There is really no point to this post.

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Have the animals stay with a friend or board them.

Post # 3
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2580 posts
Sugar bee

Put your animals in a kennel while your gone and change all your contact info this sounds like complete BS

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If there’s no way an adult man cannot care for your pets, find someone who will. Get a friend to watch them or find a pet setting service.

This guy needs more help than you can give him.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

anonbee33333:  Ahhh, manipulation at its finest. 

I’m with aggiemae:  on this. You need to find someone else to watch the animals.

If you have contact info for his friends and relatives, I would call a few people before you leave and let them know he is having a hard time and you are worried he may do something drastic while you are gone. That way, they cn keep an eye on him, and you don’t have to worry about coming home to a crime scene. 

Then, after you’ve returned, have a serious discussion with him and break things off. I would have a new place to live lined up before this happens so that you can quickly exit after you’ve said your piece.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

What these ladies said. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Find a friend and pay him/her a small fee for caring for your animals if you can’t afford to board them. Your SO sounds like a jerk.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Sounds like you are in an extremely unhealthy relationship and I would be making an exit plan ASAP

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

anonbee33333:  If you cannot afford to leave your animals in a safe place, you really shouldn’t be going on vacation then.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

1. Call his parents or a close friend and tell them that you’re leaving the guy and that he’s threatening suicide. (Find alternate boarding options for your pets!)

2. Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun. Take time on the trip to ask yourself “is his life worth more than mine?” “Why am I giving him all of my life energy to the point where I’m drained and don’t have any left over for myself?” “What does he bring into MY life?” “How does he make MY life better?” How does he make me feel safe and secure?” 

3. Don’t look back. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

anonbee33333:  You need to get him some help; you are not his babysitter.

That said– board the animals to make sure they are safe (you obviously can’t count on him to be thier babysitter)–

Post # 13
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Worker bee

Others may get upset with me for saying this but get out  now. It sounds as though he has more issues than just depression. He seems like a very manipulative and selfish individual to say something like that and put his life in your hands, though I imagine it’s an empty threat and that’s he’s just trying to guilt you into not going. It’s likely that he’s insecure and has a bunch of thoughts about what may happen on this trip but that doesn’t give him the right to make statements like that. As someone who has dealt with depression for years, on many different levels, I have never once said this to anyone I’ve been with, even in the most extreme situations. He clearly has much more going on than depression and needs to go see a mental health professional and stop relying on you and making you feel like his life and future depend on you. That isn’t fair for him to that to you. Go and enjoy your trip with your parents and get someone else to feed/watch your animals (as he could rebel against your wishes if he’s really as sick as he’s portraying himself to be), I would hate to see the animals become victim to his lunacy. This is a form of mental abuse –  It’s wrong and he knows it. Don’t let him toy with you like that. If he’s on medication and still acting this way then that’s just who he is as a person and no medication will change that. He sounds like he needs serious help and it isn’t your job to do that for him but do encourage him to speak with someone. If you were already “done” then I would take the step and end it now. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I hope you go and enjoy your trip. Good luck!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Tell your family. What he is doing is borderline abusive to not only you but your animals as well. Your family may know more people who can watch your animals.  I don’t feel you are safe in this relationship. Nobody should make you feel like this.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Double post that got cut off- oops!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  ClaudiaKishi.
  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  ClaudiaKishi.
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