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@daniellemybelle: Congrats on celebrating your first anniversary! Did you do anything special? Mine is coming up in October and I'm SO looking forward to it.
That's great! I honestly didn't have a chance to get depressed, since I had my last semester of college plus buying our first house happen right after we got married. There were things that went wrong, and things I wish I had done differently, but for the most part, I don't miss the planning. Sometimes, I wish I could do it all over again, and think that we are going to do a vow renewal of sorts every 10 years (basically, an excuse to go on a great vacation with friends and family!)
@skipper2010: Thank you! We went to a really nice restaurant we had been wanting to try, and exchanged gifts. It was great!
@MrsSl82be: Good to hear you didn't get depressed! I wasn't busy at all after the wedding - I was unemployed for a few months - so I think that contributed to my PWD a lot.
I've already been thinking, "What on earth am I going to do to occupy my time after the wedding is done?" Every day I'm on here...and just about every day I do some sort of planning or wedding preparation!
That's one reason why I decided to do a guest book vase, so that I can put our guests little notes in a scrapbook. That will be my first project! And I'm going to work on a video of my son's first year. I also have some friends with upcoming weddings and they want me to do a few things for them, so that will be a lot of fun and much less stress.
Sigh. I know I will be depressed post-wedding, too!
Congrats to you on your one-year anniversary!
@daniellemybelle: I totally feel you on the "too much time" issue that contributed. I went from living in a house with multiple people to being here in our apt all day by myself... TOTALLY didn't help... and on top on missing the wedding I became very lonely.
Best advice to add for others....
Stay open with your new husband about your fears, thoughts, and feelings... pulling away and isolating yourself can be very dangerous for you, your DH, and your marriage.
I'm very thankful that even on days that I wanted to shut down DH would make me talk...
Letting him affirm that "we're a team" definitely has helped =)
Oh and Congrats on the 1 year!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@daniellemybelle: Happy belated anniversary!
I'm just past 10 months and I too have overcome PWD. I've now attended 2 weddings since my own and was able to fully enjoy them. Llife has truly gotten back to normal!
@daniellemybelle: Thank you! I now have hope. Seriously, I just got married on the 24th (we are BRAND-newlyweds!) but are not taking our honeymoon until August. I have a job that allowed me to do a large portion of my planning during the day, so coming back to work immediately after the wedding was ROUGH! I am in school, but chose not to take summer classes, because I knew I'd be busy with wedding-planning during the beginning of summer. So now I'm kinda like..."now what?" :( I love reading, so I think I need to hit up the library since that hobby was abandoned for the last few months of planning!
Sigh. I love my new husband and our life together, but I'm just so sad it's all over! The actual day was a huge success, and we had SUUUUCH a blast! I'm now trying to focus all my energy on looking forward to our honeymoon to Greece in August! Surely by then I'll be recovered! :)
Thanks for op's openness and to all the women who've responded to this post. I always found it humorous that brides went through depression after their wedding - a single gal like me just couldn't relate and I thought it was such an American bourgeois thing to experience. Boy oh boy - was I clueless.
Now that my own wedding is over, my sadness came not from the fact that the weekend whipped by but from a fiasco that happened with my sister and her family -on the lawn during our reception. It is really sad to me that my wedding had to be the event where everything came to a head but now that it's over, I've asked my sister to get some counseling. Here's hoping that in a year from now I can look at the photos with fresh eyes and really connect with how wonderful it all was.
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Hi all - I wanted to write this post to give hope to any brides who recently got married and who may be feeling regrets or other sadness in the aftermath of their wedding. I certainly dealt with this and it did take me a long time to get over. There was a time when I was kind of "addicted" to planning my wedding - I just loved it so much! It became a huge part of my identity, as weird and kind of lame as that sounds. Even though I knew that my wedding was wonderful and beautiful, and I was so happy to be married, there were things that went wrong that made me angry and sad. Of course, no wedding is perfect, but I think I just was having a hard time letting it go. I obsessed over it to the point that I had to take a semi-break from the hive.
My one year anniversary just passed, and I am happy to say that I have fully recovered from PWD (post-wedding depression)! I realized recently it had been months since I had cringe-worthy memories, that I don't dream about weddings anymore, that I can enjoy pictures of other people's weddings without jealousy. I never thought I would have such happy feelings about my wedding day after so long of feeling not-so-great about it, but I really do.
So there is hope! Focus on the wonderful marriage your wedding day created and give yourself time, is my advice. I hope other "marrieds" will lend their advice to this thread too!