They asked me to watch ( proceed at your own risk)

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Go for it! Bring your own toy if you begin to get really turned on. And make sure your FI is close by when it’s time to leave.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Can you ask if you & FI can both watch so it’s not so awkward for you? lol

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Lol I was wondering what one just watching would do… Being some popcorn ? & no, not for me I’d feel awkward! 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I second pp, you both sound comfortable with this so maybe being your SO if they let you? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If it was me, I wouldn’t do it, because I would find it weird. And I think I’d make it weird for everyone,  because the expression on my face wouldn’t be yeah, this is hot 😛

But I’m also not into porn. Are you? One could argue that there’s little difference between watching porn without your FI vs watching people in person without him. But one could also argue that this is a slippery slope. What if afterwards they decide they want a threesome?

Whatever you decide OP, good luck to you, your FI, and your friends! 🙂

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh, god, I wish someone would ask me to do that!!!! Mind letting me do it for you? 😛

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh! And I vote, bring FI and have sex with him while they have sex. That way you both watch each other and it’s super sexy. (;

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

I’d ask to bring my FI along if I were you. It might inadvertantly spice things up for you guys too 😉

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Personally I wouldn’t because I think once married, sex should just between the married couple, even if other people aren’t technically involved.

 

But I think if you are considering it, I’d take FI. You never know, you might end up hooking up too and then all four of you would get a show.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

somersetdarling:  haha great advice exactly what I would’ve said!

Op I wouldn’t do it bc I feel sex istn supposed to be shared outside of marriage but if theyre into the kinky watching I’m sure they’d love to watch y’all while your watching them! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Wow, I am shocked by how cool the Bees are being.

I would say go for it as long as you are sure it wouldnt be awkward between you and your friend. And also that your FI wouldn’t suddenly become jealous that you were looking at another guy.

But if you are all onboard, it sounds hot to me.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I’m all for mixing it up and getting hot/heavy in the bedroom (or anywhere for that matter), but this… This sounds like the strangest and most awkward thing both during and after. I find it odd that they want a friend to watch without participating… And, also that your husband is so enthusiastic about it. Different strokes for different folks, I guess? 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

benn there done that…. it is not a good idea… next they will ask you to join.. then of  course your FI will want to join.. then there will be feeling of jealousy cause the first guy doesnt want anyone other man touching his girl but he want to touch you…  dont do it.. tell them to go to a club.. there are plenty of clubs where you dont have to mix with other couples.. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Been there, unless you’re way into the voyeur thing, it’s just not that hot. Porn actors and actresses put on a show because that’s what they’re paid to do. They know what angles look good, they’re fit, shaved, have loads of makeup on and are filmed through a soft filter. In real life, the goal of sex is to enjoy yourself, not to impress someone else. So it’s nothing like ‘watching a live porn’.

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