(Closed) There are so many types of wedding-related parties… Which ones are you using?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Which parties did you choose to have?
    Engagement Party : (46 votes)
    7 %
    Wedding or Bridal Shower : (114 votes)
    18 %
    Stag and Doe Party (Canada) : (3 votes)
    0 %
    Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties : (128 votes)
    21 %
    Bridesmaids Luncheon : (19 votes)
    3 %
    Rehearsal Dinner : (124 votes)
    20 %
    Ceremony/Reception : (139 votes)
    22 %
    Wedding Brunch : (41 votes)
    7 %
    Other? : (7 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    5479 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We thought about throwing an engagement party, but we had a two year engagement so we just never got the timing of it right.  Meh, whatever, no real loss there…

    I didn’t want a bridal shower at all since we’ve lived together a few years already but his mother INSISTED we have one.  My girls had already planned a bach party (laid back, not out clubbing and stuff) so they decided to just let her host it that day and we had a lunch at one of my favorite restaurants.

    After the lunch bridal shower, we went ice skating and shopping, then we went back to my place where a few of the ladies had snuck off to decorate and bake tons of penis shaped cookies.  We had a girls’ night in for my bach, and it was perfect!

    We of course had a rehearsal dinner, ceremony, and reception.  The next morning MrDane’s mom had a light breakfast for her out of town family and asked if we would mind making an appearance to say bye to the families.

    Post # 4
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think we’ll have about all of them. Perhaps not the brunch. My family came from a tradition that had a bridesmaid lunchon, and his comes from a tradition that hosts engagement parties. Neither family had heard of te other’s tradition, so it looks as though we’ll end up with both.  

    Post # 5
    986 posts
    Busy bee

    My aunts have graciously offered to host a shower for me, and my Maid/Matron of Honor has offered to not only host but also fly in for my bachelorette party/weekend. Mr. O will be having his own bachelor party as well. The day before the wedding we’re having a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, and then both ceremony and reception on the day of.

    If we decide not to go on a honeymoon, we’re going to also host a brunch the day after to spend more time with the Out of Town guests.

    Post # 6
    1358 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    This makes me think of Bridesmaids, when Maya Rudolph’s character says, “You have ruined every event in my wedding!” I feel like the wedding is THE event, and there are so many other things you’re “supposed” to do that just distract from the big day.

    We didn’t have an engagement party because we interpret the point of engagement parties to be introducing the two families. My family lives far away, and since I grew up with my husband, they all know each other anyway. We did celebrate with our friends and families in our own way, but there was no official party for the families.

    Wedding/bridal showers aren’t horribly common in my area, so I was surprised to see how many people have them on the Bee. It seemed a bit grabby to me (mainly because I’m not very exposed to them, not because I’m judging anyone else), plus my girl friends, bridesmaids, and family are so spread out that it would’ve been tricky to get everyone together for just an afternoon party thing. It just wasn’t important in the least to me.

    Some people had breakfast at the hotel the next day, and we ran into them when we went, but we didn’t have a formally organized brunch the next day. And I had never even heard of a bridesmaid luncheon, though I guess if your bridesmaids don’t know each other, it makes sense to introduce them. (Though I don’t think it needs to be in such an official capacity!)

    Obviously we had a ceremony/reception, and for us, bachelor(ette) parties and the rehearsal dinner were no-brainers we never considered optional. I wanted to celebrate with my ‘maids, and if you ask people to attend a rehearsal, dinner is a way to thank them and cool your nerves before the wedding day.

    Post # 7
    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I had a bachelorette party, shower, rehearsal dinner and reception.

    Post # 9
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had a bridal shower (2 in fact!), bachelor/bachelorette, rehearsal dinner and the ceremony/reception. The only one I would have liked to done is a wedding brunch the day after, but we left for our honeymoon straight away the next morning, so timing wasn’t right.

    Post # 10
    3978 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Engagement party (1) sort of. I didn’t plan it. I didn’t even know I was getting engaged! After he proposed we went out to dinner and all my family was there (and his too!). Complete surprise. He was very confident 🙂

    Bridal shower (1)

    Bachelor/ette party (2)

    Rehearsal dinner (1) sort of, it was really just a rehearsal and then pizza and salad before everybody helped us with set up for the reception. Not sure how formal it has to be for it to really count as a rehearsal dinner.  We went out to eat after as well with most everyone but again, not sure it counts since it wasn’t super offical.

    Ceremony/Reception (1) duh

    Post # 11
    439 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My husband had three (yes, three!) bachelor parties. While he was in Vegas for the first one, I had my girls over for an informal shower/bachelorette party. We just did girly things all weekend, ate cupcakes, watched Ryan Gosling movies and drank lots of wine.

    We planned on an engagement party, but it just didn’t happen.

    We had a rehersal dinner, but it was very laid back. We mostly wanted to give everyone from Canada a chance to meet my husband’s family and friends from Ireland and the US. And because one mf my bridesmaids lives in Ireland, we had a dinner for all the BM’s plus my mom and Mother-In-Law. Of course we had a ceremony and reception.

    We also had a party in the hotel the day after the reception. It was included in our wedding package. We had a private area of the hotel bar and we had apps and sandwhiches. I’ve never heard of something like this before, but it’s very common in Ireland I guess. It was a blast! People just came and went all day, my friends played guitar and sang and I got super drunk. It was nice after have the wedding which was formal to have a day to kick back and relax with our guests and friends. It was by far the best part of the wedding.

    Post # 12
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I guess there are a lot of parties…didn’t really occur to me until now. Seems kinds silly but we’ve had/are having…

    -engagement party – it was more just a good excuse to get our friends together and party

    -bridal shower – hosted by my future aunts (I’m not trying to be ungrateful but I could do without this one)

    -bachelorette party – one will be a trip to Puerto Rico with my BMs and the other will be in our city with a larger group of friends (FI is going to Mexico with a big group of his friends)

    -rehearsal dinner – thrown by future inlaws. I’m super excited for this. I love RDs

    -then of course the wedding

    were not doing a next day brunch. Every time I’ve been to one I’ve wanted to (a) die bc I’m so hungover and (b) go home bc I’m sick of talking to everyone by that point

    Post # 13
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wanted to skip all the pre-wedding parties but my Maid/Matron of Honor insisted on hosting something.  So, we had a co-ed dinner for about 12-15 of our closest friends.  I really dislike showers, so my stipulations were: No gifts, no games, and no relatives (except for my sister) or parents’ friends.

    Two of my husband’s friends took him on a bachelor weekend.  They went fishing and out for a steak dinner.

    We had a barbecue the night before our wedding in lieu of a rehearsal dinner.

    ETA: And we hosted a brunch the morning after the wedding.

    Post # 15
    484 posts
    Helper bee

    We had 2 engagement parties – one in our adopted home town (in the UK) for our friends and one thrown by his parents in Canada. We’ll be having bachelor / bachelorette parties but I think both of those will be pretty low key. We’ll have a rehearsal dinner but only for the participating people (so no dates invited, got to keep the cost down as that already totals about 17 people!) followed by drinks in the pub for out of town friends and family so everyone can meet. Then of course the wedding! And a brunch the day after for only our parents and my sister + husband and his brother + wife. Wowza, that’s a lot of activities!

    Post # 16
    1992 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MonPetite:  oh boy this made me feel like I had far too many parties associated with my wedding… lol!

    I think it kind of has to do with the fact that I’m in a LDR (DH is from london and I’m in CA) and that the time between parties was quite a long while…

    We got engaged in Vegas in Aug 2011…

    Aug ’11 – Impromtu engagement in CA with USA family/close friends day after proposal & the day before my Fiance went back to London…

    Dec ’11 – UK Engagement party with UK family/friends

    Early Aug ’12 – Bridal Shower with church ladies and ladies of my family

    Early Sept ’12 – Bachelorette party with just VERY close friends

    9/20/12 Day before wedding – rehearsal & rehearsal dinner

    9/21/12 – WEDDING DAY – Ceremony/Reception/Hotel Bar after party

    9/22/12 – Send off Brunch for all OOTers & guests staying at the hotel.


    …so basically it was a year of parties… and now I’m planning our 2nd cocktail reception in London for this Christmas but SERIOUSLY, I love an excuse to celebrating ANYTHING and the fact that we have family half way across the world from each other just gives us all the more reason to have a celebration whenever possible… lol


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