Post # 1
Ok, this is a little long, and seems very complicated. One of our college friends moved as we were sending out our invitations, and apparently he had the postal service send stuff to his parents house because he had a little bit of a gap between old job and new grad school in another city. Anyway, the invitation ends up at his parents house, and his mom wrote a very sweet note telling us that with his new job, he won’t be able to take any time out to come to the wedding but he’s really sorry and that he wishes he could be here.
The next day a wedding present shows up with no note–just the Macy’s registry receipt, which indicates that our friend’s MOM sent us the present. BUT, I’m not sure if, for example, she just placed the order, and used her Macy’s card.
So, who do I send the thank you note to? I am inclined to send it to her, but I don’t know if she really wanted the gift to be "from him." But I also don’t want her to think we never acknowledged the preset, and I know he’d never remember to tell her that we did. Do I just send two notes?
Post # 3
I think you should send two notes. It seems the safest option. Better to be too gracious than not gracious enough!
Post # 4
HHmmm that is complicated. Why not send a note to ‘The Smith Family". I think that would encompass your friend and his mom.
Post # 5
I would send two TY’s to be safe.
Post # 6
I would send two notes if they now have different addresses. If they’re under the same roof, send one note addressed to the whole family.
Post # 7
Two notes. Absolutely! You can never be too polite and I have yet to hear of anyone getting upset becausee they got a thank you note!
Post # 8
Send two because his mom did write you a nice sweet note to begin with so even if the present isn’t from her, you still got a card from her.
Post # 9
I’d send two notes, or just send one to the mom’s address, but address the note to your mom and your friend. It’s obvious the mom paid for it, so as long as she gets a thank you, I wouldn’t worry about it too much!
Post # 10
I vote for "The Smith Family" esp because you don’t have the guys new address yet anyway, right?
Post # 11
I also vote for "The Smith Family" at her house. That way, she is sure to get a thank you, since she paid for the gift.
Post # 12
I am going to say, just send two notes. No one has ever gotten upset for getting a thank you.