Post # 1
Now that you dont have to plan anymore what are you focusing on after the wedding? or what do you plan to do?
We bought a house & moved 1 week before we left for our destination wedding. We will be decorating our new house, are trying for a baby, I will be starting a degree part time online, finding a new hobby or 2, focusing on my health/weight & saving money.
Im honeslty worried about feeling a little depressed about the wedding being over as it consumed pretty much all my spare time towards the end:( also I have a few people getting married soon & Im happy for them but cant get into total details with them as its a bit upsetting & Im sort of sick of wedding details!
Post # 3
@bride202: It’s been 4 months since our wedding and our lives has been on the fast track. We have moved acrossed the country into our new place. Our family is back at our home state so it’s pretty much just us and our newly rescued pup. So far, we are concentrating on decorating our place, training our puppy, focusing on losing weight and getting back on track to the healthy lifestyle we led up to the wedding. Also, I am currently looking at the possibility of going back to school since my job will pay for it and as for hobbies, I am enrolling in a crochet class!
Post # 4
@msfuturea: wow u r one busy lady! thats great u r keeping busy. moving to another town/city is huge in itself. i hope to pick up a few new hobbies &/or go back to uni. crochet class cool!
Post # 5
Just enjoy being married! That was the point of all the planning and the wedding – getting to spend all of the days after (forever!) enjoying life with your new guy.
Milestone-wise, we did end up buying a house about 6-9 months after the wedding. But I think it’s really important to learn to be able to just live in and appreciate the current moment rather than always be looking ahead to planning your next big thing. But at some point the big things are going to stop and you need to be able to just enjoy life with your family in your home together. Not saying being excited about milestones is a bad thing, they’re great, it always just worries me a bit when brides are worried they’ll be depressed when the wedding is over and they can’t plan it anymore.
Post # 6
I’m worried about this too!! I’m finishing my PhD in June, we are moving across the country to start new jobs July 1, and our wedding is in September! The holidays will keep me busy for a bit, but I’m honestly worried I’ll be bored and sad it’s all over when January rolls around! We won’t be buying a house out TTC for a little while either. I guess we just need to focus on being married and trying to enjoy pre-baby life!
Post # 7
I’m 38 and FI will be 37 in a few weeks. We’re doing the baby thing, probably before the wedding even 🙂
Post # 8
Right after the wedding we started saving for a house, which we close on today! This summer is crazy! We inspired a couple to get married and my MOH is also getting married plus it is DH’s 10 year high school reuinion, so we have a lot of things to keep us busy. PLUS we are going to start trying for a baby this late summer/fall. We have a busy marriage, but a fun one!
Post # 9
Hmm, I’m actually not sure now. We bought a house last month, so that’s done. We’re spending any spare time and money this year decorating/renovating it, so that should be mostly done by wedding time too. I’m hoping to go back to school this fall, and I plan on being done losing weight by then (though of course will continue to focus on healthy and fitness after the wedding as well). We don’t plan on having kids for a few more years.
I should probably think of a new hobby or something to take up so that I’m not bored and depressed after the wedding!
Post # 10
@bride202: Yes, I have been a busy lady! It’s been great for us since we are learning to live with one another since it is the first time hubby and I are living together! To be honest, I think hubby and I were ready to get the wedding done and over with, lol. We had a long engagement period (because I insisted) and we reached the point where we just wanted to be married and start off our married life. There are other milestones, ups and downs which a marriage faces even at its early stages. I know we did and it is helping us build a strong foundation for our marriage.
All I want to say is not to worry about what happens after your wedding. Life is unpredictable and it can provide us with many surprises. Enjoy your marriage with each situations that comes your way and your new home!
Post # 11
thanks girls for ur replies. some of u have been very busy bees. I am of the belief of always having something to work towards so that a) i dont fall into a depression & b) i have read where couples r so excited planning the wedding, pregnancy, buying house etc then when life gets mundane & ur not actively working towards common goals together, thats when problems arise. so i am trying to be proactive. keep ur posts coming!
Post # 12
I still have a couple more weeks until my wedding but I want to play along. 🙂
We’ve been engaged for almost 16 months so I’m excited to be done with the planning. I’ve actually already started a list of things I can’t wait to do after we get back from our honeymoon. I started my first semester of Grad School in January and I graduate next April. So I’m looking forward to having more time to focus on school. In between I want to start looking for a job for after I graduate and work on decorating/ organizing our house. Most importantly, I want to enjoy being a married couple!