Post # 1
title says it all. ever since i was younger i have never danced. ever. i then danced once with my step father at my moms wedding when i was 10.
i was in a wedding when i was 14 and when it came time for the wedding party dance i literally ran and hid in the bathroom! (someone stepped in for me)
i went to school dances but never danced. i went to a club a couple times but never danced. (then of course i stopped going because whats the point?)
its not that i dont want to dance, i cant. i have no movement. im sure i look like a stiff corpse if i were to try! i so wish i could dance. i wish someone would have tried to teach me when i was younger. and i was never exposed much to dancing.
i look at wedding videos and go to weddings and see everyone dancing then theres me…sitting in my chair watching them all wishing i was out there!
FH is pretty much the same way. we went to his friends wedding a few months ago and a slow song came on and we danced to that. i had no clue what i was doing. good thing he did. but i loved it. then a fast song came on and we left the floor.
now, we could both do funny dancing but not normal stuff. like have you ever seen that episode of Seinfeld where ELAINE dances at the party then no one will talk to her because she was a total spaz? that would be me..here it is if you dont know what im talking about…
BUT what im getting at is this…im worried that if there is no fun dancing and we dont dance that the total night will be boring and not fun and upbeat like i keep seeing in Bees wedding videos!
and now just watching some has made me a little depressed.
help bees is there anything i can do to get over this?
Post # 3
part of enjoying dance is letting go and enjoying moving freely in space as well as…confidence. i would suggest you just crank up some music at home and go. no need to be embarrassed because it’s just you and your ipod (believe me, i do this all the time). you could also look into taking actual dance classes. most major cities have classes for people of all age and experience ranges. if you try it and it’s not for you, then there is no harm in having a dance free wedding. i’ve been to quite a few weddings with no dancing that were equally as memorable and fun!
best of luck!
Post # 4
@emtheartist: we are thinking about taking dance lessons for a choreographed nice first dance and we think that would help in general but at $450 for 5 hours thats just not in our budget!
Post # 5
Are there any places that have local dances in your area? Around here, you can go out for a night of dancing and it usually comes with a free dance lesson! I honestly think that practice, practice, practice is the only thing that will make you more comfortable on the dance floor. It sounds like you are too worried about what you are looking like vs. not enjoying dancing itself.
I think you should start off small. Just start at home and sway back and forth to the beat. If you really are as bad as you say you are (ie: stiff, not able to move) I think it would help if you took a class (even city colleges should have something!) so that you could get some experience and pointers on how to move with the music (so you are comfortable). I really think listening and just bopping to the music is a good start….
Post # 6
Youtube is the most amazing resource, ever. I learned how to put on makeup from youtube. We learned the “classic” dance steps from youtube. We watched the video a couple times and then practiced. The best thing about it is that it’s free!
Post # 7
You could also not have dancing at your reception. I’ve been to one wedding where the bride and groom did not have dancing for that very reason…bride hated to dance and was very self-conscious about dancing, and was afraid that people would force her to dance if they had dancing at all.
That said, I love dancing at weddings, and I think that sometimes weddings without it tend to fizzle out earlier than they otherwise would. Just be prepared that if you don’t have dancing at all, the reception will probably not be as long because there just isn’t as much for people to do.
Post # 8
oracle i jsut feel silly becaus ei know i look akward
buttontoes i never thought of that. i will look int oit.
doingathing i do know that i definitely want dancing. ill just have to get over it and risk looking like im having a seizure on the dance floor!
its my wedding..whos going to make fun of me really? lol
Post # 9
Some of our local clubs have free lessons early in the eveningbefore the crowds arrive.
Also check out local social dance organizations in your area. Many of them also offer free lessons