There goes the honeymoon…

posted 3 years ago in Military
Post # 3
Member
469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry, I don’t have any advice but as a military wife I can relate! I really hope the plans become more solidified in the near future so you can plan a honeymoon and time to move but with the military that is asking for a lot. Sending you happy thoughts! That time frame is still a ways off and in the world of the military things could change many times before now and then! Everything will work out!

Post # 4
Hostess
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hmm… Not military here, but I’m just wondering… Can you send him with that week’s notice and then stay behind, tie up loose ends and then leave? 

That’s what DH and I have always done. I left Egypt last, I stayed behind 3 weeks before joining in Afghanistan, and then I left Afghanistan and DH came a few weeks later. It kind of sucks being either the front runner or the anchor, but it seems to help with logisitics. 

I have no idea about the honeymoon though. Sorry!

Post # 6
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh, no! I hope something works out for you guys!

Post # 7
Hostess
3787 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Britk:  Yeah. We joke about the whole “One day we’ll move at the same time” thing.. Usually it’s me that has multiple huge plane rides with the cat. One day it’s going to be his turn, haha. 

Post # 8
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Britk:  Woooo another Marine spouse-to-be! We’re planning on taking a delayed honeymoon after he gets back from deployment, which is suuuuper common for military couples. I’d be happy to give you some advice, but I feel like I’m missing some info from your timeline. How long were you planning on honeymooning? 

Post # 10
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Britk:  Hahah well, you know what they say, the best laid plans of mice and milspouses often go astray…

However, I think the likelihood of you having just a week to get out to VA is very slim. I’m pretty sure even for TBS you still get proceed time and everything, which has got to be SOMETHING from Missouri (we’re originally from VA, so not for us haha). Also, one class starts at the beginning of each month, so that should at least give you some idea of when it’s possible. 

Honestly, my advice is to just plan on doing a weekend trip down to VA Beach once you guys finally get out there. Haha maybe I’ve just been too many times, but I’m not really sure what you’d even do for 5 days. They still get most weekends at TBS (unless they’re on a field exercise or have duty or something), but if your plan is to just pop down for a weekend, you can do that on pretty short notice.

Alternatively, since as I said the only time you would truly have one week’s notice is if they told you at the beginning of the last week of the month. So, say, at the beginning of the second week of the month, you’d know even in a worst case scenario that you’d have 3 weeks to get out there, so you could did a mini-moon closer to home in Missouri.

Maybe it will make you feel better, even if it was a little different for my FI, but he knew months in advance when his report date for TBS was. I’ve also just been through the whole trying-to-keep-a-job-through-his-training-pipeline thing, and we just did our first PCS out to CA, so if you want to send me a PM, I’d be happy to chat about it! 🙂

Post # 11
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Britk:  I feel for you!  My fiance is in the coast guard and we almost had to cancel our wedding (which is two weeks away mind you) bc they kept changing the dates for his deploypment.  Thankfully, he’ll make it home in time but it was a good lesson to learn early.  It’s tough planning anything far in advance when you’re at the mercy of the military. 

Maybe take a mini-moon, a little weekend stay in a local hotel and then have a delayed honeymoon whenever you guys get stationed at your new location?

Post # 12
Member
28 posts
Newbee

@xoxovmarie:  This is my worst fear. My FI is in the Navy and they’ve moved his deployment date at least 5x since September….When he proposed in December I knew it was going to be damn near impossible to plan a nice wedding on such a short engagement timeline and with the actual deployment date moving around like crazy…. So we ended up deciding to elope and have a big wedding once he gets back. 

Not my idea of a fairy tale wedding but…it is what it is with the military.  

Post # 13
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127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@EsC87:  Yea, you can hope for the best when planning, but really its a crap shoot.  I saw your other posts… I’m in SD too!  Have you checked our the Admiral Kidd club?  It’s not the barn feel you were looking for, but it has beautiful views of the SD skyline and its so inexpensive as far as weddings go.  My coworker’s fiance is in the navy and they’re getting married there (with food/beverage) for something as low as $44 per person.  I wish I was paying $44pp! lol

Post # 14
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305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Why don’t you just honeymoon righ after the wedding wherever you want and then move when you need to?

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