They hate my cooking. :( VENT

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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10495 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It doesn’t sound like your cooking is the issue, but rather the meal itself.  Cabbage isn’t for everyone.  FIL is a great cook, but I find many of his dishes are too strong for me – onions, raw garlic, etc.  It’s like being too spicy, although the spices are different.  It sounds like you have a similar issue.

Find out what the like, and you can switch it up a bit, but doing something similar.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Floofy:  I’m sorry to hear you feel this way, but I do agree with AB Bride  on this one. Have you tried asking them what they would like for dinner? I know you say you don’t particularly love cooking, but maybe if you cook something they really want for dinner and they enjoy it you may feel happier about cooking certain things.

Post # 6
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Worker bee

Floofy:  If anything they just sound super fussy! Have you tried to ask them how they look a certain thing cooked, or to show you how they do it? I don’t know many fussy eaters, but some people (especially people who have always cooked food for themselves and like it a certain way) just like it in one specific way and anything else seems foreign to them. 

Post # 7
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10495 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Maybe try cooking with one of them some day.  They might do something like go heavy on the salt (esp. if they like the packaged stuff), or maybe one of them has weird food handling issues or something.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Cant lie, I think I’d be pretty pissed if I made a meal, especially if I even made one of things I know they eat and they don’t touch it and then make something else.  Do you live with them or do you just cook while visiting?  Honestly, I’d probably just not bother making enough food for eeryone, or be prepared to have myself some leftovers if I cook.  They jsut sounds really picky and rude if you ask me.  When someone makes you a freaking meal, unless you’re deathly allergic to it, you eat some of it…  geez.

I’ve been thinking a bit about when I visit my inlaws this Xmas too.  I was thinking I would plan some meals and cook cause they do a lot of frozen meals or take out which I don’t really like eating cause it’s so unhealthy.  And I thought I’d expose them to some of the kind of food we eat at home – I love to make thai food and lots of stir fries (I’m chinese, they’re caucasian from the south)…. now I’m worried they’ll hate it!

Post # 11
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10495 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Floofy:  Let us know how it goes.  I hope it’s just some simple quirk that’s an easy fix 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Floofy:  That does sound very frustrating! Do they cook for themselves? Maybe you could cook together with them, like have a family barbeque or something where they are involved in the process, so you can get an idea of how they prepare things? 

When you say meat and potatoes, is it the cuts of meat that they are unfamiliar with and therefore decide they don’t like? 

I must admit I love to cook and am an adventurous eater, so fussy eaters confuse me.

Post # 13
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2726 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Floofy:  It sounds like they just have bad taste in food and prefer everything bland and only how they are used to eating it. Some people are like that, I think they will only be happy cooking for themselves.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Floofy:  I’ll be honest, as someone that cooks a lot (i.e. bake my own breads, make potsticker wraps from scratch, etc), I can get pretty particular about other people cooking.  I will always try a small portion and attempt to finish my plate (mostly to not upset the person cooking), but there are certain things that just make me cringe when it comes to less experienced cooks (i.e. breaking pasta to fit it in the pot, over cooking pasta, not searing meats, etc).  It doesn’t make me think less of the person that’s cooking, and I appreciate the effort, but sometimes the food just doesn’t taste great.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Floofy:  for some reason I missed your earlier update about the fact that you live with them and would try cooking with them. You mentioned frozen pizza, do they eat a lot of processed food? That might affect what they are used to and what they like to eat. 

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