings are not uncommon. Most of all, stand your ground and be ubber nice to yourself!

Post # 16
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Oh 🙁  this is going to be such a tough time for you, but believe me in (an unspecified length of) time you will realise what a massive favour he has done you, and what a speeding bullet you dodged.

Take time to be you again, listen to what your body and mind is telling you, if you want to veg out, do that, if you want to go for a jog, or eat icecream in your pyjamas, do it.  If you just want to scream or cry….  let it go.  I know it sounds cliched, but after my broken engagement I needed something else to think about and concentrate on.  So start using the time you’re no long using to wash his stinky underpants (!) on yourself!

Sending you hugs and healing vibes.


And as for the STD withdrawal – it’s amazing how quickly word speads, use it to you advantage in this instance, and let others communicate what a jerk your ex-FI is

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