There's no Love like your first Love? WHAT? I don't believe this!

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Uh no. Men are dumb. They don’t know what they are talking about.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree with them, sorry.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@BrideToBe14:  This made me laugh SO hard. After having sex for the first time with my “first love” (and I was his), he confided in me about his past sexual abuse by a male relative, his desire to have sex with his (male) BFF, and proceeded to stop speaking to me (after 5 years of dating), and starting messing around with other girls.

But maybe it would have been different if he were straight?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think it depends on the guy’s personality. My FI and I are each other’s first loves and I certainly do believe that he is more infatuated with me 8 years later than some of his friends are with their long-term girlfriends, but it could be just because of all the history we share and how close we are due to that. I will say, though, that he has this friend who was a total man-slut playboy douchelord ALL through college. He was so proud of his reputation and had this crazy inflated ego. Well, he met this kind of weird girl who is sweet but just odd, and I have NEVER seen a grown ass man so obsessed with a girl before. He adores her. It is so precious. He’s seriously a new man, it’s incredible. So I don’t think that kind of love is exclusive to the first love! I think it just depends on the guy’s personality. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

LOL guys are silly.  If all that was true, why didn’t they marry their first true loves?  They have had too much time to romanticize the relationship, and let’s be honest, it was probably the first girl they ever slept with.  They may be confident and good looking now, but I wonder how they were way back then. 

 

Sure some first love’s make it to marriage and life long commitment but seriously?  Not many do, and most people just remember the good things.  

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@BrideToBe14:  This is ridiculous. What they’re referring to as love is immature infatuation. If a guy loved his ex more than he loves the girl he’s with now, it wouldn’t make any sense for him to be with her. He would either go back to his first gf, or keep looking for someone he loved that much. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I kinda get it… but then I can’t actually pinpoint my first love. I had crushes since I was in kindergarten, and the guy I dated for the longest in high school definitely doesn’t make me think WOW. Does that mean I didn’t love him? Not sure. I was head over heels for my asshole ex… does that mean he was my first real love? Lol not sure.

Anyway, I’m glad I am with my husband!!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@BrideToBe14:  I think that a lot of people tend to romanticize their first loves. And a lot of people may wind up being jealous that another couple “got it right the first time.”

FI is my first love. He had three girlfriends before he met me, so I doubt I’m his first love. I will say that I’m his first really serious relationship though and that carries a good deal of weight as well. And as far as I know, he never considered marriage with his previous girlfriends – he was considering it with me since the start of our relationship.

Don’t let it bother you. Everyone is an individual and everyone is different. Just because your SO agreed doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you as well – it just might be a different type of love (maybe more mature because there isn’t as much drama). As long as he is faithful, loves you, and treats you well that is all that matters.

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