Post # 1
do healthy couples go to couples’ therapy?
the threads about pre-marital counseling tickled my curiosity… most of us at this juncture in our relationships are in healthy, stable relationships… most of us take-on pre-marital counseling as a religious requirement…
so i wondered, is it only people who want to “work on things” the only ones that invest their time/money into couples therapy? or are there “healthy” couples who partake in couples’ counseling as somewhat of an extension to “pre-marital counseling” to sustain the livelihood of their happy relationship?
any bees with feedback and not just taking the poll i’ve attached! ;P
Post # 3
If a healthy couple wants to go to couples’ counseling and enjoys doing so, I guess to each their own – but I don’t really see what’s the point if things are mostly smooth sailing in the relationship.
It’s like, if you were a happy individual would you seek out individual therapy? Probably not.
Post # 4
@prettyflowers, to answer your question… i DO know a handful of people who see a therapist that are fully functioning, well-adjusted, and overall happy people…
i’ve always wanted to see one as well, just to have that third-party anonimity of talking to someone who’s unbiased and medically trained to really read your thoughts.
that’s why i wondered if there are couples that do this as well to upkeep their healthy realtionship
Post # 5
We plan on going to counseling at least once a year for a “check-up” whether we’re happy or unhappy at the moment. I think you can be happy in your marriage and still have problems to work out or still have things to learn that will make everything run smoother. Everyone has some aspect of their relationship that could use work.
FWIW, I just scheduled our one year anniversary counseling session this week. 🙂 We’re a pretty happy couple, but imo, it’s good to have a little extra reassurance that we’re on the right track.
Post # 6
I have an anxiety disorder, so I go to therapy at my University. They also offer couples counseling, as long as one of the members of the couple is a student. We don’t go to therapy together, but my Psychologist always gives me things to talk about with my FI, which I think is awesome.
I think it might be interesting to do therapy with him. We get along great, but I think having a third party involved really helps to explore facets of yourself/ relationship that you might not know how to deal with.
Post # 7
we had to because we were required to. Otherwise, no, i wouldn’t have spent money on it. It would have been unnecessary for us.
Post # 8
I think you should add an option for “yes we would go if we needed to work through something”
Post # 9
maybe those people are well adjusted and happy b/c of the therapy 🙂
Post # 10
@melissabegins! touche! lol, but i have a couple friends who just chose to go because they wanted a venue to talk without any judgements or biased opinions who was happy before they went to therapy 🙂
i’m with mrs. spring… i think that in an on-going marriage that therapy helps to learn communication skills… new things that pop up as the course of life throws different things at you! 🙂
Post # 11
I think we have a very strong solid relationship. Even so, I used to think that it would be nice to go to couple’s therapy if we had the money. However, now that we have a house and things are still great between us I think I’m much less likely to spend it on counseling. The state does put on free counseling classes that probably wouldn’t be a bad idea but we just really don’t have the motivation to go.
Post # 12
We go and we have a great relationship. Why do we go? Well, for example, we spent this past weekend with FIs parents. He has a really challenging relationship with his parents (they can be difficult but well meaning) and I am still figuring out my own relationship with them. He’s great at setting boundaries with them, I’m not and I get really stressed around them. We’re trying to figure out how to visit them without going crazy. Talking to our therapist is helping us do that because what works for my FI does not work for me. Together we figure out what works for US.
Yes, we could likely figure it out on our own, but we both think we get there a lot faster having a neutral party point out the logical when our emotions are getting in the way of us seeing it! It’s all about maintenance and communicating and navigating how to get what we need not only with each other, but our families, so that we continue to have a healthy and strong relationship!