They lied in health class – condoms suck

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I haven’t tried it because I’m totally a Pill girl, but maybe a copper IUD?

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

UGH I am in the same boat- I have been on bc for a long time. I have always done the nuva ring, but my SO is too big for it to be comfortable, so I went off of it. I tried a few diffrent pills, but they make me super emotional or phsyically sick and I hate them. We decided to go back to condoms…I hate it. He likes it because he thinks he doesn’t last long enough skin-to skin (ive never had an issue with him cumming too soon) anyway I find solice in the fact that condoms are less effective and at 30 i totally have baby fever…don’t tell my  him that 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

the pullout method? lol i laugh, but it’s pretty good if you time it right and all

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I stopped taking the pill about 6 months ago for various reasons so we are using condoms as well. They suck. However,  since we are planning on having kids in the next couple of years we are just going to keep on using them until it’s time to TTC. No advice for you,  but I feel your pain.  

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I was told the exact same thing, as I suffer migraines with aura also. My doctor let me go onto the mini pill, which is similar to the regular pill, I just have to make sure I take it at the same time every day, or it loses its effectiveness.

It’s supposed to be better for migraine sufferers because it only has one of the hormones in it, unlike the other pill which has both!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsGinkgo:  Wish I had something to add, but since we became monogamous, we have been pretty careless. We pullout, but that’s about it. 4 years going strong! lol.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@MsGinkgo:  I feel you. Condoms are terrible 🙁 I tried to go off of the NuvaRing, which meant condoms, and it is so much less enjoyable 🙁 SO can’t even get off in condoms.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MsGinkgo:  I know what you mean.  We use condoms and it’s blah.  But the potential alternative right now wouldn’t be good. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

@MsGinkgo:  You’re probably talking to the wrong doctors if they don’t like to do IUDs. I recently switched OBGYNs and when I brought it up she started talking about how ridiculous it is that it’s not standard birth control everywhere for people in a monogamous relationship. In many other countries, it’s the prevalent form of birth control. Putting it into a woman who hasn’t had children is more difficult because they have to dilate you and usually use local anesthesia(I.e. novocain) but it’s as effective as bcp and doesn’t have the side effects. My new doctor also told me that a lot of the older doctors, especially the men, are really merciless and rough when it comes to putting one in so keep that in mind. 

The copper IUDs can make your period worse but the hormonal IUDs have all the benefits of regular hormonal bcp without the side effects because the hormones are localized to your uterus. I’m getting one inserted once my other problems are figured out and I’m really excited about it because I hate condoms too!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What about spermacide? Is that an option?  I know it’s still something to remember to use, but maybe not as much of a pain as condoms? (and maybe chart and use condoms around ovulation for extra peace of mind?)

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@FutureMrsAJG:  While for most women, hormonal IUD’s don’t cause the same symptoms as the pill, I can from personal experience tell you that this is not always the case. I was taken off the pill because of excruciating constant migraines and I got a Mirena and low and behold the migraines came back full force and didn’t even stop after having it removed, it basically started a terrible migraine cycle that I had to suffer with for a long time. To women with migraine issues I’d highly HIGHLY suggest not to use any form of hormonal birth control, no matter how low the hormone dosage is.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

IUD baby!  Something like 50%+ of OBGYNs have them even though only 10% of the general public has them… that says a lot to me.  The “don’t have it before you’ve had kids” thing is totally outdated.  I have the Paraguard hormone-free one.  It hurts going in but it’s so so worth it to have something where I don’t EVER have to think about birth control, I have no artificial hormones, and it’s good for TEN years!!!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Thirding the IUD. The idea that they are only suitable for women who have had children is now wildly outdated, and if your doctor gives you that excuse, you need a new doctor. I have a Mirena, which is hormonal (though it isolates the hormones to your uterus, unlike BC), but Paragard would be an option also. I think it’s worth it for as little as a year…taking a pill is such a hassle, and if the pill is not an option for you, it’s all the more worth it. Just a short (though admittedly painful) appointment and you are good for up to five years.

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