Post # 1
It was a Thursday night and I had been having a terrible week and a particularly bad day, I spent most of the night crying. I often cry in the shower so I hopped into the shower and continued crying; as he often did he got in the shower with me and in my sad and cranky mood I nagged at him, while crying, for several minutes. Work was bad that week, a friend hadrust got engaged, and I wasn’t feeling very good about our relationship (and feeling a bit trapped because I couldn’t afford my house without him). He finally got our of the shower and I went back to just crying… And suddenly he got in, got down on one knee (in a very cramped little shower), held out a ring (that I couldn’t seeclearly with the shower on and tears still in my eyes), and asked me to marry him. I, for some reason I still don’t understand, said yes. Hstout it on my finger, it was about a full size too small but because my hand was wet it was able to be forced on. He stood up and hugged me and I saw the ring on my finger and already regret saying yes. When we had talked about it at times in the past he had known that I hated princess cut diamonds and loved round diamonds – and that I preferred the classic look of yellow gold. The ring on my finger was a .33 carat princess cut diamond ifair platinum band.
Also, it was April 1. I think the joke was on me.
Why did I say yes? Why didn’t I call it off any of the million times I thought about in our 14 month engagement? Why did I go through with the wedding? I honestly do not know. I suppose looking back it is easy to see all of the signs that said it was all wrong, but I was stupid and stubborn. I left him less than two months after we were married (in total we were together for around 3.5 years).
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
I don’t think it was the worst proposal ever. [Post moderated for snark/personal attack]
I’m sorry your marriage didn’t last long. I hope you resolve your issues, and that your ex can move on and find the right girl for him.
Post # 5
@Adams_bee: I kind of agree.
OP, we need way more info. I thought the proposal was very sweet and unexpected, exactly how I would have loved to be proposed to. Actually my dream proposal is waking me up with it. So…spill. What actually happened?
Post # 6
wow. I would say that was a great proposal, but I’m not all about the ring.
I’m sorry about your divorce, though.
Post # 7
So are we supposed to be angry at you or the guy? Cause it sounds like the guy was doing what you wanted him to do. It also sounds like he stuck with you even though you had issues. And in the end, he did what you asked.
Also, it’s not a “sign” that a relationship is done just because he got the wrong ring style.
I just dont understand your point. Are you bitter? Are you wanting us to agree that he was horrible? Do you want sympathy?
Post # 8
@Adams_bee: Agreed. What on earth…
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s the worst proposal ever. It sounds like he knew you were sad/upset and was trying to make you happy!
Post # 11
That’s a whole lotta crying! You might want to look into therapy.
Post # 12
its hard to think its a) the worst proposal as i am sure many people have been proposed to like that or very similar. Not everone gets the romantic writing in the sky. and b) had to dislike the guy when im sorry i feel sorry for him if you knew it wasnt him and wasnt forever you still said yes. still got married ect
Post # 13
i agree with the other bees, the first paragraph- proposal sounds sweet, mine was something similar ( i was crying and shouting his head off and about to storm off home in a cab to never see him again)
the ring could always get changed for the right size etc, it does not seem like the ring was the problem
then it looks like there is a huuuuuge gap of infomation that is missing that should come before the second paragraph
still, im sorry you wouldn’t work out your differences and the relationship didn’t last
Post # 14
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Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
[Post moderated for snark] I probably shouldn’t be wasting precious time on here, but OP would you care to clarify?
You were feeling bad. your friend had just been engaged and that made you feel bad (why?). you didn’t want to buy at house with FI (why?) and it made you feel trapped (why?)…..he proposed (didn’t you want him too? because if you didn’t, why were you talking to him about rings?) you said yes, but then regretted it (why? and why didn’t you talk to him about it instead of leading him on?). you didn’t like your ring (wtf. he PROPOSED TO YOU.) and because of that you regretted saying yes…..?
so you were upset about having to depend on FI for a house, yet you didn’t mind spending $$$ on a wedding you knew wasn’t going to last. and you wanted him to give you a better ring. just not help with the house.
Post # 16
Yo, it’s only as bad as you think it is. What is it that you feel badly about? How it was done, that it was a mistake, or that you went through with it?