Post # 1
So over the past few days SO has been so so nice. He is normally nice to me but he has been extra nice. First on Sunday he made me my favorite muffins, chocolate chip. Then last night he told me not to worry about dinner because he would make it. When I came home from work I walked into the kitchen and I saw that he made stuffed french toast, home fries and turkey bacon. The entire time we were eating dinner he kept on talking about how he can’t wait until we move in together next month and how he will love sharing an apartment with me. After dinner I was reading a cook book on my loveseat and he kept on saying”Tiny come in here and snuggle with me.” I told him I will be there in a few minutes but he just kept on saying “Tiny Tiny Tiny Tiny Tiny” I broke down and went to snuggle.
I really hope this is for a reason. I have been with him for 5.5 years and I just want to be his fiance. Also we are moving in together next month and I would love to have something shiny on my finger because there are some members of my family that are not exactly estatic over SO and me moving in together.
Post # 3
Ohhhh…that sounds promising! I remember right before FI preposed he was being SUPER lovey dovey…which was pretty out of character! But hindsight is always 20/20. Are there any other things coming up? Maybe he’s just getting really psyched up about moving in? (Just don’t want you to get your hopes up and have that not be it!)
Post # 4
Take things as they come and appreciate his extra attention, but realize it could be, as jenandchris said, just his excitement over the coming move. I know for me, personally, I have to fight really hard not to get hopes up around holidays because un-met expectations can really ruin an otherwise great time, especially when the other person peobably doens’t know why you’re upset, and you feel stupid and selfish for being upset in the first place. Enjoy being pampered and just be happy together – he might have something planned, but he might want to live wiht you a bit before making the BIG decision, so just take things slow and keep the anticipation to a minimum if you can 🙂
Post # 5
I keep on telling myself not to get excited yet. Our 5 year anniversary he set up a date for us, all he told me was that we have a resiveration at 8pm, that I have to wear a dress and he will be wearing a suit. I convinced myself that he was going to do it that night, but he didn’t. I was so upset and it was really my fault for getting upset over it. I never want to do that to myself again.
I have to keep telling myself that he is being nice for the sake of being nice.
Thanks for talking me down , I was going a little BSC!
Post # 6
Practice expectation management, but that does sound exciting!! DH also got like that right before we moved in together, but unfortunately it didn’t mean he was excited about getting engaged. He still waited as long as he possibly could which wasn’t pretty. Keep reminding him about your wants and needs, but enjoy every minute of the living together!