Post # 1
My friend told me that she doesn’t think she is going to come to my wedding because she won’t get to spend enough alone time with me. Really?? What am I suppose to say to that. She says that she really misses hanging out with my FI and I but she thinks coming out for the wedding is a waste of time off because she is hardly going to see me.
Am I crazy or is this really selfish?
Post # 3
Hm… I can see this maybe if she won’t know any other people there at all and she feels like you wouldn’t even notice if she was there? I would be uncomfortable going to a wedding in that situation. but I’d prob suck it up and go anyways… and if I wasn’t going to go I’d sure make up a better excuse 🙂
Post # 4
WOW!! I would most definitely take offense to that.
Post # 6
Will she know other people at the wedding, or just you and your fiance? If she doesn’t know anyone else, I can see her point, although I wouldn’t have told it to your face.
Post # 7
Wow you would think that if she loves you guys so much she would be honoured to be there!
Maybe this was her way of trying to get your attention so that you would spend some time wither her! Could you and your FI get together with her a few times over the next 3 months?
Post # 8
It’s not like you expect to get tons of one on one time with the bride and groom at a wedding, but as long as you are dancing and having fun you should certainly get time to casually talk and have fun with the bridea and groom. Totally selfish on her part to have said that to you. She sounds needy to me.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Still! If she’s your friend, she should be there to support YOU…not because there might or might not be other people she could hang out with! A wedding isn’t really necessarily all about hanging out with the bride and groom one on one for an extended period of time, but to go, show support, smile, and be a good friend!
Sorry you had to hear that from her–I’d be taken aback/offended too!
Post # 10
Wow that is pretty selfish! She should be honored to be invited to your wedding and want to see you guys get married, not be upset that she won’t get to spend enough alone time with you. The bride and groom are so busy on their wedding day the only alone time they get is when they have to pee 😛
Post # 11
She will know a number of people at the wedding but if that was the case then why don’t you say that or say that you just don’t think you can afford it. I am pretty easy going and I don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable.
Post # 12
That is definitely a weird excuse. No one is ever going to be able to spend a ton of time with the bride and groom. I think it’s a pretty lame excuse for not wanting to attend.
My best excuse that I got was that a guy was going golfing with his friend that unexpectedly decided to come to town. A week before my wedding he told me that. There are always some people…
Post # 13
@Miss Short Dress
EDIT I see you deleted a certain comment so I shall delete my response 🙂
Post # 14
Sorry but that’s just dumb.
It sounds like there is another reason and she doesn’t want to share. Fine. But if you’re gonna lie, at least make it a good one!
A wedding is about celebrating the couple and supporting them. Not everyone knows each other but everyone does know the bride and groom.
No offense to your friend but she sounds like she’s needy and insecure and maybe a little jealous of the attention that will be on you that day?
It’s not your job to hold her hand on your wedding day.
Post # 15
Is this her first wedding? I’m only asking b/c maybe she doesn’t know how it works?
Post # 16
Ugh. That’s annoying. Can you tell her that you’re really sad that she won’t be able to make it. I actually got one of my friends to change her reply from a “no” to a “yes” just like that… with only a small amount of guilt. Our worst one comes from FI’s best friend from childhood.
He has to go to a car race.
WTF, seriously? A car race? This car race may be important to him, but it happens *every year*. You’d think he would skip it just this once for his susposed best friend’s wedding!