(Closed) They might use the baby name that I wanted….

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

You don’t have the right to use a name any more than your SIL does, so while I understand that you’re upset, you should drop it (especially since you’re not pregnant) and let it go. It’s fine to use the same name as a first or middle name, regardless of how they use it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

@Brunette314:

Had you told her your favorite name anytime leading up to this decision of hers?

@Mrs Grape:

Not sure I agree with it being okay to use the same name as a first for two children in the same family. Maybe a second name though.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I understand being upset since you told her about the name that you love. But I also think that there’s nothing you can do about it, just hope she picks another name! I think it would be fine to use it as a first name if they use it for a middle name.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Oneeleven: I think it’s fine because there are tons of people who have more than one Michael, Jennifer, etc. in the same family, relatively close. I don’t think anyone will really care, but that’s just me!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@Brunette314:

Then I think you have a right to be pissed actually and I would totally say something.  Maybe suggest SHE choose something similar.

That’s just me. I am a bit of a sh*t disturber though,.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Maybe she forgot? I would had said something when she told you.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my best friend was my Grandma and I ALWAYS wanted to name my child after her.  My SIL named her 5th little girl that name and I was so mad! I feel your pain!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@Brunette314:

There is good sh*t disturbing and bad sh*t disturbing.  This is something you care about, so it may be worth it.

Although, when you really boil it down, it’s not like you can stop her. 

But I wonder if she has a bitchy history if she is choosing that name partly out of spite?

I myself would have responded with something along the lines of “oh you’re not very imaginative now are you” and let her run with that

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Since you said the nickname for the name you like is Maddy, I’m going to assume the name you like is fairly common, like Madison or Madeline. In which case, it’s completely possible you liking it has nothing to do with her choosing it; it’s just popular and she likes it. 

Ultimately, it might suck, but since you’re not yet married or expecting, there’s not much you can say to her. “I MAY one day have a girl and MIGHT use that name so I’d prefer you not use it” won’t really fly. Just sit tight and stay quiet and hope she chooses another name on her own- which she might very well do. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Unfortunately you don’t have a right to reserve a name unless you’re pregnant and have chosen a name already and shared it with others. If you talked names with her years ago, she probably doesn’t remember what names you specifically discussed or even that you did talk about baby names. I couldn’t tell you what names my SIL likes and we just talked about them a few months ago. I’d let it go and move on.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry that really sucks :/ If I were you I would try to let it go though! If you told her over two years ago , she probably don’t even remember where the seed was planted for her to love that name! And I don’t know if it is her just being spiteful, that’ s a heck of a grudge, b/c that little baby will have that name for eternity, you would think the mom would have to REALLY really love that name.

Maybe if in the future you actually have a baby with that gender to use that name, it can be used as a middle name or the opposite that your SIL uses. And who know’s she might change her mind.

Hope this helps !

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