Post # 1
How important is one cohesive theme? i hope you all don’t mind if I go intoa lengthy explanation of my thoughts for my wedding ideas and tell me if it is too much all over the place. I would also love to hear what others are doing! 🙂
I plan on coordinating pink, orange and lime green colors throughout – but as far as a theme goes… FI and I are such eclectic people, I wouldn’t know how to narrow it down.
he is finishing up school for automobile design at art center and i am finishing up my phd in cultural studies while i teach at several universities – in order to support the arts/education we are having our reception at a museum. we both love art, music, culture, animals, traveling, so i want to include all of that – plus i am an avid craftsy scrapbooker – so we plan to have a photobooth. 🙂
the main motif for our invites will be dandelions (they hold a special place for me and my grandmother – who is no longer with us), which we plan to design and i plan to hand stitch and assemble with coordinating fabrics and luxe papers. i wanted to have my name cards double as bookmarks and somehow to incorporate our favorite books into our centerpieces (maybe stack 2-3 on each table and put a coffe table type vase and flowers on top) but i wanted the table numbers to be pictures of us at our favorite places we’ve have traveled to together. also, in lieu of traditional favors, we plan to make donations to the american cancer society in honor of our guests, in memory of my father who passed away from cancer. we volunteer with this charity annually.
ugh. so. that is just the beginning but is it not "themey" enough? i feel like the theme is – "here are the things that are important to us" but does that count?
please help! (i hope none of my guests are reading this post!)
Post # 3
There is no rule saying you need a theme. One solid theme does not fit every couple. Like you already said, you and your FI are eclectic and I think what you’re describing is great! The bookmark and favorite books on the table works with your academia/culture side, and also the flowers will help incorportate dandelions. I was just thumbing through the Martha Stewart Weddings mag and she had a table pic of books with vases on top. As for your table numbers, if you have darker books plus yellow flowers, I would try to use lighter photos for your table numbers, this way, it will prevent your table from looking too crowded.
I think you’re you’re planning is fantastic!
Post # 4
Well, here’s my thought on themes. They are great if you have one in mind and you’re able to use it to pull together a cohesive look all around ONE central theme. However, there is now so much talk about having a ‘theme’ for your wedding that brides who don’t have one in mind are starting to stress over it like you are. Just keep in mind this is all optional. There’s no single way of doing a wedding. You don’t HAVE to have a theme, it’s just a tool to help you plan that you can use or not use. It’s up to you.
You are planning an event. It’s probably the biggest event of your life, but it’s still an event, so let’s use a smaller example. Think of a dinner party. Sometimes when you throw a dinner party, you pick a theme – say, Mexican night, and you wear crazy Mexican hats and serve tapas and beer and eat Mexican food and play Latin music. And sometimes, you just cook dinner and everyone eats and socializes and has a great time but there’s no ‘theme’ to the event other than to have fun. Both work.
So I say, go with what you’re planning. A couple of things that stood out to me from your post I will mention. This is not to say they are problems but just something for you to consider and then make a decision. First: I think sometimes weddings get blown out of proportion a little bit in terms of needing to represent everything about a couple. Sounds like you can’t pick ONE theme because you have so many interests. But maybe the wedding doesn’t need to incorporate every single hobby/interest that you two love as a couple. Some just might not fit. It’s okay to let some of them go and might be more cohesive if you do so. But if you want to incorporate everything, do so, but try to keep each to a small detail so that’s not overwhelming and mismatched. (The photobooth is a GREAT way of doing that.) Second, the other thing that stood out as a potential mismatch is that your colour scheme already includes three colours and your main flower is a dandelion, and it’s a different colour than your three colours. The colour combo might start to look a bit mismatched. I would suggest either switching one of your three colours to yellow (you could replace any of them with yellow really and it would still look great!) or making the dandelions a sort of tangerine colour in all your design elements.
Post # 5
thanks for the advice! i am starting to feel better about not going with one cohesive theme and think it is great advice to not try to incorporate EVERYTHING about us 🙂
but one question – i just wanted to make sure we are talking about the same flowers. i think daffodils are yellow – the dandelions i am talking about are the white whispy looking ones with the feather-like petals that you blow off to make a wish. i think they are technically a weed – haha. but i am only using their image. i plan to use pink and orange tulips, calla lilies and gerbera daisies. hope this clarifies a little. thanks again for the comments! i really appreciate it!!
Post # 6
I don’t really have a theme either, i don’t think its necessary (although my mom thinks i’m nuts).
Martha stewart weddings mag has spread on receptions, one of them includes books and colors similar to yours. their website is being stupid or i would have included a pic. their "theme" is cozy and refined. the flowers are different but I’m sure it will look cute. what vases did you have in mind? if you think the flowers might clash, the vases can bring the look together.
i think website is this but i’m not sure b/c the pics aren’t coming up for me
Post # 7
Pancy – those are "wishers"! There are 2 stages to a dandelion that I know of – one is the wisher stage and I don’t know if the flower comes before or after the wisher stage, but the dandelion flower is bright yellow. If you do a Google image search for "dandelion" you’ll see what I mean – both the wishers and the yellow flowers show up 🙂 I think the wisher is a great graphic to use, really pretty and doesn’t clash at all with your colour scheme. The flowers you’ve picked sound gorgeous!
Post # 8
oh! I never heard of that – but wishers sound so much cuter than dandelions! and i never even knew yellow ones existed 🙂 thanks!
i do love those flowers (tulips are my favorite!) but am mainly going with them because i hope to do my bouquets and centerpieces myself to save on costs – and i think they are easier to make single blossom bouquets out of… am i crazy? my friends keep telling me to get someone else to get my flowers done professionally because i won’t be able to set up my own centerpieces the morning of. 🙁
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2011 - in the woods
How creative! I love your ideas, pancy – especially of the centerpieces. In fact, I have a vase of flowers sitting on a couple stacked books on my end table! There’s nothing "wrong" with having your theme be a reflection of you. For me, it’s actually more fun to attend personalized weddings with unexpected surprises! And I love your photobooth idea; I’m going to have one of those in my wedding as well.
About the dandelions; they actually grow into a yellow flower and then each petal turns into a white seed that we all love blowing off of the stem! I love the idea of incorporating that image into your invitations, both for the image and for the memory of your grandmother.
Hope planning continues to go well for you! Sounds like you’re off to a great start!
Post # 10
thanks, everyone, for your kind words and encouragement. I feel a little silly to be thinking about all these details when my date is a year away… but the last thing I want is to be a stressed out bride with a million DIY projects and no ideas as to which ones will/will not work.
re: dandelions – you learn something new everyday! 🙂 thanks!!