Post # 1
Hi Bees!<br />FI and I have large familes and a diverse group of friends because we were dating for SIX YEARS before we got engaged… Our guest list is already at 315 people, while we were hoping budget-wise to keep the number closer to 225-250. We have had to pick apart our list and there are some friends on there that I would love to include but we are not sure we can.
Another couple we know, a guy that FI when to High School with, is getting married about 4 months before us and they just sent us an invitation to their wedding. We are not close with this couple, FI doesn’t even talk to the guy at all, but the bride has messaged me about wedding planning/sharing advice and vendors. This isn’t a couple that we would call to meet for dinner, or even text to hang out at all. We appreciate the invite but it’s awkward because we are not planning to invite them to ours. We do not want to go to their wedding, and will not attend. Do we just RSVP that we are sorry we can’t make it, and then go about our wedding as planned without inviting them?
I feel bad. We only want close friends there, and there are people I am closer to that I would rather include if we can have more guests.
Post # 2
Trish0707: Wedding invitations are not reciprocal, so you have no obligation to invite them.
Post # 3
Trish0707: If you guys don’t hang out/talk at all and are not family, then it is perfectly fine not to invite them to your wedding. If I were you, I would actually be more weirded out by them inviting you seeing as you don’t really hang out.
Also, 315 guests? Holy moly. I don’t think DH and I know 315 people combined, lol.
Post # 4
don’t feel obligated. we were invited to many weddings. we wanted our numbers around 120 so there are a lot of people who couldn’t be invited.
Post # 5
Nope, you don’t have to invite them at all. And don’t feel bad about it!
Post # 6
Trish0707: By the sounds of it, you have lots of friends! I’m not sure I know 300 people, lol. Perhaps the couple in question doesn’t have as many friends and so they are extending their invitations to a wider group than you intend to.
You don’t need to feel bad for not inviting them (though it’s sweet that you do!). Every wedding is different – some include everyone the couple has ever encountered and others are more intimate. The choice is yours and you shouldn’t feel guilty!
Post # 7
somethingblue04: MrsNewDay: I know, it’s really a lot of people and I’m trying not to worry about it because I know that not all will be able to attend. We both have large families. We aren’t even having any kids and our number is still that high! We’ve just been together so long we have a lot of supportive people in our lives we want there. I’d rather not have acquaintances or someone that I may feel like I have to impress or anything.<br />Thanks everyone for making me feel better about this.