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Wow, I am still in shock. I mean we’ve been trying for a while but to actually have it happen is all very strange. So, I just did the test yesterday. Figured out that I’m about 4 weeks along. Morning sickness has set in with a vegence. And I’m full of questions!
Did you all wait to tell people?
We keep telling ourselves that it is very early on and anything could happen so we really should get too excited. But I would like to tell my sister. And I would like to start making some plans.
Should I make a doctor’s appointment?
I really want to get a midwife – but when do you do that? right away?
Would be nice to let myself get excited….how did you all handle this??
Post # 3
Congrats! Its all very exciting AND overwhelming!
We waited until 10 weeks to tell our families (they were on vacation), we likely would have told them after our first appt around 7 weeks if they were home. We told closest friends after our 12 week scan and announced on FB at 16 weeks… we were just cautious.
Yes, make a dr’s appt to have your HCG tested (if they offer this) as well as your progesterone levels.
If you want a midwife, apply NOW! I applied 2 days after my positive test and got in right away, a freind who found out the same time applied 2 weeks later and they were already full. If you have one in your area that you’d like to go with, definitely get on it ASAP. 🙂
Take one day at a time! Prenatal vitamins, lots of water, listen to your body. If you’re tired, rest.. if you feel good, celebrate! Just take each day as it comes and enjoy the journey. 🙂
Post # 4
The very first thing I did when I got my BFP (besides tell DH and celebrate) was make an appointment with an OB. If you don’t have one, or want to use a midwife, now is the time to do some research! Luckily, most OBs won’t see you until at least 8 weeks (if not later), so you’ve got time!
We didn’t tell anyone until we were 8 weeks. At that point, we just told DHs parents/siblings since we were on vacation with them and didn’t want them to figure it out before we could surprise them! We told my family at 12 weeks when we saw them in person. I’m just about 13 weeks now and we have each told a few of our close friends. We will probably start telling more people as we see them in the coming weeks. We’re not certain we’ll make a facebook announcement, but if we do it won’t be for another few weeks (probably once we find out gender).
If you haven’t been taking prenatals, now’s a good time to start. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months! The first trimester can be brutal, so make sure to take lots of time to rest and eat as healthy as you can, but mostly just do what you got to do to survive it!
Post # 5
@envirobride: I am from the camp of “tell everyone you’re close to right away” … I did so for two reasons 1) I am an open person in general 2) Should something go wrong, I’d want support and I’d want it from people who were able to share the joy with me before it became a sad thing. I’m 8 weeks now, have heard the heartbeat … part of me still worries (because I’m a worrywart), but I just trust that everything is fine and if something does go wrong, it was meant to be.
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@envirobride: Also, midwives do book up quickly, so I’d put calls in right away.
Post # 7
As far as telling people, I don’t mean to be a downer, but wanted you to have both persepctives. I was in the camp of “tell everyone you’re close to right away” for the same reasons as awakemysoul. Then I had a miscarriage and had to tell EVERYONE that we’d already told. It sucked, quite frankly. Next time I imagine we will tell a very very select few people that we are closest too and leave it at that until after the first trimester. I did need support but only from my mom, sister and close friend that had had a miscarriage and was my biggest support system. Although now everyone is eyeing my every move to see if I might be pregnant again, so I know it will be tough to keep it a secret for long when I do get those two lines again!!
Post # 8
@envirobride: We have only told our siblings and parents. They would be all the support I’d need in order to get through if something were to happy. We didn’t want to tell everyone because he has a huge family, and if something were to happen, it would be too painful to go through everyone and have to tell them.
I made my first appointment immediately after getting a positive so I could get blood drawn to confirm it. After that they weren’t going to see me until my 12 week appointment, but because of my mother’s history of miscarriages, I convinced the doctor (who I work with–I’m an IT at a clinic) to let me come in for a prenatal appt right away to discuss my family history, meds, etc. Probably a good thing becuase I have been measuring large, so I’m either farther along or I am with twins (they run heavily in both sides). We will find out tomorrow at my ultrasound.
*make your appt right away to get blood drawn and ask to discuss what you should and should not be doing. Do not be surprised if they do not do an ultrasound until week 12 though. In the meantime, get some books. I recommend Mayo Clinic’s guide to Pregnancy, which comes recommended by a lot of women here, and I dn ot recommend What to Expect as it is a worst case senario book, but I do know some women like it however. And find a good prenatal you love. I take New Chapter.
And congrats!! 🙂
Post # 9
I’m going to call my doctor today and inquire about a midwife.
I think I’ll wait a bit to tell my sister – 8 weeks sounds about right. For now it is a bit nice to have it just me and hubby.
I guess I’ll be posting on this board more now!
Post # 10
@envirobride: you should find the May 2014 bee mama board! The girls in my month have been an invaluable resource!
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- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
@mamadingdong: How do you find bees from your same month?
@envirobride: yayayaya Congrats!!!
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- Wedding: June 2013 - His grandmother's backyard
@envirobride: Congrats!!! I’m at 6w5d. We told parents and siblings last week after our first appointment. Trying to hold off on anyone else, but DH is super excited and has a big mouth!
I called my doctor’s office the day after I got my BFP as I was on a few prescription meds and wanted to make sure they were still safe to take, and also to setup my first appointment. Don’t be surprised if they don’t want to see you right away – I was shocked, but it turns out it’s totally normal!
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- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
@mamadingdong: No I’m due in April so I was just wondering how to get to that board! lol thank you!
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@jny1179: Yes, plus 1. – I was the same way in that i wanted to tell people everyone but then I miscarried and I had wished so badly I didnt tell anyone at all because letting them know I miscarried was terrible. Wit this pregnancy we didnt tell anyone until 13 weeks and it was so much better.