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I feel bad that you're dealing with that, but it is kinda funny. Sorry!
Goodness, this guy sounds kind of crazy! You definitely should call him and explain that he is NOT invited!
I should clarify - I find it funny that a random client would assume they're invited. People can be really clueless and not see the difference between work and personal.
Um how desperate does one have to be to try to invite themselves so... viciously? It's like you're being pursued by a predator!!! LOL! I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I had a few "I better be invited!" or "I'm invited right?" comments but I jsust ignored them and they got the picture. This guy, um maybe you're not so lucky. I guess keep ignoring and no invite should give him the impression come wedding day, right?
may, I would feel kind of honored - just that he holds you in such regard in his head to think he is automatically invited! What a touchy subject to deal with, though. . . .good luck! I don't know if I would have the tact to deal with that situation gracefully.
thats the thing! i mean, this guy is basically harmless but what makes it funny is that he has absolutely no conception of "the brush off" - like, there's a reason i havent called you back after 14 phone calls....!
I would call and explain just as you said that you don't have enough room unfortunately. Instruct everyone to ignore his requests for details and if he persists inform him that even though you do not want to lose him as a client, you feel that this involvement in your personal life is uncalled for and UNPROFESSIONAL! Also let him know that you will be contacting his wife and the police if he continues on his current path. I'm sure she would be extremely unhappy to find out that her husband is planning a trip alone to go to YOUR wedding.
I feel like you're in Jurassic Park being hunted by a raptor.... Good lord. I would just tell him that you're having a small wedding with very close friends and family and unfortunately the venue just doesn't have enough space for all the people you would really love to invite but you're very flattered by his well wishes for your marriage. And if it were me, I would email him because I'm a chicken and I hate calling people to say stuff like that and feeling awkward... A person to person phone call is a lot more direct, although you won't have physical proof of your rejection if you should ever need it! If you have a wedding website or anything I would password protect that sucker ASAP so you don't end up with a wedding crasher!
lolol. being stalked by a velociraptor in jurassic park. HI-Larious. bc that is exactly how i feel come to think of it :)
haha, we've had a few people say things like, "i like weddings, hint hint" who we hadn't dreamed of inviting but this one takes the (wedding) cake!
Personally, I wouldn't call him but leave a well crafted email instead. He sounds nuts and will probably whine and try to talk you into inviting him. Some people just don't get the message unless they see it in writing.
Ummm I couldn't help it. I got this really funny image in my head and had to recreate it for you.
raptor_guest.jpg (36.5 KB, 30 downloads) 2 years old 
HA! I just died from that picture!! We've had a couple of friends of my fiance's brother try to invite themselves (SO. NOT. HAPPENING.) I just don't understand people that think "Hey, weddings are fun, I should try and go to this one". We aren't friends! I don't want you there!
Good luck. He sounds like a real piece of work.
Oh my goodness, this is def. crazy innapropriate. I am not sure what it is you do for a living or what kind of client he is, but have you thought about maybe speaking to your boss about him? Could he be reasigned to a different person? Also, I was worried that if you come out and tell him (polietly even) that he is not invited you may loose his business-which may or may not be a big deal, I don't know! Just wondering what your boss may say or if he or she had an opinion!! GOOD FREIKEN LUCK!! I'm thinking of you and pls keep us in the loop :)
ohmigod, that picture!!! sillyness!!!
but seriously, if he's that persistent, can't you hand off his account to someone else? at this point i feel like it's borderline harassment - your work should protect you from potential dangers that this man can pose to you.
that picture bakerella...priceless....
I would e-mail the dude and tell him that its a small wedding for the fam...plus add the I haven't gotten back to you because you knew how excited he seemed about it and you didn't want to let him down? or you were embarassed that your wedding is soooo small? maybe that will shake him off your damn back.
@ bakerella, LOL. That pic is cracking me up!!!!!
@ mayeast06, He sounds like a very odd person. Good luck! The other Bees have giving you some great advice. Let us know how it turns out.
I totally understand and it's awkward! I had quite a few people assume they were invited and leave me weird messages about travel arrangements, etc. I was able to ignore some of them, but had to politely tell the others something similar to what you ended up telling this guy about the venue being a limited amount of space. I don't get it! I suppose because I would never assume that I was invited somewhere, I think other people wouldn't make the same assumption, but there are many different kinds of people in this world!
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i have been thinking about this post for a while and finally decided to write it today now that i am being pretty much STALKED by a potential guest. i hope no one has the same problem and you all find it at least mildly entertaining.
so... i have this client. he is about 50, married, with high-school age kids. he's annoying. really. super. annoying. he thinks he's really cool and because he gets a lot of attention from his female salespeople, he thinks he's somekind of stud muffin and talks about it. all. the. time. this is only slightly tolerable bc he is a client, so you kind of just, well, go along with it...
HOWEVER, this man has gotten it into his head that he is invited to my wedding. i dont know where he got this idea and as much as i tolerate this guy in my professional life, i draw the line at my wedding. it is 1000 miles away from where he lives and he already told me that he's leaving his wife home (bc he's cheap) and so he can make a golf date with a buddy the day before in the vicinity. ew. gross.
SO, i figured i would just avoid him like the plague until the idea escaped him. but he's kept bringing it up time and time and time again. he has sent me four emails and three voicemails, including one to my HOME. now normally, i would just cave and invite him, but i hate this guy. he attracts MAJOR attention (and not the good kind) wherever he goes and would demand all of my attention (at a 200 person wedding!!!) all day - this is why i can not have him there. bc my entire wedding that i have been waiting 32 years for and planning 18 months and spending way too much money for would be RUINED by the presence of steven poo (thats a psuedonym - but pretty close to how i feel)
so now tomorrow, after he left me a RUDE message asking why i hadnt returned his calls (maybe if he wanted to talk about business and not how cool he is or harrass me about an invitation to my wedding i would), i have to call him and politely explain to him that "we've outgrown our venue and can't invite everyone that we really really want to celebrate with" FML
so - anyone have a freakishly persistent guest who you REALLY dont want at your wedding?