Post # 1
My office does birthdays. Any time it’s someone’s birthday we take about an hour out of the afternoon and have cake in the boardroom and sit around chatting about non-work things.
Friday was my birthday. They forgot.
The office manager has a list next to her desk with everyone’s birthday and their favourite cake…would you say something or just let it go?
Post # 2
I would probably say something sly like “what did you do this weekend?” **wait for response and ask follow up questions if necessary **”Oh, that’s nice, we went out of my birthday on Friday at Best Resturant Ever. It’s my favorite restaurant. Other than that, it was pretty low key.”
You can drop the hint, because I am never a “do nothing” type person. However, it’s not demanding a cake or making your business manager feel bad, which they probably will when/if they find out they forgot.
Post # 3
This is why I hate office birthdays. Don’t say anything. The person in charge of dealing with birthdays likely had too much on her plate and forgot. I really doubt it’s personal.
Post # 4
thenewmrsmax: I thought about that, but I don’t want to make people feel bad or have a pity party. The Jr Partner’s was missed last year and he said something about ‘you owe me a cake’ and it was awkward.
He’s also the type of person who mentions his birthday to EVERYONE for the week leading up to it.
I’m the type who remembers birthdays. I know everyone’s birthday and I always come in and say ‘Happy Birthday’ to people on the day, so I think that’s what makes it sting a little that mine was missed.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say anything. I’m sure it was a mistake.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t…all it is going to lead to is an awkward belated bday birthday party.
Post # 7
MsGinkgo: Don’t be a dick about it but you could mention it as in a, “hey, I’m not complaining but my birthday was last Friday…” Kind of way.
Post # 8
It’s an awkward and rather hurtful situation but worse, is the likelihood of the even more awkward belated birthday celebration if you remind everyone about Friday. Only there’s nothing worse than a guilt-ridden “after the fact” sort of celebration.
Post # 9
MsGinkgo: HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! This is why I don’t like office birthdays either. I probably wouldn’t say anything like a PP mentioned. It’d be kind of awkward as a “forgot your bday celebration”. And I totally get what you’re saying about you’re not the type to forget. Welcome to my world! And I truly hope you had a good one (besides the dorks at work)!
Post # 10
Happy Birthday!!!! This actually happened to me at my office a few years ago. They had cake for someone’s birthday in the lunchroom and it happened to be my birthday too. Nobody except my office mate wished me a happy birthday. I would ask what people did the weekend and then say something you did for your birthday. My office doesn’t do individual birthdays anymore. We do a monthly cake for birthdays instead.
Post # 11
Steampunkbride: this is exactly what I DON’T want to happen (but I do want my cake….)
LarLa: that’s what FH’s office does. They do a cake once a month for everyone who has a birthday that month.
I’m sure someone will clue in eventually and someone will ask why I didn’t say anything.
Post # 12
RedHeadKel: LarLa: Thanks for the wishes 🙂
Post # 13
As long as you don’t make it awkward, other people shouldn’t feel awkward. If I was a coworker, I may wonder why you waited until after your birthday to mention it instead of on the day, but other than that, there’s no reason to hide it. Just don’t bring it up in an “oh yeah I’m hyper aware that you guys ignored my birthay lolz” type of way, more of a “This is what I did for my birthday, yay!!” type of way.
Post # 15
MsGinkgo: birthdays and the acknowledgement of them stop being important after the age of 12. I wouldn’t say anything. Things get busy, especially at work, and while it sucks that your day was overlooked, it’s just going to make things super awkward with a belated party and people feeling like they owe you something or have to celebrate with you. Let it go.