Post # 1
Hi regular bee going anon
So the story goes like this. One of my best friends and her husband are looking for ways to spice things up. They were always into the idea of doing something in the ”group scenario” context but they are both not comfortable having an actual threesome or seeing each other doing stuff with people they don’t trust. So they decided to do something different. To ask someone watch them have sex. And as you can probably figure out that someone is me.
I took this back to my FI and not only did he say he doesn’t mind but he is totally excited and keeps asking me to do it and tell him all the details lol. So I am really confused. I mainly feel that this is really weird and that I cannot do that. I mean watching people having sex and not doing anything? How would that work? And even if I have my FI’s blessing, this is still being part of a sexual scenario without him and I don’t know how comfortable would I be. On the other hand I can’t lie, the concept is hot and I am really close and comfortable with this friend. If this was five years earlier and we were single and drunk and this was a random guy and she asked me to watch I would say ” yeah , If my schedule permits, I am in”..But now, I don’t know..
So that’s my situation and you don’t have to tell me it’s weird, I know that lol. What do you think I should do? What would you take under consideration if this happened to you?
Thanks in advance.
Post # 2
Go for it! Bring your own toy if you begin to get really turned on. And make sure your FI is close by when it’s time to leave.
Post # 3
Can you ask if you & FI can both watch so it’s not so awkward for you? lol
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
Lol I was wondering what one just watching would do… Being some popcorn ? & no, not for me I’d feel awkward!
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - A court...
I second pp, you both sound comfortable with this so maybe being your SO if they let you?
Post # 6
If it was me, I wouldn’t do it, because I would find it weird. And I think I’d make it weird for everyone, because the expression on my face wouldn’t be yeah, this is hot 😛
But I’m also not into porn. Are you? One could argue that there’s little difference between watching porn without your FI vs watching people in person without him. But one could also argue that this is a slippery slope. What if afterwards they decide they want a threesome?
Whatever you decide OP, good luck to you, your FI, and your friends! 🙂
Post # 7
Oh, god, I wish someone would ask me to do that!!!! Mind letting me do it for you? 😛
Post # 8
Oh! And I vote, bring FI and have sex with him while they have sex. That way you both watch each other and it’s super sexy. (;
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I’d ask to bring my FI along if I were you. It might inadvertantly spice things up for you guys too 😉
Post # 10
Personally I wouldn’t because I think once married, sex should just between the married couple, even if other people aren’t technically involved.
But I think if you are considering it, I’d take FI. You never know, you might end up hooking up too and then all four of you would get a show.
Post # 11
somersetdarling: haha great advice exactly what I would’ve said!
Op I wouldn’t do it bc I feel sex istn supposed to be shared outside of marriage but if theyre into the kinky watching I’m sure they’d love to watch y’all while your watching them!
Post # 12
Wow, I am shocked by how cool the Bees are being.
I would say go for it as long as you are sure it wouldnt be awkward between you and your friend. And also that your FI wouldn’t suddenly become jealous that you were looking at another guy.
But if you are all onboard, it sounds hot to me.
Post # 13
I’m all for mixing it up and getting hot/heavy in the bedroom (or anywhere for that matter), but this… This sounds like the strangest and most awkward thing both during and after. I find it odd that they want a friend to watch without participating… And, also that your husband is so enthusiastic about it. Different strokes for different folks, I guess?
Post # 14
benn there done that…. it is not a good idea… next they will ask you to join.. then of course your FI will want to join.. then there will be feeling of jealousy cause the first guy doesnt want anyone other man touching his girl but he want to touch you… dont do it.. tell them to go to a club.. there are plenty of clubs where you dont have to mix with other couples..
Post # 15
Been there, unless you’re way into the voyeur thing, it’s just not that hot. Porn actors and actresses put on a show because that’s what they’re paid to do. They know what angles look good, they’re fit, shaved, have loads of makeup on and are filmed through a soft filter. In real life, the goal of sex is to enjoy yourself, not to impress someone else. So it’s nothing like ‘watching a live porn’.