- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
This is really random and kinda pointless, but I’m just really happy and felt like I had to share Kinda lengthy, bear with me!
Starting off, before my Fiance and I got together, I had heard that his parents are hard to impress, particularly his mother. They’re both the type to keep something like that to themselves and sort of keep the “if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all” mentality; in fact he told me that after he and his last serious girlfriend split up, his parents expressed that they hadn’t really liked her and they were a bit glad that he and his ex had not gotten married (they were engaged). He was completely surprised (since he hadn’t heard anything from them either way until that point).
So of course, meeting them freaked me out. I knew based on what he said that they wouldn’t treat me like crap even if they didn’t like me, but I’d be thinking about the underlying “Do they or don’t they?” the whole time. The meeting went fine and I saw them a few more times before I came home (we’re in an LDR, but lived together for a while while I was studying in the UK).
I always got the impression that his dad liked me, but I was never really sure about his mom. His dad made efforts to come see my Fiance and I from time to time, but his mom didn’t as much (this is mostly due to her working, not rudeness…his father is retired but his mother still works).
But yesterday, I found out some great news! I was talking on Skype with Fiance and we were talking about parents (specifically mine, as he hasn’t met them and is sorta nervous about meeting my dad). He told me casually “Well at least we know my parents really like you” and I immediately demanded for him to relinquish the info he knew. He said he had been talking to his dad and his dad had asked how I was doing. Fiance said I was fine, and his dad responded “Well good because you know, your mother and I think she’s a really great girl, we like her a lot.”
I had really been thinking about this a lot lately because we haven’t told them we’re engaged yet (we agreed to wait until I was there in person again, so we’re going to tell them when I visit in a couple months) and was worried they might have a problem with it for some reason. But I don’t think that’ll be the case, and I’m really relieved!