They invited us, do we have to invite them?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Trish0707:  Wedding invitations are not reciprocal, so you have no obligation to invite them.

Post # 3
2575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Trish0707:  If you guys don’t hang out/talk at all and are not family, then it is perfectly fine not to invite them to your wedding. If I were you, I would actually be more weirded out by them inviting you seeing as you don’t really hang out.

Also, 315 guests? Holy moly. I don’t think DH and I know 315 people combined, lol.

Post # 4
7703 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

don’t feel obligated.  we were invited to many weddings.  we wanted our numbers around 120 so there are a lot of people who couldn’t be invited.



Post # 5
2462 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Nope, you don’t have to invite them at all. And don’t feel bad about it!

Post # 6
631 posts
Busy bee

Trish0707:  By the sounds of it, you have lots of friends! I’m not sure I know 300 people, lol. Perhaps the couple in question doesn’t have as many friends and so they are extending their invitations to a wider group than you intend to. 

You don’t need to feel bad for not inviting them (though it’s sweet that you do!). Every wedding is different – some include everyone the couple has ever encountered and others are more intimate. The choice is yours and you shouldn’t feel guilty!

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