Post # 1
So I’m 30 – I’m just referencing back to high school when they tell you that condoms won’t ruin the mood and they’re not a nuisance and blah blah blah.
I was on the pill from before the time I was actually sexually active, they gave it to me because I used to have excruitiating periods. This led me to be rather careless when it came to using condoms – I did occasionally but I wasn’t really very good about it (oddly…being drunk seemed to increase the likelihood that I would use one…go figure). – wow, i just made myself sound really promiscuous, I promise, I wasn’t that bad.
ANYWAYS – about 2 years ago I was told I shouldn’t be on hormonal birth control anymore because I get very occasional migraines with an Aura and that drives my risk for stroke way up. FH and I talked about it, and even if the risk is really pretty small, neither of us want to take it and we decided to switch to condoms. I hate it. The spontenaity is gone – sneaking into the shower takes more effort, having a quickie on the couch, not so easy…
Anyone else have to switch to condoms and find they’re a pain? Anyone have a reliable alternative to condoms that doesn’t involve hormones?
Post # 3
I haven’t tried it because I’m totally a Pill girl, but maybe a copper IUD?
Post # 4
UGH I am in the same boat- I have been on bc for a long time. I have always done the nuva ring, but my SO is too big for it to be comfortable, so I went off of it. I tried a few diffrent pills, but they make me super emotional or phsyically sick and I hate them. We decided to go back to condoms…I hate it. He likes it because he thinks he doesn’t last long enough skin-to skin (ive never had an issue with him cumming too soon) anyway I find solice in the fact that condoms are less effective and at 30 i totally have baby fever…don’t tell my him that 🙂
Post # 5
the pullout method? lol i laugh, but it’s pretty good if you time it right and all
Post # 6
I stopped taking the pill about 6 months ago for various reasons so we are using condoms as well. They suck. However, since we are planning on having kids in the next couple of years we are just going to keep on using them until it’s time to TTC. No advice for you, but I feel your pain.
Post # 7
@futuremrsk18: Don’t trust FH on that one AT ALL and we are not baby ready yet
@angeluscado: Dr’s I’ve talked to still really don’t seem to like IUD’s for people who have not yet had children but plan to (and we will likely be TTC within a year of the wedding, we just really want to be married first)
@Tatertot2003: FH didn’t LOVE the nuvaring, he didn’t like that he could feel it and he actually pulled it out a few times but he dealt with it because it made me less crazy than the pills and he was less worried than when I was on the pill (i’m a forgetter).
Post # 8
I was told the exact same thing, as I suffer migraines with aura also. My doctor let me go onto the mini pill, which is similar to the regular pill, I just have to make sure I take it at the same time every day, or it loses its effectiveness.
It’s supposed to be better for migraine sufferers because it only has one of the hormones in it, unlike the other pill which has both!!
Post # 9
@MsGinkgo: Wish I had something to add, but since we became monogamous, we have been pretty careless. We pullout, but that’s about it. 4 years going strong! lol.
Post # 10
@MsGinkgo: I feel you. Condoms are terrible 🙁 I tried to go off of the NuvaRing, which meant condoms, and it is so much less enjoyable 🙁 SO can’t even get off in condoms.
Post # 11
@MsGinkgo: I know what you mean. We use condoms and it’s blah. But the potential alternative right now wouldn’t be good.
Post # 12
@MsGinkgo: You’re probably talking to the wrong doctors if they don’t like to do IUDs. I recently switched OBGYNs and when I brought it up she started talking about how ridiculous it is that it’s not standard birth control everywhere for people in a monogamous relationship. In many other countries, it’s the prevalent form of birth control. Putting it into a woman who hasn’t had children is more difficult because they have to dilate you and usually use local anesthesia(I.e. novocain) but it’s as effective as bcp and doesn’t have the side effects. My new doctor also told me that a lot of the older doctors, especially the men, are really merciless and rough when it comes to putting one in so keep that in mind.
The copper IUDs can make your period worse but the hormonal IUDs have all the benefits of regular hormonal bcp without the side effects because the hormones are localized to your uterus. I’m getting one inserted once my other problems are figured out and I’m really excited about it because I hate condoms too!
Post # 13
What about spermacide? Is that an option? I know it’s still something to remember to use, but maybe not as much of a pain as condoms? (and maybe chart and use condoms around ovulation for extra peace of mind?)
Post # 14
@FutureMrsAJG: While for most women, hormonal IUD’s don’t cause the same symptoms as the pill, I can from personal experience tell you that this is not always the case. I was taken off the pill because of excruciating constant migraines and I got a Mirena and low and behold the migraines came back full force and didn’t even stop after having it removed, it basically started a terrible migraine cycle that I had to suffer with for a long time. To women with migraine issues I’d highly HIGHLY suggest not to use any form of hormonal birth control, no matter how low the hormone dosage is.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
IUD baby! Something like 50%+ of OBGYNs have them even though only 10% of the general public has them… that says a lot to me. The “don’t have it before you’ve had kids” thing is totally outdated. I have the Paraguard hormone-free one. It hurts going in but it’s so so worth it to have something where I don’t EVER have to think about birth control, I have no artificial hormones, and it’s good for TEN years!!!
Post # 16
Thirding the IUD. The idea that they are only suitable for women who have had children is now wildly outdated, and if your doctor gives you that excuse, you need a new doctor. I have a Mirena, which is hormonal (though it isolates the hormones to your uterus, unlike BC), but Paragard would be an option also. I think it’s worth it for as little as a year…taking a pill is such a hassle, and if the pill is not an option for you, it’s all the more worth it. Just a short (though admittedly painful) appointment and you are good for up to five years.