Post # 1
…and no this isn’t a dream…
I woke up this morning to my mom starting a comversation like : ‘we need to talk….’
Immediately, my heart starts pounding and my brain is racking like “what did I do wrong… I don’t think I’ve done anything lately…”
My venue…. the only place I ever wanted my wedding and reception… is being closed due to foreclosure. The weddings will only continue through August. I have a date, a dress, the guy, catering… everything… but a PLACE to get married. I’M AT A COMPLETE LOSS OF WORDS!!!!!!
What else really blows is that I grew up in a small town and there are really no other places to get married that are halfway decent. I have no idea what I’m going to do now. ='(
Post # 3
That really stinks. But you have everything else, so you do need to find somewhere. I would just make a list of every other possible venue–restaurants, banquet halls, parks, maybe a relative’s yard– and see which are feasible given your guest list, caterer, etc. I’m sure there will be something that works out. You may just have to change your vision a little bit.
Post # 4
I am so sorry to hear that! This happened to Georgetown Country Club and MA last year. I know in this situation a lot of vendors and venues reached out to the brides and gave them huge discounts and helped them with their wedding. I hope it’s the same where you are.
Post # 5
oooh no! i am so sorry. have you tried talking to your venue? they might have suggestions to help brides that they are screwing over!!
Post # 6
Hi Date Twin!
I have been preparing for the worst as well because the facility owner and I don’t get along, and I can see her the day before canceling 🙁
The good news is that you have three months to find another venue, and worst case you can always rent a tent, chairs, tables, and such and just have a gorgeous tent wedding/reception in a really pretty field.
I think outdoor tent weddings can go either way – very informal or very formal depending on your taste. I think you’ll be okay 🙂
Best of luck!
Post # 7
Okay I know you’re REALLY upset right now and that REALLY sucks but I am sure that it will work out. Try to keep in mind that you are getting married to the love of your life, you have a supportive family, and you have your health— so really the IMPORTANT stuff is all there. Everything else is just details.
Post # 8
We’re not in love with our venue, and it took me a while to let go of that fact — but I am now of the opinion that the place itself isn’t as important. Afterall, the space is just a setting for all the great stuff you’ve got planned!
This stinks, and it’s tough that they’re bailing on you like this, but your wedding and reception will still be absolutely AMAZING even if they have to be at a less than stellar location.
Post # 9
Where do you live? Maybe there are some Bees that can offer advice on alternate locations…
You may have to go outside of your town a little bit to make it work, but it’ll all turn out great!
Post # 10
I’m so sorry that you are having this dumped on you right now but you can figure something out. Not knowing where you live or plan to have your wedding I don’t know what to suggest but you can always look at doing an outdoor tent wedding. I think weddings outside in October are beautiful. Fall air is crisp and just beautiful. Talk with other venues in your area and maybe they will offer you a discount.
Post # 11
Call your caterer right away- ask him/her where else he/she has done weddings. They might know of locations you haven’t considered. Also, be willing to look outside your town. I’m in a small town too, and I know how it can sometimes feel like going outside of the town might seem so far, but we found an amazing venue in the next town over. Yeah, our guests will have to drive 10 miles down the highway, but it’s really not that big a deal and it’s totally worth it.
Post # 12
That is horrible. I am sure this is causing you a lot of unneeded and unwanted stress. Try to remember it is your FI you are in love with not the wedding or the wedding venue.
Still sucks a lot though! So sorry! Good luck & keep us posted on your new great location!
Post # 13
@greenleafmountain: good idea. Your vendors should have worked other places in and around your town, they would probably be the best resources.
Post # 14
Oh no! I’m so sorry! That is horrible, I’d be devastated too. But, as you know, the show must go on. I think the bees have given you great advice. I’d ask everyone, your vendors included, where they recommend. They have probably been to weddings at locations you don’t know much about. If you have to travel a lil bit out of your town, so be it. I’m sure your guests will do that for your day, don’t sweat it. I’ve gone 45 minutes to a wedding, with no complaints at all. And, depending on where you live, I’d consider maybe renting a tent, the price may even be comparable to the site fee you would of paid. Good luck, keep us posted on what ends up happening.
Post # 15
Wow, I’m sorry. That is one of those nightmares we’ve all thought about. But you will find something. It will work out.
Just for a little perspectice, just reading your title, then the line about it not being a dream, this is what raced through my mind:
You’re dying, FI is dying, FI cheated or cancelled the wedding on you…
Then when you said your mom needed to talk, I thought:
Your mom or dad is sick, your parents are getting a divorce….
I know this is a big stressor. But at least it’s not one of the things listed above, right?
Good luck. Let us know what happens.
Post # 16
I’m so sorry! That sucks! But if you have everything else you will be okay..you still have 3 months to figure something out!! What about a local park or an open area that you could set up a tent??